Page 11 | Would you class this as flirting? DH with shop assistant

Bex39 · 2025-11-12T17:07:08+00:00

DH is adamant I am being OTT and he was just being polite but I disagree. Please help settle this for me. We were in a shop which sells chocolate and he was at the till with me next to him. Shop assistant - those (the chocolates DH was buying) are my favourites DH - I would eat so much chocolate if I worked here SA - tell me about it, I can’t help myself with the samples DH - you couldn’t tell by your figure SA - you are being too kind DH - seriously, you are in great ‘nick’ SA - laughs

Holluschickie · 12/11/2025 18:51

Hons123 · 12/11/2025 18:49

Love advice on MN! Married man and woman being 'friends' and hanging out with members of the opposite sex together - no problem, absolutely the norm, everybody should do that, those who disagree are dinosaurs! Also MN - married man makes polite convo with a shop assistant in front of his wife - sleaze-ball, gross, inappropriate, wrong!

Wow. Do you not see the difference between being friends with a woman- none of my male friends comment on my body btw- and perving on someone in her workplace?

OchonAgusOchonOh · 12/11/2025 18:50

Bex39 · 12/11/2025 18:04

He’s from a different era, stuck in his ways sadly no matter how hard I try to educate him.

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It's nothing to do with being from a different era. My dh is 60 and would never dream of treating a woman so disrespectfully.

I am also 60 and I must say, one of the advantages of getting older is that sleazy men no longer feel entitled to pass comment on my looks. Instead I see my poor daughter having this behaviour inflicted on her by the younger generation of sleazy men though.

ForTipsyFinch · 12/11/2025 18:50

drinkwaterx · 12/11/2025 18:46

Tbh i dont see it as flirting i read it as nothing other than someone trying to be nice in a cheesey way.
But the man aint a cunt, perv almost cheating, dirty fucker, shameful, disgusting yuk or flirting.
Some on this thread need to un-clutch.
Not every man that says something to another woman as sex on his mind ffs.

Maybe next time he should say you can tell you eat chocolate your a fat bitch not a good look.
Then come back to MN and we will call him abusive.

We will soon have men handing out permission slips for us women to fill out before they say anything to us.

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There’s nothing wrong with simply not commenting on a strangers body. Especially when they’re working and especially when it’s in front of their wife.

CustardySergeant · 12/11/2025 18:50

MrsPrendergast · 12/11/2025 17:30

Dear lord. A 54 year old sleaze ball telling a woman she's in great nick. Does he think this is 1975?

He would've been 4 years old then.

Hons123 · 12/11/2025 18:49

Love advice on MN! Married man and woman being 'friends' and hanging out with members of the opposite sex together - no problem, absolutely the norm, everybody should do that, those who disagree are dinosaurs! Also MN - married man makes polite convo with a shop assistant in front of his wife - sleaze-ball, gross, inappropriate, wrong!

CryMyEyesViolet · 12/11/2025 18:49

I was ready to say my husband always flirts in shops but it’s entirely harmless. But what your DH said is borderline sexual harassment and would have massively given me the ick - even just the first comment, never mind the doubling down!

ThatChristmasMug · 12/11/2025 18:48

Holluschickie · 12/11/2025 18:43

Women shouldn't be leering at your son when he is working either. Has anyone said different?

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no, but it's the many posters who make it a MAN problem, and it's always MEN who are sleazy. Back in the real world, it's people. Women are just as bad. Neither are acceptable.

My teen kid, who's still a kid let's be honest, is completely horrified by some of the behaviour. So am I, but not surprised.

Some people are just creep, it's not nice for anyone.

NewBalonz · 12/11/2025 18:47

That 100% did not make her day. He does not understand women. He needs to read this thread.

ClarasSisters · 12/11/2025 18:47

ThatChristmasMug · 12/11/2025 18:42

Funny how my teenage SON has a lot worst to say about WOMEN when he's bartending, but it's always men isn't it? I am guessing because my son (and all the others) are male, it doesn't count?

The double standards are hilarious.

Show us on the thread where the double standards are?

