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The Sara Sharif case: what is the point of taxpayers funding these failing organisations?

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softstone · 13/11/2025 18:15

This appalling case has highlighted catastrophic failures of many organisations. If I failed in my job to this extent I would be sacked and possibly jailed. Yet the upshot of this report seems to be oh dear yes it’s a terrible shame, never mind.

Why is my tax funding these useless departments? This is not part of the social contract. We’re supposed to live in a civilised society. It’s awful.

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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 13/11/2025 19:13

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 13/11/2025 18:25

She had already been identified as being at risk. They shouldn't have been allowed to home school her in those circumstances imo, but I do think it makes sense to have safeguarding checks for home educated children. Who else is going to check on them?

I agree 100% about checking on home schooled children. IMO it’s far too easy for parents to opt out of mainstream education. Quite apart from neglect and/or abuse, someone should surely check that all such parents are competent to teach their children.

BeetrootBean · 13/11/2025 19:12

MollyMollyMandy33 · 13/11/2025 18:56

Social workers on the ground are frequently held to account. In most serious case reviews, it is found that unmanageable caseloads are a significant factor. These terrible tragedies are rarely as simple as to be fault of individual social workers, but massive institutional and organizational failure. The likely reality is that the social workers who visited probably had several other serious and urgent cases to deal with, and little time. They probably make difficult choices and carry considerable and uncertain risk every day.
I am not a social worker, but I’ve worked closely with them. I know many who are deeply caring individuals trying to do their best in an increasingly challenging and complex environment with overwhelming demand. I think that saying they can just ‘clock off’ is quite offensive. On the contrary, the ones I know well go to bed at night worrying if they’ve made the right decisions, or not.
A witch-hunt won’t help anyone. The people who should be held to account are those who fund our struggling public services.

I don’t care you find my comment ‘offensive’, we are well within our rights to criticise how public servants operate (I’m one myself).

The folks who didn’t follow through with their visit two days before her death weren’t even social workers. Why didn’t they take the extra time to visit when it was their mistake (rather than a family not being at home, for example)? That’ll be for them to explain.

WRT local authorities, like you, I’ve witnessed how social workers operate. I simply take a different view to you. Some of them are fantastic and caring, but stretched. Some of them are unsatisfactory. Others are actively bad at their jobs and family don't seem to like children very much from how they interact with families.

There needs to be some responsibility taken by safeguarding and other professionals. Negligence is negligence.

There have been multiple failures in Sara’s case and it’s not just social workers who have to answer for themselves.

Bambamhoohoo · 13/11/2025 19:12

peakedat40 · 13/11/2025 19:05

I keep wondering that.

AR was clearly a troubled individual but we can’t lock people away indefinitely for being weird, or holding views the majority find distasteful and harmful.

I think it comes back to the premise of the thread.

do people really believe that social services stop every child being killed by their abusers? Do they think that’s what should happen in reality?

social services are an agency amongst others who protect children.

the police protect the public. Do we expect the police to prevent every crime? Clearly not. What’s the difference?

this black and white A CHILD MUST NEVER DIE isn’t great for the nuanced conversation about making sure social services do the very best job they can. Which they’re not. Do we want them to do the best job or to aim for no dead children ever?

because unrealistic expectations are destined to fail. And in the meantime they’re not doing the best they can, they’re wasting time on an impossible dream.

ainsleysanob · 13/11/2025 19:06

VikaOlson · 13/11/2025 18:58

It's easy to just say that the social workers were incompetent, but if you don't identify the actual problem, you can't fix it.
"Just hire competent people" isn't a solution when recruitment and retention in social work is such a problem.
If social workers are supposed to have 15 children and they have 30, then children will be endangered.
And if all the social workers are newly qualified supervised by social workers with a couple of years experience then of course competence is an issue. Why do you think there are so few very experienced social workers in child protection?

You can absolutely say that they are incompetent, the heads of this specific councils Social Services department ARE incompetent. Not just the social workers who are doing the visiting or the home schooling team but all of them. You can’t truly fix an issue unless you admit to what the issue is. It isn’t a simple mistake, it is incompetence from the top down so treat it as such.

Charley50 · 13/11/2025 19:06

I think if any agency is to blame, it’s the children’s courts that gave her violent and abusive father custody.

peakedat40 · 13/11/2025 19:05

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 18:46

Although mistakes were made by so many professionals in this case, I wonder if there isn't a bigger issue to be debated than mere competence. The cases that are reported, most recently this one and Axel Rudakubana, are about behaviour at the very limits of human experience. I question whether it is reasonable to expect state institutions to save people.

