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To refuse to give a colleague a lift to/from work?

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NotTonightDeidre · 12/11/2025 18:59

A colleague at work, I'll call her Kate, gets a lift 4 days a week with another colleague, Jen. Jen doesn't work Thursday, but both Kate & I do.

I've given Kate a lift on several occasions but I find it awkward as she's not all that talkative & I'm a very chatty person.

We did some training last week & I was in the same team as Kate, she barely acknowledged me, let alone spoke to me.

We saw each other at work today (we're in different teams day to day) and she half smiled at me. Fast forward to after work & I get a text from Kate asking for a lift tomorrow morning.

AIBU to have replied saying I'm unable to offer a lift at the minute? I feel like a dick, but also, I don't want awkward journeys in my own car.

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Littlejellyuk · 12/11/2025 19:01

I was in this situation. I stopped offering lifts. They used me for lifts, and it became expected. Nope.

Sillysoggyspaniel · 12/11/2025 19:00

I'd say you've got a gym class (or other interest she definitely doesn't have) before or after work so can't do it.

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