Am I a complete weirdo for contemplating moving to America?

Yeah you aren’t wrong. Eastern seaboard - mega snow and cold in winter. Fine if you like that weather and yes they can deal with the snow. It’s going to hit -2 on Saturday for example in November. Should get much colder through the winter and warmer in march. Average snowfall is 38 inches but Norfolk is 77 inches per year.

Oh and has anyone told you that your hubby is likely to onky get probably 2-3 weeks holiday a year and of course thats based on seniority which presumably would be recounted in another country.

My parents lived in a moderate southern state for years. All of the nicest houses were in gated communities and it was a relatively safe area. It doesn’t gave to be Johannesburg.

Oh and all those ‘mansions’ had guns safes. Saw them with my own eyes.

Her husband isn’t white.

Some things to consider:
Pilots have a high rate of divorce. I guess the scheduling is pretty demanding. What happens if your marriage doesn't go the distance? Would you want to be stuck over there with the kids if your DH wouldn't let you take them back to the UK.
What if your DH couldn't work for some reason (health, for example). Would you be okay or would you take out good income protection insurance? Remember welfare there is not easy.
Having had a child develop significant medical issues in their later teens, I'd be very sure about being able to afford the top medical insurance. You just never know and it's essential to have rock solid medical insurance over there.

I wouldn't say don't do it. I don't think I would (and refused to go when we did have the opportunity a few times), but you're not me.

Another reason I wouldn't go, I have daughters. I don't want them to receive the kind of healthcare around pregnancy complications all this pro-life change over there has brought about, if they settled there. I certainly wouldn't get pregnant over there myself in case of complications needing medical attention. I say this as someone who identifies as generally pro-life.

Go, go, go! The UK is a sinking ship. I love my country but wouldn’t hesitate to start a life somewhere new. I would want to work though, so if that’s all in order, medical sorted, start packing and enjoy your new life.

Yep OP is shallow but I'm glad I made you smile. :)

I've lived in more than one dictatorship. It's perfectly possible to lead a normal life, even a pleasant one, as long as you don't paint a target on your back. Nobody's going to bother a couple of white middle class professionals. So the question is not whether you'll be okay, because you will; you probably won't even notice democracy is being eroded, because you won't be affected by it. The question is whether you can tacitly endorse democratic backsliding by moving there. The other question is whether Britain is really any better. Is it six of one and half a dozen of the other?

Do you hear yourself OP??? You have children, please don't put your family through something that may turn out to be quite a distressing experience, you have zero guarantee that the rule of law will apply every time and everywhere you are in the US. It's so callous to come to a country and use its more advantageous financial attributes while turning a blind eye to its most horrific part.

Politics aside, isn't Connecticut really really cold in winter? Like much colder and icier than the UK? I'm not sure I could cope with that 😆 if it were California I'd be off in a heartbeat!

also, the house you posted looks like the home alone house!

on balance, I don't think x3 salary is enough to make a jump with all the risks involved (guns, politicos, healthcare costs, cost of living etc). Much better to stay in the UK. Also I have heard from American friends basics like eggs milk and bread are mega expensive and I couldn't cope with that either...

Can’t lie, if children are involved then I’d really reconsider just due to the sheer amount of gun violence. It would also depend a lot on where you would live.

My best friend moved to the US and money wise is doing much better there. It’s a logical consideration.

This place is hilarious. People have to be on here on the wind up surely! Shallow for thinking of the best quality of life for their family 🙄

You sound so shallow OP, it's quite depressing to read such a lack of awareness of current political and societal situations.

Can you rent your UK house easily? Have you looked into what your spousal visa limitations there are? Would you be allowed to work also? How long are you planning to go for? I suppose a few years could be nice, but possibly not forever? I wouldn’t want to raise high school kids in US.

I’d like to see that fact checked however, I believe many of these were from stirring up racial hatred so not unhappy that folk are getting hauled over coals if this is the case.

Go for it UK is in massive decline and Labour are killing any prospects of growth for forseeable future! USA standard of living is far higher than UK for people who work!

We got a job offer and in included private schooling and top notch health care. But we turned it down. I just didn’t feel comfortable taking my kids. Is Britain also in a scary place? Yes. But American is like if we actually voted for Nigel Farrage to be PM. I am hoping and betting on that never happening. If it did, I likely would leave the country.

Friends went out for a year - turned into 2, turned into a lifetime. They have made a good life for themselves, their kids absolutely love it. I’d say go for it, try it out for a while - it might be fun. We’ve lived all over the world and then we came back to the UK - we made a positive choice, don’t regret any of the places we’ve lived - even the ones I didn’t enjoy so much.

Right now, no way. Not for any amount of money. I wouldn't.

I’ve worked with many people who lived in America. They all said it was amazing how much further their money went in terms of housing. They all also said it wasn’t worth it, mainly because of healthcare, but also good quality is awful, the fear of their children’s safety and general political climate. They’ve almost all since returned here.

Yes. Yes you are and for suggesting U.K. is just as bad as America or heading that way, we are nowhere near their level (yet). My friends in US just bought a house in Ireland as an escape. They are really worried.

I would go for it OP if your children are happy with it. I’d go back if I could but our kids are older so it’s trickier. I have lots of family and friends there and they’re all just living normal lives. People on here would have you believe they all spend all their time thinking and worrying about Trump or guns, but they don’t, they’re just living life.

I agree.

In your shoes I would pack up and go and see how I got along. You already know you would be swapping one set of problems for another set but the new set might be a damn sight more palatable and more money is a great lubricant to that.

You could always let your British home via an agent so you have a step back in if you want to come back.

Dp is from the Us. He is glad to be in the uk right now due to the politics. He would like to go back eventually. Personally a house big house would not be enough for me. The school safety would need to come first.

Our issue in the UK is that the entire right wing opposition (Tories + Reform) are MAGA sycophants. The irony of post Brexit Britain is that we're barely sovereign because too many areas of our economy are entirely reliant on the US.
I think the US will eventually find a way out of whatever is going on right now but it'll take a while and the biggest question is whether it can happen peacefully (which I certainly hope will be the case). I think settling there right now is a little bit like building a villa in Pompeii circa 78AD. I really really hope I'm wrong.

With 30 arrests a day for posts on social media, I find it hilarious to see Brits look down on the US. There is nothing quite like the British jingoism.
gun laws etc are no reason to move to Connecticut as they’re restrictive there. The real question is the lifestyle- do you have kids? Could you live with American values? I couldn’t- the whole work all the time, focus on money, constant improvement, take medication to keep going culture would distress me