I keep wondering that.

AR was clearly a troubled individual but we can’t lock people away indefinitely for being weird, or holding views the majority find distasteful and harmful.

Bambamhoohoo · 13/11/2025 19:04

I find it utterly bizarre you’ve decided the problem is your tax paying for a failed social services case.

tax, really?

peakedat40 · 13/11/2025 19:02

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 13/11/2025 18:39

So all children should have visits from social services during the summer holidays? Six weeks is a long time without contact with other adults.

The post you quoted clearly says children identified as ‘at risk’ which isn’t all children, it isn’t even close to most children. And yes, I think that’s reasonable as it happens although unlikely in current environment.

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 19:01

PumpkinTwistyWindToots · 13/11/2025 18:54

Lessons ARE learnt, all the time. The system is never perfect but do you really think social care and education have learnt nothing since the 70s??

Pretty much, yes, I do, because the themes don't change: poor record-keeping, reasons that argue against intervention, inadequate cover and handover arrangements, lack of supervision, ineffective inter-agency working, inexperienced staff. But as I have said in a previous post, I'm not certain state agencies will ever be able to prevent behaviour beyond the comprehension of most of us.

Charley50 · 13/11/2025 18:59

ITV news just reported that her suddenly wearing a hijab and being fully covered wasn’t questioned due to worry about accusations of Islamaphobia. See how damaging this concept is?

VikaOlson · 13/11/2025 18:58

ainsleysanob · 13/11/2025 18:49

It is impossible for social services to be able to save every single child from whatever it is that endangers them. That must be understood. However, I am sick to death of them trotting out the ‘mistakes were made’ excuse. A mistake is dropping a plate, or reversing into an hedge, or charging someone wrong in your shop. These were not ‘mistakes’. They were incompetencies. So, of course there will be incompetent people working for child protection services - but admit that, don’t call them ‘mistakes’, admit to be incompetent and then get better.

It's easy to just say that the social workers were incompetent, but if you don't identify the actual problem, you can't fix it.
"Just hire competent people" isn't a solution when recruitment and retention in social work is such a problem.
If social workers are supposed to have 15 children and they have 30, then children will be endangered.
And if all the social workers are newly qualified supervised by social workers with a couple of years experience then of course competence is an issue. Why do you think there are so few very experienced social workers in child protection?

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 13/11/2025 18:57

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 18:55

I used to work in the insurance sector and learnt a lot about risk and disasters. One factor that has stayed with me is that disasters like Piper Alpha happen as a result of an improbable and therefore unpredictable set of circumstances. That means that lessons cannot by definition be learnt as, contrary to what we may believe, there are not patterns against which to mitigate.

In a case like this one, we could remove any one of a number of factors and predict a different outcome, but there is no guarantee Sara would have been saved. Looking at root causes, though, the factor that most mystified me is the judge agreeing she could live with her father when the extent of his violence was already established.

Agreed, that was an incomprehensible decision from the judge, given what was known about the father.

MollyMollyMandy33 · 13/11/2025 18:56

BeetrootBean · 13/11/2025 18:23

The one that got me is the idiots who went the wrong house and decided they wouldn’t bother at all. Those two people in particular could have saved Sara’s life.

So heartbreaking to hear things like this.

And the fact that there are no professional accounts or criminal consequences for such negligence makes people think they can just clock off, and if anything goes wrong, they’ll pass the buck somewhere else.

Social work teams in particular are never held to account it seems. They seem to fail in every direction.

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Social workers on the ground are frequently held to account. In most serious case reviews, it is found that unmanageable caseloads are a significant factor. These terrible tragedies are rarely as simple as to be fault of individual social workers, but massive institutional and organizational failure. The likely reality is that the social workers who visited probably had several other serious and urgent cases to deal with, and little time. They probably make difficult choices and carry considerable and uncertain risk every day.
I am not a social worker, but I’ve worked closely with them. I know many who are deeply caring individuals trying to do their best in an increasingly challenging and complex environment with overwhelming demand. I think that saying they can just ‘clock off’ is quite offensive. On the contrary, the ones I know well go to bed at night worrying if they’ve made the right decisions, or not.
A witch-hunt won’t help anyone. The people who should be held to account are those who fund our struggling public services.

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 18:55

feellikeanalien · 13/11/2025 18:48

That is exactly the case I thought of when I started reading this thread.

