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Would your husband care about a one off lesbian kiss

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Loralo · 13/11/2025 10:07

Relatively new fried of year that you’ve instantly clicked with. Both felt a bit lonely being SAHM and married to men who work incredibly unsocial hours. Neither consider themselves lesbians. No feelings involved. Very strange and unexpected.

Ive contemplated telling dh as he may well just laugh it off (he’s very level headed and not a jealous cave man type man) but I don’t see what is to be gained by doing so. It won’t happen again.

Tbh we probably leaned on each other too much and became a tad codependent. Friend and I probably spent far too much time together.

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Beamur · 13/11/2025 10:39

My husband would not be ok with this.
I think perhaps you need to reflect a bit more on your life and if you're happy. You are veering into cheating - matters not if it's with another woman. It's still infidelity. Maybe you're not as straight as you thought.

PeachyKoala · 13/11/2025 10:39

Of course he'd care about me cheating on him. I find your post very strange...

DaisyChain505 · 13/11/2025 10:39

Of course there are feelings involved. People don’t just go around kissing random people for no reason.

It doesn’t matter about gender, You’ve been unfaithful and you need to decide how you’re going to move forward with this.

MD2020and10LambertandButlerPlease · 13/11/2025 10:38

It's not just a kiss though, it's an emotional affair.

Sprogonthetyne · 13/11/2025 10:36

Kissing someone else while married is generally frowned upon. The sex of the people involved is irrelevant.

ZeldaFighter · 13/11/2025 10:34

Cheating is Cheating.

EveryKneeShallBow · 13/11/2025 10:25

Sounds like you’ve realised what a mistake it was. If you’re being completely honest with yourself about keeping a distance between you and your friend, then I don’t see what is to be gained by owning up to your husband. Of course he would be hurt and disappointed in your behaviour. You have let yourself down and spoiled a supportive friendship.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 13/11/2025 10:24

I wouldnt say anything over just a kiss tbh

You know now whats wrong with your marriage and it's time to figure out what happens next. How can you fix his unavailability? Hes not a cave man, so why is he so distant then? xx

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Loralo · 13/11/2025 10:24

BeMellowAquaSquid · 13/11/2025 10:16

How would you feel if DH just had a one off kiss with another man?

I’d be extremely confused

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Loralo · 13/11/2025 10:20

We have agreed to give each other a bit of space. Relying on one person for the majority of your day to day socialising was a bad idea. It was just the perfect storm in a way. Exact same age children, we go to the same kids centric places. Instead of always going on our own we became a bit co dependent. It was nice to find a team mate to get through the mundane with. Obviously that should be a place filled by husband. I don’t want to mess around with my marriage and my children’s stability

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weericky · 13/11/2025 10:19

B1anche · 13/11/2025 10:10

How can it be a lesbian kiss if neither of you are lesbians?

Yeah that’s weird, but to answer the OP, of course my husband would care if I kissed someone else. Why would he not? I married him and made a commitment to him, he more than likely expects I stick to that, likewise I expect the same from him.

BeMellowAquaSquid · 13/11/2025 10:16

How would you feel if DH just had a one off kiss with another man?

Justlostmybagel · 13/11/2025 10:15

Yes, of course he would care that I cheated on him.

What makes you sure it won't happen again?

B1anche · 13/11/2025 10:10

How can it be a lesbian kiss if neither of you are lesbians?

ZippyPeer · 13/11/2025 10:09

I don't believe 'no feelings are involved'. Might be unexpected for you both, but it won't have just happened, one of you must have initiated...