To ask how you find a fully remote job? Commute is killing me

Couple of things

1. Surely you do your WFH days when your DH is at work? That way it's only 2 difficult days?
2. You could ask to leave early and make up the time
3. Are you paying £75 a day childcare?? Because you say you lose £600 to childcare, which I assume is half (£1200) and your DH has her home with him, so £1200÷ 4 weeks is £300. £300÷4 is £75.

Has it really gone up that much lately?! That's crazy!? Could you get a childminder?

Eta, are you not eligible for tax free childcare?

try enterprise for fully wfh roles in customer service

Some digital banks such as monzo are fully remote

what have you got to lose then by asking? Even if they didn’t agree to fully remote, they might agree to 3 or 4 days from home, which would be a better quality of life than now?

I was fully remote for 5 years in a profession consultancy role, changed jobs and went back to hybrid this year

Definitely put the request in - the worst thing they can say is no. I think 2 days per month in the office is a good option. Your DH could do the nursery run those days?
Also I work remote - some travel occasionally but like a few times per year for a night or two so not often. I work for a charity- check out charityjob.co.uk lots of charities have remote workers as they don't have the funds to pay for an office when one isn't needed. Good luck!

My job is fully remote, for a Charity and there are quite a few charities which also offer remote jobs. https://www.theworkfromhomehub.co.uk advertises loads of remote roles. Good luck!

I manage to get three DC aged under 6 up, dressed, fed and out the door in an hour and a quarter- what on earth are you doing that’s taking two hours with one kid?

Wow your childcare is cheap!

On your office days, could you leave earlier? For me, leaving mid afternoon and finishing off at home means that my commute isn’t when the traffic isn’t as bad, I’ve ticked the box of office attendance to spend the time on Teams talking to people in other locations but have my head in the right space for the crazy at the end of the working day. Essentially I travel in my lunch hour.

Why not ask to do 8.30 - 6 on wfh days so working 2 hours extra then start 10 mins later and leave at 5 on office days to give you a bit more flexibility for pickup time?

Fully remote here and again in a charity, I did work pre Covid in the office. I think charities are usually open to WFH, but you would have to have experience and it doesn't pay as well as some jobs.

Some companies off fully remote working, even in customer service. Try a company called Sensee.

Also pit in a flexi working request

Some options:

Ask your DH to put in a flexible working request for a regular day off a week.

Do the maths of going down to 4 days.

Ask to work fully from home and if they say no, ask for 1 or 2 office days.

Ask to reduce your FTE (eg 90%) and do shorter hours on the days you’re in the office.

Also I’d love to know where you can get full time nursery for £600 per month!!

My job is fully remote but you need to work early mornings, evenings, weekends and public holidays on a shift basis.

Defo put the request in but in the short term could you get an electric bike or e-scooter?

You could ask to reduce to 2 office days a week and shorter hours on those days? That way you shouldn’t be under too much pressure on the commute? You’d need to make the time up though on the wfh days. To me that doesn’t sound like a huge adjustment so might not be difficult for your employer to agree to? It would rebalance your week and make the office days less stressful though.

I assume but you never know with Mumsnet and useless men that your DP is doing the nursery run the day he isn't working 7-7 shifts?

In which case, I would then try and get one more day WFH agreed and then you only have one office day to worry about?

Banks and building societies 🙌

I would guess at least half are less than 3 days in the office.

My last 3 jobs are 1 day in the office

I work fully remote in the third sector but I think fully remote is hard to get these days - I have been in this job 8 years pre covid and my contract says I am home based. Hybrid is by far the most common option.

If your DH has 4 long shift days per week, there must be at least one day per week when you’re working and he’s not - he should at the very least be doing the nursery pickup on that day, and really the drop off too unless he’s been night shifts and really has to sleep (sleeping longer because he’s had 4 days of shifts isn’t good enough I think though).
That would take the pressure off one of your days.

Even reducing down by one more day would help. Def worth asking them.

I work fully from home with a contract that states that
i don’t really need it so much anymore as kids grown and gone, but can’t deny I absolutely love it. But then I really enjoy my job anyway, maybe that helps

I work in tech, but my employer is 95% remote workers across all functions

Put the request in. You’re no worse off if they say no.

I worked from home/remotely from a base within walking distance distance for over 30 years before I retired: national charities with local service delivery, and the civil service (again, local role in a national team). Like a PP, I had to be out and about, but managed my own diary so that was fine.

Haven't read every comment but I wondered if your employer has a policy that says for the office days you have to do your full hours in the office. It may be worth considering asking to leave at an earlier time on your office days and working from home before you do the nursery pick up. That's a handy arrangement to have when it comes to school hours too. You'd still have 3 days presence but not too late that means you're stressed and getting hit with late fees

Another option might be to request you can go into the office later and finish a bit earlier then make up the time in the evening once your daughter’s in bed. My commute is 40 mins - 1 hour at rush hour but only 15 mins when it’s quiet so can work 9-9.30 at home, go into the office, get there for 9.45 and then make those 15 minutes up in the evening but have saved more time than that by not commuting. The drive is also a lot less stressful. The pick up time would be harder because evening rush hour seems to start at 3.30 around here.

The bigger question is: where do you work where an entry-level job pays enough in one day to make the difference between living off beans and toast with no days out and having regular meals and days out? That sounds like several hundred just for one day. I’d stick to that if I were you. You’re on to a good thing.