To assume all that endorse the ‘let them’ saying are working for a MLM

There's a lot of threads on here, I just wouldn't have the energy to insert myself into all of them.

I'm honestly surprised by how many people have not heard of MLM. It's everywhere and has been for many years. I'm guessing the OP is also used to seeing it everywhere too and that's why they didn't put in a long explanation of it in their post.
But then I quite often find myself looking at a post and thinking why didn't I know about this? I think there would be people surprised that I hadn't heard of the thing, whatever it was. So I shouldn't be surprised by those who don't know about MLM, and it's perhaps a reminder to all that not everyone lives the same life and a bit of explanation might be a good thing.

Im of the view that a thread on a mundane chat forum is akin to someone chatting in the kitchen at work or the pub.

Someone mentions something, you say 'oh whats that then, I havent heard of that'?

The person starting the conversation describes it so you can engage

What they dont do, is say 'well look it up and dont join in with our discussion if you dont know what we're talking about'.

Its chit chat. Most people are able to engage by explaining what they're talking about.

Well I know what it is know because of this thread…..I guess I don’t know 100% they are unrelated but I would be surprised if say for example Millie mackintosh who has family and personal wealth needs to do MLM

My take on the let them theory was more to do what’s right for you, say for example don’t choose a job to please your parents, don’t stay in a relationship because you are worried what others will think, don’t follow your dreams to travel/start a business/move to a new area because you are worried people will think you are silly.

i can see how people would use it to be unkind/selfish but she does cover that in the book.

😂

I listened to the Mel Robbins podcast episode about the let them theory as it came up on my Spotify homepage. As somewhat of an overthinker and control freak (excellent combo, I know) I found some points useful although there's a lot of crossover with the sphere of control theory, or at least for the points that resonated with me. There were an awful lot of caveats.

I've never been involved in an MLM and wouldn't buy from one so I've had little interaction with them, however from what I do know, I can imagine Mel Robbins would be somewhat of a figurehead based on her persona and the type of content she produces. So it would make sense to me that a lot of MLM members (?) are touting the same lines she is.

it plays out differently ime often a creative of some kind- interior designer (seem to be a favourite), an artist, a photographer of a particular style of photography, consultant in personal style

no one is directly talking about earnings (doesn't often seem to be much regardless how successful they claim to be) as its just not the done thing

I know what an mlm is though not involved with one. I’ve not heard of “let them” being a coined phrase as such. However I like it as a concept.

I don’t think from my pov it wouldn’t be about me not taking accountability but more not letting other’s opinions affect me. as long as you’re not doing anything wrong that’s not a bad way to be.

Hike your own hike kind of thing.

It's weird so many people are not able to use google.
If you can't type MLM into google (it's the first thing that comes up), why join in the thread?

I agree with the Let Them theory.

I have nothing to do with any MLM.

I have never associated the two together and still don’t understand why anyone would make such a connection.

I thought 'let them' (haven't read MR book but have a friend who is a fan) was about not taking trying to be in control or responsible for other people's emotions, thoughts, activations, motivations... i.e that all you can control are your own. Not exactly rocket-science, but might be helpful to those who feel like everything is their responsibility/fault.

I have never heard of it in conjunction with MLM (and I do know what MLM means although barely in my orbit and I have successfully avoided so far). How would the two things even conjoin?

Then it’s being used wrong! Let them is more about not being responsible for other people’s behaviour!

It’s like ‘drop the rope’- an extremely useful method for working out what’s your problem and what’s someone else’s problem that they are trying to make you resolve.

I live in a fairly mc area and there is a lot of tropics , usborne books, captain tortue, herbalife, some essential oil stuff, utility warehouse etc

And there used to be a lot of dubious ads on local FB for jobs that were flexible, choose your own hours, sounding too good to be true, etc etc while not actually explaining what they would actually be doing....🙄 every time I saw one it screamed mlm to me, but it seemed to get plenty of interest

And?! What the fuck has a “proper job” got to do with MLM or “Let Them”?

You might want to do a little bit more research into both Let Them and MLM because you clearly don’t understand either.

And yes, you can and most likely will have a “proper job” alongside flogging Herbalife or Juiceplus or NuSkin. You can also have a “proper job” and use “LetThem” to silence anyone who dares to comment on your questionable “Side Hustle”.

This is how I’ve lived my whole life. My standard approach to all situations. I am not an influencer. Definitely have never run an MLM or bought from one. 😂

It definitely seems fairly counter to the MLM business model though, which is putting up with all sorts of crazy shit from people and being new besties with everyone you meet.

MLM = multi level marketing aka pyramid schemes but <just about> “legal”

That woman you know from the school run who is “an independent travel agent”? MLM

Bloke on LinkedIn marketing training courses for how to make money as a life coach? MLM

Tropic skincare - MLM

etc etc. no one will be making money except the 0.01% at the top of the pyramid.

Once you see it, you see it everywhere. And yes, I can 💯 see the whole “Let Them” bollocks being one of the mantras of people involved in MLM’s.

Highly recommend the Podcast “The Dream” (Season 1) if you want to find out more and get very very angry as well

LOL all of my friends have proper jobs.

Sorry to disappoint you!

Now they’re expanding into “travel consultancy”, anyone claiming not to know anyone who has been involved in MLM is either oblivious or has the tiniest of circles anyway.

Funny how these threads attract so many adamant “not in my circle” posters though, whilst attempting to validate the “let them” excuse.

Interesting. I knew Usborne had sellers, but wasn't aware it was a MLM and never seen anyone try and "push" joining it as a seller either.

DS loves their books!

If you've ever been invited to a 'party' at someone's house, where a promised afternoon tea is prefaced by watching someone demonstrate overpriced goods, like storage, scents, candles, even adult toys, and being eyeballed to buy while eating, so the host can get gifts for free, you've been multi level marketed. Extra points if you've been targeted to join.

They're everywhere though. Mostly anyone waving a catalogue and hinting you too can have financial freedom is an MLM. Tupperware, Avon, doTerra, Monat, and any number of companies.

They work by the lowest downlines selling a bit & buying themselves to hit targets, while the commission is paltry & they actually lose money. The commissions trickle upwards to the higher levels, and they make the real money.

People who don’t have access to Google, and can’t be bothered typing “What is an MLM” into a search engine. They can do that in the same time it takes them to type a moany reply..,

I actually do agree with the principle of "Let them" in terms of don't spend mental energy worrying about things you can't control, don't let people's opinions get in the way of how you live your life, and don't overly expend emotional energy trying to change other people's minds.

I admit I haven't read the book, but I do get the impression from the social media angle that people tend to take it more to an extreme on the side of completely ignoring all feedback and listen less to the principle about not telling others what to do (as they all seem to use the phrase I can't stand: "Do better.")

I did listen to the If Books Could Kill episode about it and they seemed to think she had completely stolen the concept from somebody else I mean - it's hardly a unique thought so obviously, but in a more specific way ie there is actually a poem that keeps getting referred to the whole way through which is copyrighted to someone else.