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My daughters surgery has been cancelled within 12 hours of admission for the second time just now - AIBU to think this is so cruel for her to keep being subjected to?

26 replies

jugof · 11/11/2025 19:11

My daughter was booked to have an operation 6 weeks ago, was cancelled the night before and it has just happened again tonight, lots of preparation and sacrifices (cancelled driving test, delaying new job start, not booking trips with friends that would clash etc) husband works away and has come home twice for a week at a time, doesnt get paid if not in work, I am self employed and have twice booked out time to be caring for her in recovery

We were heading out to get her something nice to eat before nil by mouth started, bags packed (mine and hers as ill be staying with her), dog sitters sorted etc etc

Its such a horrible, helpless feeling, even though, the reason (not enough intensive care beds) is understandable, I cant comprehend keep going through this over and over again.

Do you think theres any chance they will take seriously the inconvenience and emotional upset to a young girl and put something in place to have it rebooked quickly or are we just back in the queue?

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Sillysoggyspaniel · 11/11/2025 19:26

Presumably everyone who needs intensive care afterwards is also hugely inconvenienced by cancellations, so I would have thought you'll be back in the queue based on medical need. It sucks though 😢