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How can this be fair?

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Jenkibuble · 12/11/2025 17:27

Sunday afternoon as I returned from a bike ride a car was in my driveway in front of my garage. As I was trying to get bike in through the back gate (next to garage) I asked him to move back or I would hit the car .
I also told him he could not stay as it was blocking my garage (my car inside !)
Monday , I go to work (bike) and return and the car is still there - back window is open.
Contact non emergency police. Upload pics of it . Told they will attempt to contact owner . Next day they text to tell me council need to sort it.
I phone the council , fobbed off with them not taking action as it is on private land not a road !
The DVLA are not intetrested despite it being untaxed (as it is on private land)
Council are now saying they will stick an abandoned sticker on it giving the owner 7 days to return.
Meanwhile, doors hve been opened, car ransacked , fuse box nicked etc. Not by me.
How is it fair that I have to incur the cost of getting it towed away ?

Do I -
Somehow move the car on to the street - council will deal with it then (do not know how as no manual handbrake - it is a button ) and will I be committing a crime then ?

Pretend I have an emergency and get the police involved that way ? If indeed they would !!!!!!!
RANT OVER !!!!!!!!!

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Jenkibuble · 12/11/2025 20:40

Kangarude · 12/11/2025 18:53

Do some posters not realise that the car is on the OP’s private driveway. Even if it’s blocking the garage, it is not on public land so nothing to do with the police.

OP - I can’t believe you saw someone in the vehicle, on your driveway and you didn’t ask him why he was there or tell him to piss off.

It is not the nicest of areas - knife attack just the other week. I didnt feel safe challenging him on my own . Hence pointed out it was a drive and he would have to move !

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londongirl12 · 12/11/2025 19:48

Have you knocked on all your neighbours doors and asked if they know whose it is?

FOJN · 12/11/2025 19:11

Theunamedcat · 12/11/2025 19:01

Is the battery still in? The handbrake might work if the battery is still connected

For everyone wondering why its been stripped so fast it might be stripped to order the actual owner might be on holiday and unaware its gone there was a scam years ago with airport parking cars dissappear while your on holiday your none the wiser until you land

But surely parking it on a private drive and stripping it there would just draw attention to it. It would draw far less attention if it were parked in a remote country layby.

Theunamedcat · 12/11/2025 19:01

Is the battery still in? The handbrake might work if the battery is still connected

For everyone wondering why its been stripped so fast it might be stripped to order the actual owner might be on holiday and unaware its gone there was a scam years ago with airport parking cars dissappear while your on holiday your none the wiser until you land

Kangarude · 12/11/2025 18:53

Do some posters not realise that the car is on the OP’s private driveway. Even if it’s blocking the garage, it is not on public land so nothing to do with the police.

OP - I can’t believe you saw someone in the vehicle, on your driveway and you didn’t ask him why he was there or tell him to piss off.

Alpacajigsaw · 12/11/2025 18:40

Wait for the thieves to come back and ask them to Hotwire it so you can drive it forward

OnARainyDay2012 · 12/11/2025 18:36

Ask Google how to release the handbrake and put into neutral for that make/model - there is a way otherwise how would it get onto a tow truck if broken down and non starting. E.g. for my car it was to push and hold gearstick over to N. Then push it onto the road.

Goodnightreps · 12/11/2025 18:36

isthesolution · 12/11/2025 18:35

Is it a nice car? To have a button handbrake it can’t be that old? And then it begs the question why on earth would someone abandon it on your drive?!

Id ring the police and tell them you urgently need your car out. Theoretically you can’t get to work, children to school, to visit sick relatives etc!

Well it’s not nice now… according to the op within 48 hours it’s been stripped!!

isthesolution · 12/11/2025 18:35

Is it a nice car? To have a button handbrake it can’t be that old? And then it begs the question why on earth would someone abandon it on your drive?!

Id ring the police and tell them you urgently need your car out. Theoretically you can’t get to work, children to school, to visit sick relatives etc!

ItsOnlyHobnobs · 12/11/2025 18:27

Honestly, phone the police again in a panic and say an unknown abandoned vehicle is blocking your exit, you are stuck and need to travel to your elderly parents urgently.

Don’t talk about the council, keep repeating its obstructing your vehicle/exit. It is a police issue! Don’t let them fob you off.

Goodnightreps · 12/11/2025 18:27

Meanwhile, doors hve been opened, car ransacked , fuse box nicked etc.

what kind of an area do you live in that this happened within a day of it being parked on your driveway?

FOJN · 12/11/2025 18:20

Jenkibuble · 12/11/2025 18:03

I do not know the owner . As he was in the driver's seat and reversed for me to get bike in , assumed he was leaving

I still don't understand why you didn't tell him to get his car off your drive and wait to make sure he'd left or ask him what the hell he thought he was doing parking there in the first place. Do you live near an airport or train station? Have you asked if any of the neighbours know whose car it is? Is it common where you live for cars on driveways to be ransacked? You don't seem surprised this has happened.

