To ask you to reconnect with that person you’ve drifted away from?

Beat me to it!! I’d only let them down again 😅

Ah, I did this a couple of years ago. Went to a school reunion. Someone I had loved wasn't there. Contacted her to say 'You were missed' Got back in touch - having not seen each other in forty years. Never stopped talking. As if no time had passed. Been on holiday together twice now, with another planned for next year.

Definitely @TryingAgainAgainAgain

MARCH? Neither of you have a date free in your schedule for 4 months?

I'm getting the impression that this is an issue rather close to the bone for OP.
Only instead of posting about it openly, she's projecting it randomly onto MN users. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Wow it's like walking into a room of teenagers who've been asked to unload the dishwasher ' fuck off, you can't tell me what to do'
I actually text my ex co worker yesterday. No fall out just life got busy. We are meeting for coffee later this week and I can't wait.

I got deleted?! Wow that’s not happened in a very long time and the sentiment was spot on and I used a MN approved acronym too. I think I will dampen it down and say references to only certain posters having “beautiful warm hearts” are both patronising and smug, I think that’s appropriately sanitised!

There’s a difference between suggesting to people that, if they keep thinking “oh I must contact Jane “ but then forgetting that it may be worth making that effort than saying unless you’ve had a massive falling out then you need to get back in touch with people.

if we are “asking” people to do things, can I ask you to do some work on emotional intelligence and your locus of control.

MN's very own Cilla Black I suspect.

No story to share yourself, op?

Did you just hope to have people fawning over how wonderfully inspiring you are?

Beautiful warm heart OP

It's a coincidence - but I've just sent a message to someone I used to be really close to - saw them at an event and we hugged and said we should catch up, I sent an email today (about 5 hours ago) It's been read - but they have not responded - I think there is no harm in trying,

Well I regularly delete phone numbers of people I haven’t spoken to in years and don’t have social media, so I couldn’t even if I wanted to!
But as others have said people drift apart for a reason, and I think most people wouldn’t welcome a message from someone from the past.

Is it just me that absolutely hates the phrase ‘this is your sign’? Overused and means nothing. Makes me irrationally angry and feels patronising (yes, I know I’m missing the point of the thread!)

You first OP. How did it go?

It's this part of 'be kind' bullshit? Life is not 'Love Actually', ffs.

I had this done to me and it was extremely bizarre. One 'friend' I haven't heard from/seen for decades. We were kids, I last saw her when I was maybe 11 or so, I'm 37 now. And I didn't especially liked her then. Just what do you want from me? I know nothing about you and don't want to know.

Another contacted me just recently. We went to the same school, were in the same class. We were friends of sorts, but not besties. I finished school in 2006. I want nothing to do with her.

People don't 'drift' just like that, there's a reason. All this 'reconnection' works out only in Hallmark movies, not reality.

Such negative people responding. I can see why people drifted away from those who have posted so far.

I mean that’s a negative thing to say as well OP.

@officiallybringing The vast majority of the time people ‘drifting’ is a natural process that both parties are consciously complicit in. And actually, sometimes people like me have tried but it’s not good for mental health to reach out to people who quite obviously have no intention to reciprocate and so we quickly learn to not repeatedly do it!

Also, it would be a boring thread anyway as other PP have said.

Who do you think you are OP?🙄🙄🙄

The best friendships dont draft apart.
Mr Net Curtain has a friend hes known since school.
They always been in touch and never fallen out.

I very recently reconnected with an old school friend. We had been friends since nursery. We did have a falling out, which was upsetting at the time. But I care very deeply for him and often wondered how he was.

So eventually I just thought OK, I'll send a text. We text a little here and there now. We will never be best friends again but I am willing to say I would always be there to help him if needed.

I have drifted from other friends over the years and wouldn't contemplate ever contacting them again! Two in particular let me down spectacularly when I was at my very lowest. I hope they are well, but I don't need 'fair weather friends' like that.

You know the feeling yourself if it is worth it or not.

Why?
Waste of time and energy - I no longer need them in my life and vice versa.

💐 I had the same thing happen when I was a teenager and even now it's still stings a bit. I accept now she she will always live rent free in a part of my head but I can also remember the joy that she brought to my life (this has literally taken years).

Having said that there is no way in hell I,'d try to reconnect with her so try not to let this thread get to you too much. The OPs motives don't seem entirely pure anyway.