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Who wants to wait whilst my kittens are born!

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Kittenwatch · 13/11/2025 02:42

My girl is having her kittens! First one is here squeaking and healthy!

Second is imminent.

I think she’ll have 4 🤞🏽🤞🏽

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Ruggerlass · 13/11/2025 18:31

TooTiredMum2 · 13/11/2025 09:27

Here for more photos 😍
Btw rehoming one from a shelter doesn’t work for people who would like to have a cat because the only ones that might get accepted are single people who never leave their house (and apparently don’t need to go to work). My sister who lives on her own in a big house with garden got rejected because she couldn’t guarantee that she’d never be out of the home for more than 4 hours for the next 10 years. Absolutely ridiculous and I can only assume that people who successfully adopt lie on the form but she wasn’t willing to do that and truthfully said that she obviously can’t rule out being out of the house for an afternoon at some point. Luckily she found someone like OP who was rehoming privately and is now a loving cat mum.

I’m not sure which shelter your sister tried to adopt from. I used to carry out pre-adoption home checks and cats were all rehomed to all types of homes. The most important criteria was finding the right match for both potential adopter and animal. Perhaps your sister was applying for cats that wouldn’t fit her lifestyle. I myself have adopted two cats and certainly don’t stay in all day everyday.

user68901 · 13/11/2025 18:27

Just found your thread. So exciting to "watch" all the gorgeous kitties and their lovely mum. Then the haters came along so I skipped the rest of the thread.
Enjoy your gorgeous bundles. I would love to have a kitten again, best of luck to the new family and their new owners XX

Allergictoironing · 13/11/2025 18:26

I did have to ask around for a bit as I wanted to adopt indoor only cats for safety reasons (very aggressive local un neutered tom who nearly killed a couple of local cats, a car repairer very close to the back garden so things like anti-freeze all over the place, and roaming gangs of feral teens). But I found an independent but very well respected rescue who were happy to let me have the 2 who chose me, and a third a few years later as a companion as one of the first pair had to be PTS. The lovely lady who runs the rescue was particularly happy I took them as they had been there a year as nobody wanted a) a bonded pair, b) young adult or c) black cats.

I completely agree with @Happyjoe above with the reasons why many people are refused e.g. the insistence on one rather than 2, the colour thing, has to be a kitten they won't accept a young cat instead. Then you get the people who HAVE to have a kitten right now, maybe in the depths of winter which isn't kitten season so no there are likely to be very few around at the time of year from ferals or strays. People seem to forget that a cute kitten becomes a young cat in a very few months then you have another 18-20 years of an adult cat.

I can understand rescues not wanting to rehome in December either, as giving an animal as a Christmas Present is rarely a good idea especially at a time when there's all the excitement going on.

Did you know that some people won't have a black cat because they tend not to photograph well for social media? But that's OK, because come late September & especially in October some sick and twisted people get black cats & pretend to be Satanists!

I told the story above of my darling Tobias. They would have chosen him as a kitten because he's one of the prettiest cats I've ever seen - a rich brown tabby & white, almost symmetrical and amazing markings on his very cute face. But as soon as he got past the cute little kitten stage he was thrown out on the streets. That's another reason why some rescues are very wary & careful about adoption.

People have said above that they don't want a cat with all the potential traumas it may be carrying from it's past life. That's fine, there's plenty of people out there like me who have the love, time and patience to overcome their pasts. But whenever I've been there's also been plenty of friendly cats who love people e.g. had to be rehomed due to their previous keeper's ill health, death, other change of circumstances.

By the way @Millytante , try having a quick Google about whether it's better for a cat to have a litter before spaying. You'll find it's near enough 100% saying this is an old wives tale and the real situation is the opposite.

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 13/11/2025 18:26

All those who cannot be happy for OP's cat and her adorable babies; do you run her life? And if not, do you wish you did?

The OP has already explained what I think none of you have a right to be privy to and you're still not happy.

Clear off and allow us cat lovers some happiness.

Cheers.

Southeastlondonmum2 · 13/11/2025 18:23

Probably a reason for that

BellaTheDarkOverlord · 13/11/2025 18:22

Op, you realise the cat tax has updated its terms and conditions now and pics must be posted on an hourly basis.

Those little balls of cute fluffy goodness 😍

Growlybear83 · 13/11/2025 18:20

Southeastlondonmum2 · 13/11/2025 18:04

Oh why oh why did you do this? I am a volunteer for several rescues. The world does not need any more kittens there are too many cats and kittens needing homes

Judging by your user name, you probably live near me. Like other people, I posted earlier that, despite having had cats for almost my entire life, three of the major cat rescues and several smaller ones were either not willing or able to find me a kitten when I was looking for one three years ago.