Goodnightreps · 12/11/2025 18:16

Jenkibuble · 12/11/2025 18:16

Yep!

Post a pic! Shame him

Jenkibuble · 12/11/2025 18:16

Goodnightreps · 12/11/2025 18:15

So to be clear… you car is in your garage but you can’t exit the garage because this car is parked outside it?

Yep!

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Goodnightreps · 12/11/2025 18:15

So to be clear… you car is in your garage but you can’t exit the garage because this car is parked outside it?

Jenkibuble · 12/11/2025 18:13

DaisyChain505 · 12/11/2025 18:11

Why did you not have more of an issue with the owner when you arrived home and they were on your private drive way. It be telling them to get the F off and taking video evidence and phoning the police infront of them if they refused?

as for the situation now, I would be calling the police and telling them if they don’t come and get involved I will be lifting the handbrake and letting it roll off my driveway and then they’ll be forced to deal with it crashed in the middle of the road!

In hindsight , I should. I live alone and was wary of the confrontation.
The handbrake is not a manual one. It is a button - car key needed !!!!!

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DaisyChain505 · 12/11/2025 18:11

Why did you not have more of an issue with the owner when you arrived home and they were on your private drive way. It be telling them to get the F off and taking video evidence and phoning the police infront of them if they refused?

as for the situation now, I would be calling the police and telling them if they don’t come and get involved I will be lifting the handbrake and letting it roll off my driveway and then they’ll be forced to deal with it crashed in the middle of the road!

SilverPink · 12/11/2025 18:06

Jenkibuble · 12/11/2025 18:03

I do not know the owner . As he was in the driver's seat and reversed for me to get bike in , assumed he was leaving

Did you not ask him why he thought it acceptable to park on a private driveway in front of someone’s garage? I would have waited outside until he had moved it. I had some cheeky fucker park on my drive once, he never did it again.

Jenkibuble · 12/11/2025 18:03

FOJN · 12/11/2025 17:59

I'm a bit confused. Who did you speak to on Sunday? Was the owner in the process of leaving the car on your drive when you returned from your bike ride? Do you know who the owner is?

I do not know the owner . As he was in the driver's seat and reversed for me to get bike in , assumed he was leaving

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SilverPink · 12/11/2025 18:03

FOJN · 12/11/2025 17:59

I'm a bit confused. Who did you speak to on Sunday? Was the owner in the process of leaving the car on your drive when you returned from your bike ride? Do you know who the owner is?

I’m also confused. If some random stranger is parked on your drive you tell them to move in no uncertain terms!

FOJN · 12/11/2025 17:59

I'm a bit confused. Who did you speak to on Sunday? Was the owner in the process of leaving the car on your drive when you returned from your bike ride? Do you know who the owner is?

Rosie8880 · 12/11/2025 17:51

Very unjust. Google who your local councillors are in your ward. Go onto the council website - find your councillor. You will see the email addresses on this. Google the local police station local ward Sargent and their email. Google neighbourhood manager, town centre manager, environmental heath, street safety team / officers.

write an email everyone on email above. Say the car has been abandoned, broken into and people are gathering outside your home and making you feel unsafe.
cc img ward councillors makes anything in council happen faster.

the long and short of it tho is that councils police have no money. Getting rid of s car costs money and if you want it gone asap you’ll probably need to pay for it to be moved / towed/ taken to the car crusher place or whatever it is called ;)

Nickyknackered · 12/11/2025 17:49

Goodness the reading and comprehension skills of people replying to the OP is awful!

McGregor33 · 12/11/2025 17:48

Jenkibuble · 12/11/2025 17:46

A year???????????? Thats DIRE !

Your suggestion is very tempting . I have ailing parents 4 hours away so it could be an option.
Being honest just does not pay off !

The whole cul de sac reported daily to the council as it was a battered old van, no tax, insurance or mot. We eventually got the local mp involved!

In these situations being honest certainly doesn’t help. The neighbour who’s drive it was blocking didn’t have a car, but her daily carers did, the ambulance transport for hospital appointments etc!

Jenkibuble · 12/11/2025 17:46

McGregor33 · 12/11/2025 17:43

It took over a year for our council to move a van which was blocking my neighbours driveway. They just kept adding stickers stating it must be moved within 7 days 🙈

Id call the police and say it needs to be moved asap as you have a family emergency and need out in your car which is blocked in.

A year???????????? Thats DIRE !

Your suggestion is very tempting . I have ailing parents 4 hours away so it could be an option.
Being honest just does not pay off !

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