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Ex won't remove his belongings

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igotyoubabex · 12/11/2025 17:36

I have made several attempts to contact my ex partner to arrange collection for their belongings in my property. Some of these items include clothing, TVs and electrical equipment. He has blocked me and also my friend who contacted him, trying to prompt collection. This is just a way of controlling me and I'd really just like to get the stuff out of my home and move on. Where would I stand on taking the stuff to the skip and just getting rid of it all? I've tried to contact him multiple times but am still blocked.

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Goodnightreps · 12/11/2025 18:35

Ilovemychocolate · 12/11/2025 18:34

Ugh.
You sound delightful.
Move on and stop being so fucking unpleasant!

Will do

Pluribus calling me!

Goodnightreps · 12/11/2025 18:34

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Ugh.
You sound delightful.
Move on and stop being so fucking unpleasant!

loveawineloveacrisp · 12/11/2025 18:34

Suggest you build a massive fuck-off bonfire and burn the lot. Shame you missed your opportunity on 5th Nov.

igotyoubabex · 12/11/2025 18:33

@Goodnightreps I don't want to be cruel here because I genuinely don't know if you are mentally unwell however, please contact a loved one and seek help if so. Good luck.

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Meadowfinch · 12/11/2025 18:33

I had this issue with an ex who left his trailer in my garden.

I'd taken all his other stuff and dumped it in plastic bags by his back door but I couldn't move a trailer and he refused to collect it.

So I advertised it for sale on Gumtree. I posted a letter to him, directing him to the advert, and explaining that I would be claiming the proceeds of the sale as storage fees.

It disappeared the next day 😁 Keep going OP. You really don't need to tolerate this shit.

TheatricalLife · 12/11/2025 18:33

igotyoubabex · 12/11/2025 18:19

@TheatricalLife he absolutely will be. My daughter will be moving in just before Christmas and he is aware of this. He will be getting a kick out of being awkward. Thank you.

I think then you'll just have to stick to your guns and do as you say. What else can you do? You've got evidence to say you've attempted to contact him multiple times and given him notice that you will be getting rid of his items. Good luck, fingers crossed you never hear from him again!!!

Goodnightreps · 12/11/2025 18:32

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Patronising much?
You have NO IDEA about their relationship.

igotyoubabex · 12/11/2025 18:32

@Wonderknicks honestly haha. Didn't know so many people had crystal balls. They're factually incorrect so I hope nobody pays for their services.

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igotyoubabex · 12/11/2025 18:29

@Goodnightreps I hope you're ok. Sending you healing for whatever is wrong. Take care 💐

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igotyoubabex · 12/11/2025 18:26

@Goodnightreps you've commented this on my post several times. Would you like to share why you feel this is relevant or why you would like to know?

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Goodnightreps · 12/11/2025 18:25

How long were you together?

igotyoubabex · 12/11/2025 18:24

@Goodnightreps she moved house about 2 months ago so I don't have her new address unfortunately.

@FazeleysRoyale yes that's a good suggestion haha. Thank you.

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FazeleysRoyale · 12/11/2025 18:21

Take it to the charity shop. Then he can buy it all back for a good cause

Goodnightreps · 12/11/2025 18:20

igotyoubabex · 12/11/2025 18:17

I did contact his sister a couple of weeks ago who refused to pass on the message. I can't do anymore than I've done.

And you don’t know where she lives?

how long were you together?

igotyoubabex · 12/11/2025 18:19

@TheatricalLife he absolutely will be. My daughter will be moving in just before Christmas and he is aware of this. He will be getting a kick out of being awkward. Thank you.

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igotyoubabex · 12/11/2025 18:17

I did contact his sister a couple of weeks ago who refused to pass on the message. I can't do anymore than I've done.

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TheatricalLife · 12/11/2025 18:17

Well done. You've done all you can. Stick to your word and bin everything on Saturday if he hasn't arrived. You've given him more than enough opportunities to arrange to pick things up. Just be prepared for him to contact you on the Saturday or Sunday kicking up a massive fuss over his stuff. He could be using this as a way to make your life difficult.

Goodnightreps · 12/11/2025 18:16

mamabluestar · 12/11/2025 18:15

You can get 30 minutes free legal advice - would it be worth doing that to find out where you stand?

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mamabluestar · 12/11/2025 18:15

You can get 30 minutes free legal advice - would it be worth doing that to find out where you stand?

Pjdaysese · 12/11/2025 18:15

Just keep all those screenshots of attempts to contact and him blocking you. Ask your friend to send you his screeshots.
Then dump.