Parents bought sister a house

Agree - although in our case, this was done whilst we were still young and single and there was no hint of illness. She simply chose the favourite child.

Did your parents get noticeably richer between your teenage years and your younger sisters teenage years? It's something that shapes their attitude to money if they grew up with more wealth

My neighbour is in the same situation, but she is the carer of both her elderly parents, the brother lives miles away and has very little in way of relationship with any of them (his choice, years ago). Only fair for her as she's given up her life to look after them and no chance to buy her own and build her own life. It's a trade off but she shouldn't feel resentment imo, her choice?

My parents signed over their house to my sister years ago. My sister now resents that she has done all the care towards her death (lots of other issues too) but will happily reap the rewards.

Mmm there's no way to do something like this that isn't massively risking resentment.

All children should be treated the same. Am sorry, understand your resentment and for the record, you shouldn't have to ask, they should be aware that their other children may feel very left out and undervalued someway.

My mum, despite not having seen her bad son for 30 odd years, still wanted him named in the will. When she passed, my dad was going to write him out, I asked him not to as mum always prided herself in treating us all the same and to respect her wishes, so dad reluctantly agreed. When dad died, the money went to us all, much to my estranged brothers shock! This is how to parent imo.

My parents have done similar. I resent my sibling as a result and my feelings for my parents have been shattered tbh. They clearly literally value her more than me. I’ve stepped way back now and have a superficial relationship with the lot of them.

Closed mouths don't get fed. Start asking, or just patiently await your inheritance.
Getting mad makes a blind bit of difference to what your parents will/can do with their money.

Oh wow. Yeah that’s very unfair. I would be speaking to your parents and potentially she pays it back when the Will is divided up.

There is an old saying
' if you don't ask, you don't get '

However you may find in years to come that they have amended their will as a result of your sister asking.

You seem to be miffed more with your younger DS. It's not her fault her parents gifted the money. If you want to raise it, you should speak to them.

are you sure it is never pay it back? Not just don’t worry right now till your house is sold?

PP’s point still stands. They may be sorting out their finances, rearranging stuff to avoid inheritance tax etc, and may have plans to make similar gifts to you and your other sister.
Talk to them about it before getting pissed off!

I would have a conversation with them.

Similar (ish) hapenned to me. My brother couldn't afford to buy on his own so my parents bought his house jointly with him. They paid half outright and he had a mortgage on his half. When he later got married my parents gifted him and my SIL their half as a wedding present, to value of around 100k. Plus paid for their wedding. They also gave me 5k towards my wedding.

My husband and I need to do up our home but quotes came back much higher than expected. My mum asked me about when building work might start and I said we were going to have to hold off for a couple years to save more. Her response was 'why, when we have your 100k sitting here ready for whenever you needed it, but you and your DH seem to take such pride in doing your journey off your own hard work we didn't want to get in the way of that, and our will is written to reflect you getting more as your brother had a big chunk already'. My money equal to my brother was always there, I just had to ask for it. I always just assumed they gave my brother more as he has generally struggled more and needed it more, and I didn't have a big issue with that. And yes I have pride in what DH and I have acheived, and after watching my Dad build up from absolutely nothing and the confidence that gave him in himself, I just figured he wanted same for me, and that's why he never offered me the money. Plus after the wonderful childhood I had I never felt like I was owed anything.

I can understand the posters suggesting you need to just ask. Which i agree with.

However, OP has a right to be upset because the parents are now fully aware that one DD has had preferential treatment. They should be actively reassuring the other DDs that they will endeavour to ensure it equals out in future through gifts or inheritance. Or admit that youngest DD has bled them dry!

Have you had a conversation with your Dsis who was bought the house, how she feels about this?

YANBU. Sounds like your younger sister has been spoilt her whole life and potentially favoured?

It isn’t right after having paid for her wedding and new house, you and your other sister were gifted nothing.

You and your elder sister will need to speak with your parents because this will breed resentment and inevitably create a rift.

Also, them having gifted the money for wedding and house now, is actually more value than if they gift you the same amount later on, say in 20 years time.

Your parents seem to have enough common sense to have made so much money over their lives, yet don’t seem to understand the inequality in all of this. Very odd.

Providing they don’t pass away in the next 7 years, it’ll avoid IHT. Talk to them to see if they have a plan to avoid it for you and your sister as well.

Older sister and OP have more self-respect than little sister, I would say. The parents should be making it plain that this huge gift will be allowed for in revised wills.

You have no right to feel resentful when you haven’t even asked. Grow some balls and ask for help.

If you don’t, this is on you, not your parents or younger sister.

so why didnt you ask?