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Dad/Mum

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PistachioTiramisu · 12/11/2025 19:27

I have just realised that I am so tired of hearing fathers described as 'dads' or mothers as 'mums'. I was discouraged from calling my parents mum and dad and called them Mummy and Daddy until D and M took over. I have never referred to either of them to other people except as 'my father', 'my mother' or 'my parents'. I really hate Mum and Dad.

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Dannydevitoiloveyourart · 12/11/2025 23:49

Jc2001 · 12/11/2025 20:41

Pufft. I usually only speak to them through the butler to avoid all that unpleasant familiarity.

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Butler…a bit lax for my liking. My solicitor handles all communications with my parents. I particularly enjoy our festive Teams conference meeting each Christmas…it’s the appropriate level of intimacy for me.

SaulHudsonDavidJones · 12/11/2025 21:55

Live and let live

MrsMoastyToasty · 12/11/2025 21:51

One calls one's parents Mama and Papa.

user1496146479 · 12/11/2025 21:51

AgnesX · 12/11/2025 19:48

Are you Irish by any chance. The only place where mummy and daddy was common; when I was growing up anyway.

Mummy is not common in Ireland!
it’s Mam & Dad or Mammy & Daddy

HyggeTygge · 12/11/2025 21:47

Mater and pater, unless you're common as muck Grin

tiredandunhappy · 12/11/2025 21:38

I had a horrible experience boyfriend who used to refer to his parents as “mother” and “father” and it was so weird.

GarlicBreadStan · 12/11/2025 21:17

I call my mum "motherino" and my dad "Fatherino". No idea why, it just happened one day and I can't stop myself now 😂

I call my mum "mother" when I need something, and I call my dad "father" when I'm being (very) jokingly formal.

It's strange to me how people call their parents "mother" and "father" seriously and consistently, but it doesn't bother me, because there's obviously reasons for this. Just like how it's strange to me when people call their mum "mam", but again, it doesn't bother me because there's reasons for that, too.

Maybe you need to find bigger things to bother you?

Caledoniablue · 12/11/2025 21:00

Eh? So you called your parent D and M before now referring to them only as Father and Mother?
Would love to hear what you make of me calling mine my Mam and my Da 🤣
What an odd post indeed...

Jc2001 · 12/11/2025 20:41

missmollygreen · 12/11/2025 19:45

You use their names?! That is a little over familiar for my liking.

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Pufft. I usually only speak to them through the butler to avoid all that unpleasant familiarity.

ConnieHeart · 12/11/2025 19:52

PistachioTiramisu · 12/11/2025 19:27

I have just realised that I am so tired of hearing fathers described as 'dads' or mothers as 'mums'. I was discouraged from calling my parents mum and dad and called them Mummy and Daddy until D and M took over. I have never referred to either of them to other people except as 'my father', 'my mother' or 'my parents'. I really hate Mum and Dad.

I'm a bit confused. You hate hearing Mum & Dad yet you called them Mummy & Daddy until you called them Mum & Dad?

AgnesX · 12/11/2025 19:48

Are you Irish by any chance. The only place where mummy and daddy was common; when I was growing up anyway.

CleanShirt · 12/11/2025 19:46

Cool story, got any more?

Hollowvoice · 12/11/2025 19:45

If my children call me "mother" I respond with "yes child?"
Or sometimes "yes elder spawn?"

missmollygreen · 12/11/2025 19:45

BartholemewTheCat · 12/11/2025 19:36

You’re missing a trick OP. I refer to my parents by their first names only. Anything else implies a level of emotion I’m not prepared to indulge in.

You use their names?! That is a little over familiar for my liking.

yousoudou · 12/11/2025 19:44

Mummy and Daddy here. Or if they are feeling brave, Popsicle and Mumsicle 😀

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PistachioTiramisu · 12/11/2025 19:39

BauhausOfEliott · 12/11/2025 19:37

Right. Well, unfortunately the world doesn’t revolve around you, and other people don’t exist to fulfil your strangely specific requirements for how they refer their parents.

If you don’t like the word ‘mum’ then a site called Mumsnet is an odd place to hang around, really.

I'm only here for the conversations - have zero interest in kids.

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BauhausOfEliott · 12/11/2025 19:37

Right. Well, unfortunately the world doesn’t revolve around you, and other people don’t exist to fulfil your strangely specific requirements for how they refer their parents.

If you don’t like the word ‘mum’ then a site called Mumsnet is an odd place to hang around, really.

BartholemewTheCat · 12/11/2025 19:36

You’re missing a trick OP. I refer to my parents by their first names only. Anything else implies a level of emotion I’m not prepared to indulge in.

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PistachioTiramisu · 12/11/2025 19:32

TinselAngel · 12/11/2025 19:32

Are you Joey Maynard?

Who is Joey Maynard?

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TinselAngel · 12/11/2025 19:32

Are you Joey Maynard?

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PistachioTiramisu · 12/11/2025 19:32

DontbesorrybeGiles · 12/11/2025 19:29

I might be missing your point but my 2 year old started calling me mum instead of mummy around 3 months ago and hasn’t stopped. I hate it. She still calls my husband daddy which seems unfair! I wouldn’t refer to my parents as my father or mother to others as it would sound a bit formal. I’d say my mum and my dad.

I do like formal! I would never refer to my parents as 'my mum' or 'my dad' to others.

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JellyIegs · 12/11/2025 19:31

Adults saying mummy/daddy gives me the creeps.

Hoppinggreen · 12/11/2025 19:31

Ok

ShesTheAlbatross · 12/11/2025 19:31

You’re “so tired” of hearing people refers to their parents as “my dad/mum” rather than “my father/mother”?

Why though?

EveryKneeShallBow · 12/11/2025 19:30

I always find it weird when adults use mummy and daddy. It’s just what you get used to I suppose.