Would you class this as flirting? DH with shop assistant

Ew. That's gross. Definitely flirting, and she was definitely being polite and felt uncomfortable.

It’s really not nice that you’ve experienced bullying, and I get why a kind comment might feel welcome after that. But that doesn’t make it OK for random men to comment on women’s bodies just because they find them appealing.

And honestly, if my partner felt the need to compliment another woman’s body in front of me, I wouldn’t be feeling particularly lucky.

Not flirting at all so that wouldnt bother me, but I would say unpleasant for the SA who likely just wanted to get on with her job and not have her body commented on by a random man. Have worked in customer facing roles previously and men like this are the absolute worst imo

Tbh it would have made my day i always get called fatty and bullied most of your life because of your size.
To have someone say something nice to you even if it is via a stranger its nice, even with his wife there id think fuck me your a lucky woman.

Its clear op dont like her husband very much.
I mean i dont know how i would feel slagging my partner off online and have other people calling him all sorts.
And all he done was a shit comment to a worker.
What if your husband done this come online and got random people calling you names bulling you, because you said a man looked good.

Its like the thread of the man at the cinema alone no one knew him yet he was a pedo a skank disgusting pig for sitting in a cinema alone.
I see it time and time again on here sheer bulling at men.
So many threads like this.

We was not with you so we dont know what tone he was using.
But i do know if it was me and i found out my partner done this, id be bloody hurt to know they allow random strangers on the net to say such hurtful things about me.

Agreed. The updates have jumped the shark. And posted when it gets quiet.

Why do women still have to put up with this shit?
Your husband is a misogynist pig.

Don't be so bloody ridiculous. He's only 54. He's simply a disgusting misogynistic scrote who needs to clean up his act and grow a decent personality

Is this a local in joke or something ? Please explain !

Er, you said he's 54 not 84.

has he got some kind of cognitive issue? because the 50 year olds I know are fully integrated with modern times

Stop making excuses for him. The world changes. If you get on a plane he can’t smoke anymore. Things change.

If one of my team told me a customer had said that I’d happily throw him out.

Ah, so just a bog standard misogynist?

He’s a bit young for that line, old before his time clearly.

I’m almost sure you’re trolling at this point OP, but either way I feel sorry for you.

This happened to me routinely when I was late teens/twenties. I thought the same then as I do now. Embarrassing.

He is, of course, Dorian Gray.

He got two goals from the situation. The joy of provoking a reaction in OP and being the customer in a possible purchase of expensive goods whilst the young woman trying to act professional and hide her distain behind the laugh. Happens lots. Next time he pulls that stunt don't react say out loudly to her with a smile "His time is done, you need rich, young and handsome" and make sure he hears.

I think we have to take account that his blunder happened in a chocolate shop.
Her comment about liking those specific chocolates is difficult to reply to in the moment. Do you say something like, "oh yes they're good aren't they?" Or do you have a stupid moment and say something along the lines that he did regarding chocolates equalling weight gain.

Without hearing the tone of how it was said, it could be a blunder rather than creepy leering.

I work retail and the creeps get an eye roll afterwards and I'll sometimes tell the story to my family (in the same way I tell them about Karens.) But I'm lucky to never have had someone who makes me feel in danger.

I wouldn't be that bothered about his comment tbh. It wasn't a sexual comment and she probably gets that same sort of comment from both genders every day.

@Asunciondeflata friends? I chuckled

I read today that, in a survey, 13% of men thought they could beat Serena Williams at tennis….

If he seriously thinks his randy old git act has ‘made her day’ then you should burst his high-opinion-of-himself bubble. I wish you could bottle the confidence these losers have in themselves. Pathetic.

Unnecessary to make the comment about how she looks whether you were there or not! My friends husband is like this but it’s the norm for him. Everything is an innuendo. He did also have an affair so make of that what you will!

"You're in good nick"? LMAO well if that is his version of flirting you dont have anything to worry about, he's crap at it lol

This would give me the ick.

Having worked in retail and hospitality, I can say with confidence that comments like that aren’t harmless or flattering - they’re just awkward. There’s this assumption that because you’re serving someone, you’re fair game for unsolicited remarks about your body. You’re part of the service, so apparently it’s fine to be objectified.

Let’s be honest, he wouldn’t say the same thing to a female doctor, solicitor or senior colleague. He knows it would be inappropriate there. So why is it okay when it’s a young woman behind a counter?

Same applies to women who comments to male bartenders @ThatChristmasMug

DH - you couldn’t tell by your figure
DH - seriously, you are in great ‘nick’

Seriously does he not know not to comment on someone's body shape?
Whether the comments are good or bad, Not only is it inappropriate it creepy and sleazy. It didnt make her day... she thought he was a sleaze

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