I used to work in the insurance sector and learnt a lot about risk and disasters. One factor that has stayed with me is that disasters like Piper Alpha happen as a result of an improbable and therefore unpredictable set of circumstances. That means that lessons cannot by definition be learnt as, contrary to what we may believe, there are not patterns against which to mitigate.

In a case like this one, we could remove any one of a number of factors and predict a different outcome, but there is no guarantee Sara would have been saved. Looking at root causes, though, the factor that most mystified me is the judge agreeing she could live with her father when the extent of his violence was already established.

PumpkinTwistyWindToots · 13/11/2025 18:54

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 18:36

I was a teenager when the Maria Caudwell case was being reported on in the mid-1970s. This case and every case since have used the line 'Lessons will be learnt.'

Lessons ARE learnt, all the time. The system is never perfect but do you really think social care and education have learnt nothing since the 70s??

PumpkinTwistyWindToots · 13/11/2025 18:52

VikaOlson · 13/11/2025 18:34

I see it was the home education team that visited the wrong address anyway, not social workers.

So completely irrelevant really.

Home education workers have no rights to see children or enter homes. Even if they knocked on the right door, no one had to answer the door, talk to them or let them in.

Nor do social workers by the way

fosterma · 13/11/2025 18:49

I'm in this system. foster carers are leaving droves due lack of support for the children we care for. Parents are prioritised over the children, social workers can be totally useless or just don't care

There is crisis and nothing is being done and no one is being held to account

We desperately need more foster carers and more people that care

ainsleysanob · 13/11/2025 18:49

It is impossible for social services to be able to save every single child from whatever it is that endangers them. That must be understood. However, I am sick to death of them trotting out the ‘mistakes were made’ excuse. A mistake is dropping a plate, or reversing into an hedge, or charging someone wrong in your shop. These were not ‘mistakes’. They were incompetencies. So, of course there will be incompetent people working for child protection services - but admit that, don’t call them ‘mistakes’, admit to be incompetent and then get better.

feellikeanalien · 13/11/2025 18:48

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 18:36

I was a teenager when the Maria Caudwell case was being reported on in the mid-1970s. This case and every case since have used the line 'Lessons will be learnt.'

That is exactly the case I thought of when I started reading this thread.

KinshipGran · 13/11/2025 18:47

Poor communication and record keeping appear to have contributed to her being in her father’s violent home, and then being kept there despite the school reporting concerns.

The bureaucracy can be very difficult to deal with. My own experience was addresses wrongly recorded but impossible to track down where or when the error originated in order to correct it.

Daisymay8 · 13/11/2025 18:47

The parents killed the poor girl not anyone else.
And if Govs make harsh anti racism laws so people daren’t speak out for fear of being sacked ….

IdaGlossop · 13/11/2025 18:46

Bagsintheboot · 13/11/2025 18:24

Why is my tax funding these useless departments?

These "useless" departments save thousands of children every year. You just don't hear about it.

You only hear about the thankfully rare cases where they fail.

There will never be a perfect infallible system because a system which is staffed and run by humans is always going to have human error.

Although mistakes were made by so many professionals in this case, I wonder if there isn't a bigger issue to be debated than mere competence. The cases that are reported, most recently this one and Axel Rudakubana, are about behaviour at the very limits of human experience. I question whether it is reasonable to expect state institutions to save people.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 13/11/2025 18:45

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 13/11/2025 18:39

So all children should have visits from social services during the summer holidays? Six weeks is a long time without contact with other adults.

It should be risk based. I do think there should be checks during the holidays for children identified as high risk.

For home educated families, the frequency of any checks should be determined by the individual risk assessment. Kids who are clearly thriving and well cared for wouldn't need to be seen often at all. Where there is cause for concern, the visits would need to be more frequent.

Surely this is just basic common sense, isn't it?

PineappleSunrise · 13/11/2025 18:45

The private sector ain’t gonna do it, and your neighbours won’t either. You make em better or you just sink further into squalor - burning everything down won’t help.

Ihatetomatoes · 13/11/2025 18:44

Bagsintheboot · 13/11/2025 18:24

Why is my tax funding these useless departments?

These "useless" departments save thousands of children every year. You just don't hear about it.

You only hear about the thankfully rare cases where they fail.

There will never be a perfect infallible system because a system which is staffed and run by humans is always going to have human error.

This. If you completely shut down "these useless organisations" ie social services, then many, many more children will die at the hands of abusive parents.

Seems worrying about being labelled 'racist' got in the way again, just like for the grooming gangs. The fear over 'racism ' is costing lives and allows children to be abused.

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