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To refuse to sign form for DD to have a school iPad?

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user63214 · 13/11/2025 18:19

Last year DD (8) school introduced iPads which they all brought home to complete homework/ use Apps. On a number of occasions DD dropped it accidentally, forgot where is was or to charge it.
For this year they have just sent out forms saying children will receive their iPads once we have signed the form acceptability liability for any damage/loss etc. AIBU? If school decide they want to use iPads they need to accept some may be damaged. Also unsure what happens if the damage happens on school property.

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qqwwkkssvvg · 22/11/2025 08:54

I know what you mean, we only ever gave ours refurbished or passed down iPads due to fear of it breaking, I wouldn’t be impressed if I HAD to accept liability for a newer one. Is it an option to get a cheap one of your own?

EasternStandard · 22/11/2025 08:11

GoodBrew · 18/11/2025 18:33

I thought schools were waging a war against screen time so why are they introducing more of these flipping gadgets? My high schooler has to lock her phone in a security pouch every day because screens are supposedly terrible for her development, yet every piece of homework is set through an app on her phone.

I swear someone very high up in the DfE must have shares in these phone pouch companies. If schools really cared about screen time they wouldn't force kids to do their work on them all the time!

And yes I wouldn't be willing to accept liability for an expensive iPad either. Maybe a cheap android tablet but only if it came with a really good case. But if I were a single mum or on low income I'd tell them to sod off entirely and remind them that pen and paper works just as well!

It is annoying. We don’t have iPads but the class was asked who had one which made dd feel left out. Ik it’s a small thing but constant pushing tech makes it harder to opt out.

user1476613140 · 22/11/2025 07:37

Ddakji · 21/11/2025 19:33

Aren’t exams handwritten?

My eldest got ICT support for his exams so very little handwriting.

Ineffable23 · 21/11/2025 21:56

FiatLuxAdAstra · 21/11/2025 19:32

Handwriting is an obsolete skill imho. Just like being able to tell time on an analog clock.

I had an "ohh I'm getting old" moment the other day. I was in the gym and thought the clock had stopped, so I flagged it to a staff member. I wasn't wearing a watch but I was confident it wasn't quarter to four. I phrased it as "I don't think it can be quarter to four, can it?" And the lady I was speaking to then explained she couldn't actually tell the time on a non digital clock.

I'm only in my early thirties so I wasn't expecting to be feeling out of touch so soon!

RawBloomers · 21/11/2025 20:47

FiatLuxAdAstra · 21/11/2025 19:49

My DD went to a state school, and yes they required the lease of an iPad. It just made more sense financially and control wise for me to buy her one instead of leasing one from the school.

If an English state school, that was illegal.

RawBloomers · 21/11/2025 20:46

FiatLuxAdAstra · 21/11/2025 19:48

Ok, so if you don’t want to invest £500 into your child’s education you do you. I’m sure their football club is a much better investment.

I invest far more than that in my kids education. But I don’t do so by choosing to give an accident prone 8 year old expensive tech they have to cart around the place, because that’s liable to be far more than £500 and I think there are better ways to do it.

The point is, assuming this is a state school, they need to be delivering within their budget. They can’t just make the parents pay because it has turned out to be more expensive than they’d hoped. We have education that is legally required to be provided free at the point of delivery.

If a private school then it’s a more complex question of what the expectations were when the child was signed up.

FiatLuxAdAstra · 21/11/2025 19:49

Sartre · 21/11/2025 19:35

I mean with a screen protector and case it should be fine and I’m sure at 8 you could designate a place for it to go and make sure she knows to always place it there when homework is done. Guessing this is private school, state schools certainly don’t have iPad money…

My DD went to a state school, and yes they required the lease of an iPad. It just made more sense financially and control wise for me to buy her one instead of leasing one from the school.

FiatLuxAdAstra · 21/11/2025 19:48

RawBloomers · 21/11/2025 19:34

Yes, we know what the school want the kids to do with them. That doesn’t mean OP has to take on financial responsibility. Just as she doesn’t take on financial responsibility for accidental loss for any other aspect of the school’s resourcing or facilities.

Ok, so if you don’t want to invest £500 into your child’s education you do you. I’m sure their football club is a much better investment.

FiatLuxAdAstra · 21/11/2025 19:47

Ddakji · 21/11/2025 19:33

Aren’t exams handwritten?

Most aren’t these days at the Uni level or for professional qualifications.
Schoold should be preparing students for real life exams, and not be stuck in the past.

OldBeyondMyYears · 21/11/2025 19:45

Littlebitpsycho · 13/11/2025 18:22

I dont think you're being unreasonable but at the same time how will she do the homework if its online?

Is this a serious question???? 🤯

Sartre · 21/11/2025 19:35

I mean with a screen protector and case it should be fine and I’m sure at 8 you could designate a place for it to go and make sure she knows to always place it there when homework is done. Guessing this is private school, state schools certainly don’t have iPad money…

RawBloomers · 21/11/2025 19:34

FiatLuxAdAstra · 21/11/2025 19:29

She will need the iPad to do school work. They likely will have all their textbooks on it to read along in class. Homework will be done on it and submitted via it.

