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To think your Baby Registry list should be limited after #1

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Outside9 · 14/11/2025 13:06

I often receive baby registry lists as I'm in that phase of life. It shocks me how so many of my friends and relatives, who are on their 2nd or 3rd child+, have such extensive registry lists you would think it was their 1st child.

(Obviously this doesn't necessarily apply to those with big age gaps or surprise accidents).

I have one friend who is having their 2nd, (1st just turned 4) and she has everything from prams, to baby bath etc. My cousin, who about to have her 4th child in (oldest child is 5!!l ) also has something similar. When I had my 2nd, people thought it was strange when I said all I really needed was nappies and wipes. Think it will be the same 3rd time round.

Granted there are standalone items that are needed; naturally you need an additional car seat, or the bottles and changing matt are worn out. But outside of that, if you knew you always intended to have more than one child, surely you should've kept all the baby stuff?

It's Friday, so may as well kill time by getting torn apart by this section. AIBU?

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MeganM3 · 14/11/2025 13:23

Not a UK thing. Never seen this. Most similar thing as a babyshower, or a babyshower where all invitees are encouraged to chip in for a joint gift (pram)

BoxesBoxesEverywhere · 14/11/2025 13:22

Baby registry list?! Never heard of such a thing, how ridiculous.
I've two kids btw, since when do you make a list of things for people to buy you for your own baby?!
If they want to get you something off their own back, ok of course that's nice, thank you and all that, but to write a list of what you want? Eh, no.

ethelredonagoodday · 14/11/2025 13:21

I’m in the uk and one of my friend’s daughters recently had a gift list for her new baby. I love her to pieces but I didn’t participate in the list.

WeepingAngelInTheTardis · 14/11/2025 13:20

I would simply refuse. I reused my first borns for my second born. All I needed I was a car seat & cot mattress. Just greedy.

Olinguita · 14/11/2025 13:18

The only people I know in the UK who have done a baby registry are Americans... Maybe it's A Thing in that culture which is slowly making its way over here in the way like elaborate Halloween celebrations are?
I would be a bit 🤔 about a baby registry for a second or third child, especially if the family were affluent/appeared financially comfortable.
I personally would have been mortified to do a baby registry including for a first child.

takealettermsjones · 14/11/2025 13:16

I do go to baby showers and I take a nice gift but if I were ever presented with a "baby registry" I think I'd come down with a mysterious illness on baby shower day 🤣

ninjahamster · 14/11/2025 13:15

Are you in the US? We don’t do that here in the uk thankfully!

IamIfeel · 14/11/2025 13:13

Are you in the UK? Because a registry is not something I've ever seen for any baby with any of my friends or family.

Surely the British attitude is if you want it, bloody buy it yourself 😂

WildCherryBlossom · 14/11/2025 13:12

😱
Baby Registry List!?!?

Oreosareawful · 14/11/2025 13:12

I've never heard of this either!

HansHolbein · 14/11/2025 13:11

Eh?

ELMhouse · 14/11/2025 13:10

Are you in UK? I’ve never heard of this.

MarmaladeMarxist · 14/11/2025 13:08

I've never even heard of a "baby registry list" Confused

Who are these people and how do they send out this list?

Comefromaway · 14/11/2025 13:08

What fresh hell is this? Baby registry lists! Really.

When I had my first my work colleagues did a whipround and bought me some baby clothes and a bath thing of their choice and my parents and in laws said they would put some money towards a pram & car seat.

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