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AIBU?

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To want to trim my large dangley labia minora myself with scissors

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Foolsr · 11/11/2025 17:40

Obviously AIBU but I'm seriously on the edge of doing it. They look VULGAR. They look like a bloody small penis and I've convinced myself it's why DH doesn't want sex with me (he says not, but of course he would say that).

I feel ugly. I look ugly (down there). I cannot afford surgery.

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Pleasegetmeacoffeesotired · 11/11/2025 18:13

I'm certain that's not the issue. He married you knowing what your labia looked like, didn't he?

You're just a member of the #outieclub.

MatildaTheCat · 11/11/2025 18:12

ONLY SHARE DESCRIPTION OF YOUR GENITALIA IF YOU GENUINELY DONT MIND WHO IS READING AND ENJOYING THIS

henlake7 · 11/11/2025 18:10

PrayForMyBum · 11/11/2025 17:52

Mine could have their own postcode. Style it out, I say. Christmas baubles?

A few naked star jumps and they'll give you a round of applause too!😂

Libellousness · 11/11/2025 18:07

Open, infected wounds are not exactly going to be an aesthetic improvement.

Oneeyedonkey · 11/11/2025 18:04

Whereismyfleeceblanket · 11/11/2025 17:57

Speak to your GP. Labia plasty could be a possibility..

Counselling might be a better option!

Oneeyedonkey · 11/11/2025 18:04

I can assure you they'll look a dam site worse if you chop them off with scissors, then bleed and potentially cause a bloody infection

menopausalfart · 11/11/2025 17:59

Are they causing physical discomfort? If not, they're perfect.

Whereismyfleeceblanket · 11/11/2025 17:57

Speak to your GP. Labia plasty could be a possibility..

ConflictofInterest · 11/11/2025 17:56

Oh god what a thought, throw away the scissors now. Your vulva is normal not ugly, https://www.thegreatwallofvulva.com/about/ take a look at the great wall of vulva sculpture project. Every single one is different and normal.

The Project

It’s not vulgar, it’s vulva! This isn’t just sensation, it is art with a social conscience and Jamie wants you to stop, look and listen. As an artwork it succeeds as a visual spectacle whilst surreptitiously educating by stealth! Quite simply, this Vag...

https://www.thegreatwallofvulva.com/about/

Screwyousimon · 11/11/2025 17:56

I wouldnt even know what mine looked like!

Overtheatlantic · 11/11/2025 17:53

I’ve got a big one and a small one lol.

PrayForMyBum · 11/11/2025 17:52

Mine could have their own postcode. Style it out, I say. Christmas baubles?

JustTakeTheCakeJake · 11/11/2025 17:50

Christ almighty. Don't even think about that.

I understand how horrible it feels but i bet you any money that's not why you have relationship issues

caramac04 · 11/11/2025 17:48

Labia are variable and are unlikely to put a grown man off having sex with a woman. Larger labia are often preferable as the man gets additional sensation.
I hope I’m right in thinking you’re not serious about damaging yourself and potentially causing a horrible infection.
In some tribes, women would stretch their labia and the longer and danglier the better. Not too comfortable for those of us who wear knickers and jeans though.
This sounds more like you are struggling with low self-esteem. Trust me, I have seen literally hundreds of labia and every single one has been normal and absolutely fine.
Be kind to yourself.

YarraValley · 11/11/2025 17:41

I think it’s unlikely that it’s the reason your husband doesn’t want to have sex. What’s the rest of the relationship like?

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