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Worried sick in hospital with DS

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stitty · 14/11/2025 05:11

a week and a half ago my 8m old was eating toast in his high chair while I was sat infront of him watching him of course. He started to gag and was struggling with a big bit of toast that I could see at the back of his throat, it wouldn’t go down and it also wouldn’t come out. In a panic I pulled him out of his high chair to do back blows. It came to the front of his mouth I pulled it out all was good. When I pulled him out the high chair in a hurry his thigh got caught on the high chair tray. He didn’t cry so I thought nothing of it but noticed the bruise the next day. (It’s about the size of a 5p coin) DS was fine in himself so I didn’t seek medical attention.

fast forward to today DS had his 8m HV review and she noted down that he had a bruise and asked how, I told her and she said these things happen etc. later on she called me and said as he is non mobile (not walking yet) her boss has said she needs to call social services and refer us.

Around 9pm I get a call from emergency social services requesting I take him straight to a&e to have a top to toe check done by a consultant. I got to a&e and the dr said it’s tiny and no other marks he’s fine. Then sent the report to SS. SS then request we go to the ward and get signed of by a consultant on the ward before we can leave. Obviously midnight by now so no consultant available but the junior doctor checked him and said SS have reported ‘multiple marks on the body’ there’s not multiple. It’s just the one bruise. Dr noted down one small bruise and a little redness in anus area - he has that almost always as he’s on comfort milk so has wet poos. It’s not a rash as such but can be a little red if he’s pooed a few times in the day.

the Junior dr requested we stay here so the consultant can see my son and ‘relevant authorities’ decide what next. I am worried out of my mind. He’s never had any marks on him before and we have seen the GP multiple times through his life where they’ve stripped him down and they’ve seen nothing.

I suffer with PP anxiety as it is and I’m spiralling that SS think I’m some evil mother and would hurt my child purposely and they’ll take him away from me. Has anyone been through this? Please tell me everything was fine and we will go home soon with our lovely DS 😢

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PenguinTimtam · 14/11/2025 06:13

GreenGodiva · 14/11/2025 05:44

Oh op, I hope you are home soon. I know this is inconvenient and may seem OTT , especially as you are clearly a very good mum. But I’d rather the social services and drs were incredibly thorough for 1000 children that turned out to be at zero risk of harm, than have even one child die from neglect or abuse.

I’d say that by doing this they’re risking the opposite, I really wouldn’t be keen on accepting well child checks given this overreach.

NearlyDec · 14/11/2025 06:10

Henbags · 14/11/2025 06:05

I’ve completely edited my post because I misread “thigh” as “thing” and was highly confused! Please ignore 😂

Edited

The HV isn’t seeing a penis?! She say a bruise on his thigh. The paedetrician who had to check for other bruises saw him completely naked bacause that’s their job.

OP, I think anyone would feel incredibly stresed in this situation. I’m sure it’s just because he is non walking and has a bruise. If he is crawling then he isn’t non mobile so if he is crawling get that recorded on paper worker.

Henbags · 14/11/2025 06:05

I’ve completely edited my post because I misread “thigh” as “thing” and was highly confused! Please ignore 😂

Natsku · 14/11/2025 05:49

I'm sorry you must be very worried but if there's nothing more to it you'll be able to go home once the consultant has signed off. I know how stressful it is, when DD was a toddler I had to spend 4 days in the hospital with her while she underwent a thorough investigation because my ex and his parents decided to accuse me of abuse and added new accusations each time an investigation showed nothing. But as horrible as that time was, I'd rather go through it again than have a genuinely at risk child go without investigation.

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stitty · 14/11/2025 05:49

I am a young mum (early 20s) so perhaps that contributes to them thinking this could be an emergency and something serious!

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Blueberrymuffinsforthewin · 14/11/2025 05:49

I can't reassure you from a parents point of view however I work in A&E and more recently there's been a big change in how we look after children under 1. Any injury has to be referred to the children's wards for discharge to be signed off by a consultant. Just continue to be open and honest.

Beedeeoh · 14/11/2025 05:44

If there's genuinely nothing more to this then that's poor practice on behalf of social services, it's not an emergency and you shouldn't have been asked to go in the middle of the night, it's disproportionate. I hope it's all sorted for you quickly in the morning.

GreenGodiva · 14/11/2025 05:44

Oh op, I hope you are home soon. I know this is inconvenient and may seem OTT , especially as you are clearly a very good mum. But I’d rather the social services and drs were incredibly thorough for 1000 children that turned out to be at zero risk of harm, than have even one child die from neglect or abuse.

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stitty · 14/11/2025 05:40

@Terrytheweasel very stressed indeed. More so for Ds who’s a very light sleeper and keeps waking crying due to the noise of the ward. We can’t have the door shut as apparently that’s protocol for safeguarding concerns😢

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Terrytheweasel · 14/11/2025 05:29

I’m sure they’ll let you go soon without any further investigation (unless there’s more back story). She was just doing her job as are the hospital and ultimately, it’s important that they have these checks in place for the protection of the many children who are being abused. I can imagine it’s incredibly stressful though. It’s crazy that they’ve done this in the middle of the night!