Southeastlondonmum2 · 13/11/2025 18:19

Sorry but it is true. Those of us with experience of cat rescue and foster, we despair of this, people letting their young females have kittens for no purpose

chuussamu · 13/11/2025 18:14

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Southeastlondonmum2 · 13/11/2025 18:14

So sad you "allowed her to get pregnant".Why?

Southeastlondonmum2 · 13/11/2025 18:10

I have several vet friends. None will ever recommend that cats "need" to have kittens. Utterly false sorry.

beadystar · 13/11/2025 18:08

Our cat when I was a child was allowed to have one litter. I’m in my 40s now and still have fond memories of them. My sister and I adored them. Each went to a family member. Got neutered, no more kittens in that line. And the male cat of that litter became my tough grandfather’s shadow and a huge comfort to him in his senior years. Lived to be 20! The kittens are here now, they have brought joy, and they have homes to go to when they’re big enough. Congrats OP.

Pudmyboy · 13/11/2025 18:04

Kittenwatch · 13/11/2025 15:24

I didn’t even realise there was a cat section.

I will definitely do that 🥰

The Litter Tray is a great place for all things cat, but, please be aware that many of the contributers are very experienced in cat rescue, working with rescues or fostering kittens and so on, so you may very well get a pile-on if you post there with this particular story (a planned litter). Please join it, or read it, for advice or for fun, but given the strong feelings and connections with shelters that many posters have on there, maybe don't put your kitten pictures there. But do have a look, and I hope you find it useful.

Southeastlondonmum2 · 13/11/2025 18:04

Oh why oh why did you do this? I am a volunteer for several rescues. The world does not need any more kittens there are too many cats and kittens needing homes

Happyjoe · 13/11/2025 17:53

TooTiredMum2 · 13/11/2025 17:22

They probably got rejected from the shelters as 99% of the population (a personal rough estimate, having looked into adopting and knowing their criteria) will.

I don't know why people being refused, but friend who rehomes for CP, the ones in her care are rehomed ok. The only real stipulation is not near a fast or main road. She's happy to give to families with children (some adult cats are already used to children) happy if the garden is enclosed, in fact, those people with that set up are rare and a godsend to her as she occasionally has cats where that would be very much a plus. She currently has a blind and half blind kittens, that would be perfect for example. She does like it if someone can be home for a few days when they arrive as helps them settle. Makes sense?

She does try to rehome cats in bonded pairs, esp kittens and that can help the cats if people are at work all day. Not a lot of people want 2 and I think that may be behind a lot of refusals to people. She gets pushy people though, ones that only want a ginger one for example and only a kitten. She offers ginger with another kitten in the litter and they refuse the non-ginger ones which makes her wary of rehoming with them at all. People either want and love a cat or they don't, does it really matter what they look like? The rehoming process can be difficult, both ways imo.

Happyjoe · 13/11/2025 17:39

Kittenwatch · 13/11/2025 15:08

No you absolute twit - it isn’t! This is why it’s not worth engaging with people like you. You’ve got your narrative and that’s that.

Just sod off already.

It's always amusing when people respond to the truth with aggression.

Roselily123 · 13/11/2025 17:39

Well I loved this thread and followed from very early on.
I loved all the pictures and hope to see more on the litter tray
Growing up we had 4 cats.
i would loved to have experienced what you have @Kittenwatch
How magical and for your ds.
It was all very responsibly done …
It has not made me want to breed kittens , dogs or adopt a baby.

TimeForATerf · 13/11/2025 17:29

Kittenwatch · 13/11/2025 17:21

  1. No One has specified a preferred sex
  2. I assume so - they are all people who have had and loved cats previously
  3. Given the mum is black and white I doubt it’s a surprise to anyone. No one has said anything about a colour preference at all.
  4. I already have all hand rearing equipment and resources ready if needed so ‘yes’
  5. They are all experienced cat owners and plan to do all of those things.

Will you bugger off now? You will not be satisfied will you so why post?

OK, I was trying to be non judgmental and point out tactfully to anyone on this thread thinking how cute a kitten litter is, that there is a lot more to think about, but given your response I reserve the right to withdraw it.

I have one last sentence, you are part of the problem that we continue to have in rescues, your ignorance and lack of awareness is astounding.

The truth hurts sometimes.

