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To challenge this informal warning at work?

55 replies

PaperwhiteTheGhost · 11/11/2025 18:47

Short version: manager told me today I'll be receiving an informal warning- a letter- from HR for discussing my salary. I want to challenge this as it as 1- it's illegal to prohibit employees from disclosing their salary and 2- I don't think there is an issue with it either.
However, it is an informal warning that doesn't go on my file and my manager is of the opinion that it's inconsequential and not worth bothering to challenge.
What would you do?

More info if required: I am a registered healthcare professional working for a private company but in the public sector. My role is equivalent of NHS band 6.

My salary is pretty average and works out roughly to what I'd be earning at the top of NHS band 6- I am paid a flat rate salary which is comparable to band 6 NHS salary with shift/antisocial hours allowance and London Weighting added. We don't get any extras aside from planned overtime.

I have only ever mentioned my salary in passing when it has come up in context of general conversation.

As far as im aware, there was no complaint about me, rather another employe asked why they weren't paid as much as me which annoyed the head of department who took it to HR.

OP posts:
Zempy · 11/11/2025 19:07

They can’t discipline you for this. You can raise a grievance about it. Your union rep should be able to talk you through the process.

Prelim · 11/11/2025 18:59

You have done nothing wrong and I would ask them to point out the policy that states you have. The only way women get further and get the pay they deserve is by discussing it. We have discussed it at work and managed to get pay rises out of it. The only reason they don’t you want talking about it is because they know there is inequality. Otherwise why would they be worried about it?

Arlanymor · 11/11/2025 18:58

I would absolutely challenge this - they need to show you where in your contract it states you are prohibited from talking about your salary with other people. I have never heard of this as a clause outside of the finance industry. If you are a member of a union get their support too.

AintNoPunshineWhenShesGone · 11/11/2025 18:54

I'd be discussing this with my union rep.

Although it seems most of MN aren't in a union but I hope you are.

Upthenorth · 11/11/2025 18:50

If it’s informal there isn’t a right to appeal as such.

But it’s totally wrong! I would ask them to show you the policy in which they ban discussion around pay and go from there.

I wouldn’t let it lie personally. What a nonsense.