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To think that if you’re in a position of choice, you should always choose affluence?

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TheTaupeMoose · 11/11/2025 19:26

If you can choose comfort, ease, security and options, why wouldn’t you? Struggle isn’t noble. Rich is just better. AIBU to say that given the choice, choosing affluence every time just makes sense?

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TheTaupeMoose · 11/11/2025 19:39

Arlanymor · 11/11/2025 19:33

What are you rattling on about? Who chooses affluence that they don't earn?

I meant more about making intentional choices that lead to security and comfort when the option exists, not about unearned wealth.

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TheTaupeMoose · 11/11/2025 19:38

JadeSquid · 11/11/2025 19:33

So let's say a very rich but abusive man wants to marry me, I should say yes because I can be affluent?

I meant choosing stability and comfort when it’s healthy and ethical to do so. Affluence isn’t worth anything if it costs your peace or safety.

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Girasoli · 11/11/2025 19:38

I wouldn't choose affluence if it meant a more stressful job/working full time.
I'm pretty happy somewhere in the middle (not struggling but not multiple holidays or private school either).

gannett · 11/11/2025 19:37

Affluence is not a choice, or at least not the only factor to choose from.

If you're in a position to choose a job you love rather than one that would kill your soul, or a spouse you love rather than someone who repulses you, those are also preferred choices, even if they come at the expense of affluence.

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TheTaupeMoose · 11/11/2025 19:37

missmollygreen · 11/11/2025 19:32

Are you saying that all people in poverty are there because the made a noble choice over being rich?
Are you smoking crack?

That’s not what I said at all. I was talking about situations where people do have genuine choice, not about poverty or blame.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 11/11/2025 19:34

I chose a career helping people rather than screwing them. I have less money than I would have had. But a much better life. And although I don’t believe in karma, I’ve been very lucky so the choice to earn less has been offset by things working out for me, mostly.

It’s not about struggle necessarily, it’s about wanting the world to be better, not just my house.

Arlanymor · 11/11/2025 19:33

What are you rattling on about? Who chooses affluence that they don't earn?

JadeSquid · 11/11/2025 19:33

So let's say a very rich but abusive man wants to marry me, I should say yes because I can be affluent?

missmollygreen · 11/11/2025 19:32

Are you saying that all people in poverty are there because the made a noble choice over being rich?
Are you smoking crack?