I bought my DD her own iPad and paid for the AppleCare insurance so I didn’t have to worry about loss or damage. I also got her iCloud+ so all her work is backed up and it’s easy to restore with a new iPad if the first one gets broken.

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Yes, we know what the school want the kids to do with them. That doesn’t mean OP has to take on financial responsibility. Just as she doesn’t take on financial responsibility for accidental loss for any other aspect of the school’s resourcing or facilities.

nomas · 21/11/2025 19:33

I despair. Why are we paying taxes for such mindless destruction.

Ddakji · 21/11/2025 19:33

FiatLuxAdAstra · 21/11/2025 19:32

Handwriting is an obsolete skill imho. Just like being able to tell time on an analog clock.

Aren’t exams handwritten?

SwirlyShirly · 21/11/2025 19:32

My kids academy trust rolled out iPads for all children 2 or 3 years ago. I can barely get either of them to look at them at home!

FiatLuxAdAstra · 21/11/2025 19:32

Handwriting is an obsolete skill imho. Just like being able to tell time on an analog clock.

FiatLuxAdAstra · 21/11/2025 19:29

She will need the iPad to do school work. They likely will have all their textbooks on it to read along in class. Homework will be done on it and submitted via it.

I bought my DD her own iPad and paid for the AppleCare insurance so I didn’t have to worry about loss or damage. I also got her iCloud+ so all her work is backed up and it’s easy to restore with a new iPad if the first one gets broken.

bowchicawowwow · 21/11/2025 19:22

I wouldn’t sign. Eldest’s school did a scheme with iPads and a monthly low cost repayment plan. We parents were all told they were necessary and would be an integral part of each lesson. Eldest’s school bag was on the floor with the iPad in as it wasn’t needed during that lesson. The kids were instructed to swap seats during the lesson and somehow another child managed put their chair leg and full body weight down in the bag and impaled the iPad. We claimed off insurance that came with it but I was still annoyed

user1476613140 · 21/11/2025 19:10

rainbow231 · 21/11/2025 19:05

You’re very naive if you believe this. There are a thousand stories of children circumventing school device controls.

Sure is. I remember when my eldest DS said he got Air Drops of random stuff during class time from other pupils. Often graphic stuff.

Pupils can and do find ways around these restrictions!

rainbow231 · 21/11/2025 19:05

Maddy70 · 19/11/2025 09:35

They are usually restricted so they can only be used for school work which is far safer than having a free reign online they will have school licenced apps which you won't be able to use on a home computer. Tis the modern world

You’re very naive if you believe this. There are a thousand stories of children circumventing school device controls.

Maddy70 · 19/11/2025 09:35

They are usually restricted so they can only be used for school work which is far safer than having a free reign online they will have school licenced apps which you won't be able to use on a home computer. Tis the modern world

HoldMyFear · 19/11/2025 09:28

Has anyone done a cost-benefit analysis of this? The list of negatives is massive: cost; distraction; negative effects on the brain and body; lack of handwriting skills; effect on eyesight; the faff of charging, maintaining and looking after the devices.

What are the huge positives that make all of that worth it?

Ablushingcrow · 19/11/2025 03:34

PrioritisePleasure24 · 18/11/2025 04:59

Why are someschools pushing everything on tech. I understand the need for chikdren to learn about it and use it but surely they should still be developing physical writing skills at that age. We are going to have a generation that canst put pen to paper and only type on a keyboard with their finger

Nevermind the increase in eye problems due to over use of screens. I wouldn’t be signing it either.

I agree. My DH had a stroke 4 days ago and one of his doctors explained how hand writing is encouraged because it is so good for the brain.

Natsku · 19/11/2025 03:12

ToffeePennie · 18/11/2025 21:37

Sadly that’s not the case at my son’s school, the iPads have totally replaced all learning. We have never seen a single workbook since they introduced them, the children don’t do any writing, even spelling tests are iPad only.
They converted the library to a “brand new state of the art” (actually several years behind the times) technical suite, which comprises of 2 laptops and 2 chairs. Nothing else. There are no books in the school, which means all reading material must be on the iPad.
We refused to sing the form and my son cannot bring the iPad home that he uses during the day; there is no other way to access the homework. We simply cannot get our laptops to sit on the school systems, no matter what we do.
I 100% agree they should know how to use tech, what tech is good for and how to access it, but they don’t do any learning or teaching in the school I am talking about. In fact they’ve just been put into special measure over their lack of handwriting ability, due to the over use of them. So yeah I really think these “schemes” are a rip off and a vile way to ostracise the kids whose parents can’t afford to pay monthly for tech that is already outdated and obsolete.

No books?!!! That is shocking and depressing :(

Ignomis · 19/11/2025 00:33

ParmaVioletTea · 18/11/2025 15:36

On a number of occasions DD dropped it accidentally, forgot where is was or to charge it.

Do you normally accept that your DC are careless with valuable equipment? Sounds like your DD needs to be taught to be more careful & responsible. It's not beyond the capacity of an 8 year old to learn that an iPad should not be dropped, kept in a regular place (does she have a desk in her bedroom?) and needs to be charged.

I don't see why 8 year olds should have expensive equipment to routinely worry about. It might not be out of their capacity but most things probably aren't if you apply enough pressure. Why heap that kind of extra burden on them so young?

Caring for a screen isn't top of my list of this to teach my kid

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