Would you class this as flirting? DH with shop assistant

The poor poor man….

The 'bulling' accusation did make me laugh though, I had visions of OP's pervy DH being gored by a bull that MNers set on him 😂

I dont drink but you said something about someones sister that has nothing to do with this thread.
I was just wondering whats that about you must have went creeping about other threads to find something of that person.
Bit of an odd thing to do.

Have you been drinking? I really can’t make head nor tail of what you’re talking about. Let’s just leave it shall we….

NO he should not have spoken like that . He did try to flirt with her .. “ Seriously you are in great nick “ !!!
Basically saying I think you have such a nice figure except saying it crassly obviously..
For what it’s worth, I don’t think shop Assistant was uncomfortable or she wouldn’t have answered the first time with “ you’re too kind “ . She would have ignored his comment …
Anyway, bottom line he was way out of order how he spoke & Infront of his wife , I suppose it would make you wonder how he speaks when you’re not there OP …

I agree. Not sure why people think OP's anonymous about a generic perve husband is now 'bulling' the husband, even though he will never see this post.

Ive had issues yes but it has nothing to do with this thread why are you stalk searching me?
Thats creepy.

What a pervy twat, why do sleazy men think women want to hear their comments about their bodies, especially when he's decades older.

But you just brought up @Tryingtolikeyou sister whats that about.
Did you go stalking threads to get dirt.
Whats the dirt spill it.

I get you agree with that poster. But why are you @‘ing me? I’ve got nothing to do with it.

Just don’t comment unsolicited on anyone else’s body. It’s just 🤢 for so many reasons.

Its just a comment to say i agree calm down.

Sounds like you were quite the bully yourself. To your sister.

Ewww in front of you too it’s disrespectful! 😩😩😩

Why are you @‘ing me?

if you feel akin to posters like that then….you do you

@Sherzingaaaaa I have to agreed with @Tryingtolikeyou i would not like it either.

Ugh that’s pretty gross and the poor shop assistant was probably cringing inside! I’d tell him after that it’s totally inappropriate to make any comments on another person ‘s body, not even a compliment.

Creepy.

Lol MN and many users on here need to get a grip and stop bullying people.
Your being ridiculous if you man was slagging you off online you would not be pleased about it.

OP I think his generation does play a big part here. I am an ex-athlete, now I weight train.

It’s always men in their mid 50s and upwards who make remarks on my body in the most casual setting and manner (ladies too, but I don’t mind from them!) Men my age would definitely think twice and choose their timing. I don’t know how much comfort that gives you, maybe he really does deludedly thinks he’s been normal?

Regardless, saying it infront of you especially is out of order. I imagine the sales assistant was mortified on your behalf and didn’t know what to say.

@Bex39 Id feel like him to be honest knowing what others are saying about me online id feel crap.
It would make me wonder in silence is this the first time you have gone online to slag me off.

You can tell ive been through this lol.

Seriously MN need to get a grip on ridiculous posters like this. It’s like being on some kind of weird inarticulate Reddit these days.

Compliments are nice to have.
Shes lucky to me to have a man that dont call every other woman fat or chiny etc, just so his wife dont think hes flirting.
I see someone wearing a hat but no smile on their face ill say oohh nice hat or your hat looks warm. Same as women Ill say nice bottoms they suit you may i ask where you got them.

Just being nice nowdays people will take offence to it.

If it helps*, I'm younger than the shop assistant by the sounds of it and my first thought was something along the lines of 'eww sleazy old man nooo'. Worked in a shop from age 16-18 and I'm very familiar with the type. Felt like I was constantly on display and being appraised and I did not find it flattering. I just wanted to get on with work. Honestly, I immediately pictured a very young shop assistant and was kind of glad to read she was very much an adult, though that still doesn't make it ok. And in front of you too - disrespectful!

It sounds like his first compliment was just about ok, but the second was too much. No. She's there to work, not decoration, just waiting for a man to come along and voice his approval.

I fear many men will never grasp what this feels like though. It's almost dehumanising, even if the intention is being nice.

*Not that it's ok to denigrate and disregard the opinions and feelings of older women! I just meant that women of all ages would agree with you. I want him to be forced to read the book Hags, it was eye-opening for me. Older women have been through life and know what they're talking about, but of course some people like to shut them down with the 'oh it's only a JEALOUS, silly old woman talking'.

He was trying to flirt, he was actually letching. He’s an old letch. Can you imagine what he does when you’re not there. He didn’t make her day. He’s just another old letch to her.

snd my husband whose the same age range would not do this. He’s simply not that creepy.