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To refuse to give a colleague a lift to/from work?

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NotTonightDeidre · 12/11/2025 18:59

A colleague at work, I'll call her Kate, gets a lift 4 days a week with another colleague, Jen. Jen doesn't work Thursday, but both Kate & I do.

I've given Kate a lift on several occasions but I find it awkward as she's not all that talkative & I'm a very chatty person.

We did some training last week & I was in the same team as Kate, she barely acknowledged me, let alone spoke to me.

We saw each other at work today (we're in different teams day to day) and she half smiled at me. Fast forward to after work & I get a text from Kate asking for a lift tomorrow morning.

AIBU to have replied saying I'm unable to offer a lift at the minute? I feel like a dick, but also, I don't want awkward journeys in my own car.

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EmeraldShamrock000 · 13/09/2026 10:20

This is a zombie thread. Interesting but old.

ConnieHeart · 14/09/2026 11:24

Katemax82 · 13/09/2026 08:04

I was Kate in this situation aged 18. I was happy to walk 2 miles to and from work but this woman in her 60s kind of strong armed me into getting a lift in every day (but not home as she was part time) she also loved halfway to work so it wasn't that beneficial as I had to stop by her house to get said lift.
I hated it because I felt really awkward and was very socially backwards back then. Luckily I changed shifts so it didn't carry on.
Just make excuses or something. Surely this Kate can make her own way

But Kate in the OP asked for lifts so not the same as you

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