CustardySergeant · 12/11/2025 18:46

Asunciondeflata · 12/11/2025 17:12

Did he tell her that they put it smell in gas?

That makes no sense to me. What does "they put it smell in gas" mean and what has it got to do with a chocolate shop anyway, or with flirting? 😕

drinkwaterx · 12/11/2025 18:46

Tbh i dont see it as flirting i read it as nothing other than someone trying to be nice in a cheesey way.
But the man aint a cunt, perv almost cheating, dirty fucker, shameful, disgusting yuk or flirting.
Some on this thread need to un-clutch.
Not every man that says something to another woman as sex on his mind ffs.

Maybe next time he should say you can tell you eat chocolate your a fat bitch not a good look.
Then come back to MN and we will call him abusive.

We will soon have men handing out permission slips for us women to fill out before they say anything to us.

lazyarse123 · 12/11/2025 18:45

As a former retail worker, albeit not a slim one, I have had comments and it's not nice.
Please show him the thread that we all think he's a sleazy old man and it's not the compliment he thinks it is.
We really don't care what random blokes think about us.

Holluschickie · 12/11/2025 18:43

ThatChristmasMug · 12/11/2025 18:42

Funny how my teenage SON has a lot worst to say about WOMEN when he's bartending, but it's always men isn't it? I am guessing because my son (and all the others) are male, it doesn't count?

The double standards are hilarious.

Women shouldn't be leering at your son when he is working either. Has anyone said different?

Riverswims · 12/11/2025 18:42

yes. on both sides. YANBU

ThatChristmasMug · 12/11/2025 18:42

Funny how my teenage SON has a lot worst to say about WOMEN when he's bartending, but it's always men isn't it? I am guessing because my son (and all the others) are male, it doesn't count?

The double standards are hilarious.

pinkyredrose · 12/11/2025 18:40

Bex39 · 12/11/2025 17:19

I put it to DH that she was likely embarrassed to which he said he thinks he made her day!

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He really doesn't know much about women does he.

Surgz · 12/11/2025 18:40

Cringe cringe🤮 just sleazy ,even worse if she was young. Typical example of shop assistant' doing their job' and the misguided male ego

Coasted · 12/11/2025 18:38

ThatChristmasMug · 12/11/2025 18:35

MN Bingo, all the haters coming in force to scream yuk, sleezy, revolting, disgusting. You cannot make that up 😂

Yes, I am female, before someone get all miffed and accuse me to have a penis or something😂

I guess some women will put up with misogynistic crap and others won't.

nutbrownhare15 · 12/11/2025 18:38

He thinks he made her day, just like the builders who shout at women walking by- they say it's a compliment but it's really male entitlement to comment on women's bodies.

ForTipsyFinch · 12/11/2025 18:38

Oh that is such a cringy sleazy thing to say 🤢

Sherzingaaaaa · 12/11/2025 18:37

Bex39 · 12/11/2025 18:04

He’s from a different era, stuck in his ways sadly no matter how hard I try to educate him.

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He absolutely is not. He’s 4 yrs older than me. None of my male friends would ever ever speak to someone like that. Stop making excuses for your prick of a husband.

Holluschickie · 12/11/2025 18:37

ThatChristmasMug · 12/11/2025 18:35

MN Bingo, all the haters coming in force to scream yuk, sleezy, revolting, disgusting. You cannot make that up 😂

Yes, I am female, before someone get all miffed and accuse me to have a penis or something😂

Because it is. I don"t care about the OP. I care about the poor young woman.

Anyahyacinth · 12/11/2025 18:36

The “great nick” is the ick

ThatChristmasMug · 12/11/2025 18:35

MN Bingo, all the haters coming in force to scream yuk, sleezy, revolting, disgusting. You cannot make that up 😂

Yes, I am female, before someone get all miffed and accuse me to have a penis or something😂

OneFineDay22 · 12/11/2025 18:33

Bex39 · 12/11/2025 18:04

He’s from a different era, stuck in his ways sadly no matter how hard I try to educate him.

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From a different era? My dad is older than him and he would never comment on a woman’s body. If he ever has it wasn’t in front of me/my mum.