So, I'll bugger off and leave you to it. ✌

SaffronsMadAboutMe · 13/11/2025 17:26

Kittenwatch · 13/11/2025 17:24

Given how difficult it is to get allocated a kitten I respectfully disagree.

Can we leave it here? You won’t be pleased by anything I say so why disappoint yourself repeatedly?

Can we leave it here? You won’t be pleased by anything I say so why disappoint yourself repeatedly?

Eh?

That was my very first post on this thread 😳

But errrrm ok 👀

Kittenwatch · 13/11/2025 17:25

TooTiredMum2 · 13/11/2025 17:24

Oh come on, even I understand what OP meant with this and I’m the lady who thought that OP discussed the pregnancy with her cat beforehand

🤣

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Kittenwatch · 13/11/2025 17:24

SaffronsMadAboutMe · 13/11/2025 17:18

If you read my posts you would see that I have close friends and family who expressed an interest if I allowed her to get pregnant. I had homes for 6 kittens before we even allowed her to get pregnant.

They should've taken on 6 kittens who are already looking for homes then.

You allowing your cat to have a litter has potentially taken away those 6 homes from cats already in care.

Surely you can see you're adding to an already massive problem?

Given how difficult it is to get allocated a kitten I respectfully disagree.

Can we leave it here? You won’t be pleased by anything I say so why disappoint yourself repeatedly?

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TooTiredMum2 · 13/11/2025 17:24

ginasevern · 13/11/2025 17:12

"Yes - it was ‘arranged’ as suggested by the vet - it felt very bizarre"

Your very own words OP.

Oh come on, even I understand what OP meant with this and I’m the lady who thought that OP discussed the pregnancy with her cat beforehand

TooTiredMum2 · 13/11/2025 17:22

SaffronsMadAboutMe · 13/11/2025 17:18

If you read my posts you would see that I have close friends and family who expressed an interest if I allowed her to get pregnant. I had homes for 6 kittens before we even allowed her to get pregnant.

They should've taken on 6 kittens who are already looking for homes then.

You allowing your cat to have a litter has potentially taken away those 6 homes from cats already in care.

Surely you can see you're adding to an already massive problem?

They probably got rejected from the shelters as 99% of the population (a personal rough estimate, having looked into adopting and knowing their criteria) will.

Kittenwatch · 13/11/2025 17:21

TimeForATerf · 13/11/2025 17:09

I've already posted here about considerations when kittens are born from a Cat Rescue perspective but I cant walk away from this thread without adding another post.

Whilst I appreciate these kittens already have homes I would ask the OP the following:

  1. Will the new owners still want them if they cant get the sex they want?
  2. Will the new owners still want them if they are found to have life long issues or an expensive special diet?
  3. Will the new owners want them when they realise they are black and white, the most overlooked and unwanted colour in rescues?
  4. Will you invest in the money and time if any of those kittens need hand rearing?

And my last and most important point:

Will these new owners vaccinate @ £75 for a kitten course, microchip @ £30.00 and neuter @ £100 when they take their kitten home. And if so, why didn't they adopt a kitten from a rescue centre where the full health check has been completed and all of the above has been done for just £100? Or will they just hope for the best and "let the females have just one litter" and let the Toms wander the streets for miles un-neutered adding to the population and risking getting knocked down.

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  1. No One has specified a preferred sex
  2. I assume so - they are all people who have had and loved cats previously
  3. Given the mum is black and white I doubt it’s a surprise to anyone. No one has said anything about a colour preference at all.
  4. I already have all hand rearing equipment and resources ready if needed so ‘yes’
  5. They are all experienced cat owners and plan to do all of those things.

Will you bugger off now? You will not be satisfied will you so why post?

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WatchingTVagain · 13/11/2025 17:21

Oh OP, they are gorgeous.

But I'm sat here looking at my 4 x 1 week old kittens from our current foster cat. She came into care pregnant and gave birth 2 days later. This is at least her 2nd litter. She will obviously be spayed as soon as the kittens are weaned and the struggle of finding up to 5 homes begins.

I know you've already lined up homes but as someone who has worked in cat rescue for 10 years it's a never ending cycle. As you already know who will be rehoming the kittens please encourage them to neuter early and keep in doors until they are. Cats are driven to mate.

For info - Most vets will also perform late pregnancy spays.
Any one with a NE postcode, CP are offering £10 chip and neuter (in some cases free) and will also cover the cost of a pregnant spay. (Google CP Northumbria)

Enjoy the kittens OP, they are lovely and in 6 weeks time it's going to be chaos 🤣🤣

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