To be worried social services will remove my child

Well done on leaving him. Don’t allow him access to your children and don’t ever return to him.

I would seek therapy or counselling for yourself and your children, and tell their new school what has happened so if they act up at school their teachers are understanding and supportive.

Already explained that I meant 'how is he?'.

Excuse me, what do you mean by this post?
I really hope that you aren't being sarcastic and critical of the OP who has been through so much and has demonstrated amazing strength and bravery

Your ex should have been prosecuted for attempted murder. Can't believe you let this serious incident go. But its in the past so I doubt SS will act now.

Congratulations on finding the strength to leave your ex husband, amazing.
Wishing you and your children all the best for the future

You have been subjected to domestic violence and coercive control and have bravely taken yourself and your children away from it. Social Services will be understanding and supportive as any concerns for the children have been greatly reduced by leaving the aggressor. Good luck, I hope you feel more able to relax and put your fears aside.

OP, please don't think you did anything wrong. That's exactly what he's brainwashed you to think. You were in an abusive relationship and you got your kids to a place of safety. That's a massive achievement.
You do need some support now. Both you and your kids need TLC. Start with your GP or health visitor and take things from there.
You've got this.

Well done OP. You did a brave thing for your children. I am not really qualified to comment on the social services element of this but you should be proud of yourself. I recommend talking to a professional if you can to process this. Good luck.

It wasn't meant to be anything but a question how it went. If anything, it validates your post here as the circumstances haven't changed at all. And I wasn't one of the people telling you to give it up, he was an awful child who needed to be kept away from others.

Is your disclosure part of the appeal process or something you've said to a SEND expert/new teacher/PRU staff?

Why not? Because referring to a 'previous incident' usually derails a thread into 'what happened?' 'what was the previous incident?' 'here's a link to the previous thread' 'it's terribly bad form to stalk the OP and post links to a previous thread' 'I'd never post a link to a previous thread' 'Is there a previous thread?' 'Have I read this post before?' and suchlike.

No, I was asking how he was. I posted on your exclusion thread telling you about how the appeal process would enable you to access an independent SEND expert at no cost, which could help establish any need arising from the assaults/attempted murder on the part of his father.

You’re brave and strong! I hope you get the support you need.
You’re a good mother - they won’t take them off you.
You didn’t deserve what happened to you 💐

I’m a social worker. If you are honest with them about the past, don’t allow the children any contact with your ex, and don’t get into a new relationship you won’t be at any risk of losing them (unless there are unrelated concerns about your ability to meet their needs/ them being beyond your control).

if you’re not honest they are likely to perceive the risk to be higher.

if you allow the children contact with your ex they will need to be confident that this doesn’t pose your children risk (which it sounds like it would from what you’ve said).

if you get a new partner - could be fine, but they will be concerned about a pattern repeating and you not being able to spot warning signs. If you do meet a new partner be honest with them, let them police check him etc.

Sorry, probably in the minority, but I honestly struggle to see how a mother could allow her children to be punched and kicked. I get that with DV there is coercion and emotional manipulation, and understand if you had no children how you could be beaten down mentally, but watching your DCs go through physical abuse? Good that you’ve escaped, but hope it’s not too late to save them from severe emotional trauma in their adult years.

Did you need to specify exactly what was said in a previous post? How about ‘how is your son now doing since the incident you previously posted about?’.

Nice necessary pedantic correction there 🤨