4yo won’t wear a nappy to bed…

I had this with mine when she was little, I used to reduce drinks after 6pm - so small amounts and a couple of sips before bed around 8pm. I would also wake her around 11.30 or 12 when I went to bed and walk her to the loo (pretty much asleep) and let her go - it reduced the wetting. I also had waterproofs on the bed, layered up with sheets and often used old cot sheets (flat not fitted) and layed those up so could just whip them off and get jamas off and get child back to bed asap. Quick bath or shower in the am - so often didn't do bath at nighttime just in the am instead

Does he wet the bed every night? I got some training pants not pampers washable ones and a waterproof bed sheet. It's all a blur now as it was so long ago. It's tough and the laundry is endless at the time but eventually he stopped. Remember to limit his drinks before bedtime.

For night wetting this is a hormone that kicks in at some point, for some kids it’s early but for many it can take a while (and I think boys are often later) mine weren’t dry at night until 6ish and that was with lifting at around 11pm as well. I bought pull up pants which seem slightly more grown up than traditional nappies. I tried letting them be wet but it just didn’t help and they didn’t ‘learn’. It just happened in their own time.

Alarm worked pretty quick for us with different ages eg week or two and not many accidents before more confident of being dry. But will only work if they are close to being ready

using the alarm - we did pants inside with alarm attached then pull up ) older kid type ones over then pyjamas so the pull up catches the leak as it starts/as alarm going off

You need multiple sheets, multiple plastic sheets, and multiple puppy pads.

Layering is your friend! Plastic sheet, puppy pad, then normal sheet - do this two or three times. If you have them, fleecy blankets instead of a duvet as they dry much quicker and wick away the wee better than a duvet. If you can't, then a fleecy blanket with a duvet on top helps.

Then they can be easily whipped off during the night (get your son to help you) and just leave till the morning to wash. Lay out clean PJs as well. Would he try Ninjamas pants?

I had two who wet in the night until quite late - one of them wasn't arsed in the slightest and wore a pull up; the other wouldn't so we did the above.

NB - you can lift or whatever, but not peeing at night is due to a hormone; if he's not ready, he's not ready. You can't force it.

Agree with lifting him out for a wee before you go to bed (although we still sometimes had accidents after doing this!) but we also put an incontinence topsheet on the bed, which can be whipped off to dry sheets underneath. Friends have layered up bedding with disposable puppy pads inbetween the sheets, which also works and is less disruptive than changing the entire bed overnight.

It is a positive that your DS doesn't want to wear a nappy. It will mean some extra washing and before bedtime toilet checks in the short term but it will be worth it.

“Lifting” is pretty common amongst kids his age. When you go to bed you gently take them to the loo, keeping everything very dark and quiet and they have a wee and then go straight back to sleep / barely even wake up in the first place. Doesn’t work with everyone though - my oldest son would fully wake up and take ages to go back so I used to get the puppy training pads and put them in his bed for night time accidents!

Get waterproof sheets and you will have to get used to washing them and his pjs some mornings until it stops and he trains himself to hold ot in.

I used to do this with mine.

I lifted dd onto the potty in her semi sleep from three until five before I went to bed.

We did a dark v quiet loo trip when we went to bed at 10.30 each night for a few months.
It is really positive that he wants no nappy. If he has wet by the time you go in at 10.30 try earlier.. it will give you an idea what time you need to pop in and take him to the loo,

If he's not waking when he wets, one of those alarms that goes off at the first drop of pee might help him. You can read about them on the ERIC website.

I'd say help him. I'm presuming he goes to bed about 7, so limit drinks a little before he goes to bed. Wake him at 10 and take him to the toilet - keep the lights loo so he settles back to sleep easily. Consider getting an alarm that you can attach to his pyjamas which will wake him if he's starting to go. It's a learning process.