To want to trim my large dangley labia minora myself with scissors

estellacandance · 14/11/2025 09:51

Your DH needs to go to the gp. No libido and no discussion will end your marriage.

affair?
porn addiction?
history of CSA?

it’s him not your body

FlayOtters · 11/11/2025 19:52

Oneeyedonkey · 11/11/2025 19:42

Spend the 4 grand on therapy!

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meh, people are allowed to want cosmetic surgery - especially if it's affecting their mental health. But, as I said, don't do it with the aim of fixing the relationship.

Oneeyedonkey · 11/11/2025 19:42

FlayOtters · 11/11/2025 19:35

Labiaplasty is about £4k. If you are serious then save up and get it done. But don't think that it will magically save your sex life because it won't. It is almost certainly not the reason your husband won't have sex with you.

Spend the 4 grand on therapy!

FlayOtters · 11/11/2025 19:35

Labiaplasty is about £4k. If you are serious then save up and get it done. But don't think that it will magically save your sex life because it won't. It is almost certainly not the reason your husband won't have sex with you.

Oneeyedonkey · 11/11/2025 19:26

I genuinely cannot get my head around this level of obsession around your labia

I can't say I ever think about mine, let alone look.

I'll be back in 10 mins

Oneeyedonkey · 11/11/2025 19:23

I'm sorry. But how often is your husband is standing there inspecting your labia?

Do you examine his penis?

Surely under the covers no ones body is perfect??!!

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Foolsr · 11/11/2025 19:08

I don't watch porn
They stretched after child birth
I'm extremely embarrassed by them & esp in front of dh.
Relationship is good otherwise... just no sex coz he never wants it and won't discuss

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margegunderson · 11/11/2025 19:05

If your husband is that shallow ditch him. They shrink in peri - I wouldn’t risk it. Also ouch and infection.

margegunderson · 11/11/2025 19:05

If your husband is that shallow ditch him. They shrink in peri - I wouldn’t risk it. Also ouch and infection.

whatcanthematterbe81 · 11/11/2025 18:44

mine are like this but it didn’t occur to me that they were not meant to be. Def no complaints from my other half either so I’m pretty sure that your partner isn’t repulsed by them like you seem to be. Sorry you feel like this tho

devildeepbluesea · 11/11/2025 18:44

PrayForMyBum · 11/11/2025 17:52

Mine could have their own postcode. Style it out, I say. Christmas baubles?

🤣🤣🤣

I hear you!

Hankunamatata · 11/11/2025 18:42

Except how they look and tbh never paid much attention to mine. Does it cause you any issues?

Pleasegetmeacoffeesotired · 11/11/2025 18:41

PiccadillyPurple · 11/11/2025 18:38

It must be hormonal as they don't grow larger until puberty. I wonder if it took your hormones a while to settle down after childbirth and you maybe had less oestrogen than normal for those few months.

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That was probably it. I was breastfeeding so my estrogen was probably lower. They came back around when my period started again so presumably when my estrogen started rising again.

GooseyGandalf · 11/11/2025 18:40

https://www.thegreatwallofvulva.com

editing to add: this is a link to a brilliant art exhibition that attempted to address the self esteem issues created by pornification and show what a variety of shapes and sizes women are

Home

https://www.thegreatwallofvulva.com

PiccadillyPurple · 11/11/2025 18:38

Pleasegetmeacoffeesotired · 11/11/2025 18:34

That is interesting. Mine did the same thing after childbirth. Almost disappeared. They did come back after a few months though.

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It must be hormonal as they don't grow larger until puberty. I wonder if it took your hormones a while to settle down after childbirth and you maybe had less oestrogen than normal for those few months.

Hoardasurass · 11/11/2025 18:37

Please speak to a mental health professional asap as this is not a healthy way to think about your perfectly normal body.
Body dismorphia takes all forms its not just plastic surgery addicts who have it

PeonyPatch · 11/11/2025 18:37

…seriously?! Is this what us women in2025 are worrying about now? Cor blimey

estellacandance · 11/11/2025 18:37

Stop watching porn.

Kerrie1973 · 11/11/2025 18:36

Foolsr · 11/11/2025 17:40

Obviously AIBU but I'm seriously on the edge of doing it. They look VULGAR. They look like a bloody small penis and I've convinced myself it's why DH doesn't want sex with me (he says not, but of course he would say that).

I feel ugly. I look ugly (down there). I cannot afford surgery.

Holy fuckballs. Do not understand any circumstances do this!! Labia come in all shapes and sizes and they are all normal!

If your husband has a prpblem with them, get a new husband.

Don't mutilate yourself!!!

Pleasegetmeacoffeesotired · 11/11/2025 18:34

PiccadillyPurple · 11/11/2025 18:32

Mine shrank after menopause and now I can barely find them. One side in particular used to hang an inch below the labia majora. You don't say how old you are but you might find the same if you're not post-menopause yet,

That is interesting. Mine did the same thing after childbirth. Almost disappeared. They did come back after a few months though.

PiccadillyPurple · 11/11/2025 18:32

Mine shrank after menopause and now I can barely find them. One side in particular used to hang an inch below the labia majora. You don't say how old you are but you might find the same if you're not post-menopause yet,

SpaceRaccoon · 11/11/2025 18:31

OP there's nothing wrong with having larger labia, and preference is very culturally specific. Where I grew up, women purposefully extend theirs to make them as large as possible as this is considered the height of sexual beauty.

Anyahyacinth · 11/11/2025 18:29

Seriously unless they are uncomfortable for you any sexual partner worrying about it wouldn’t be doing it right…our variety is what makes life great. Big hug …stop being unkind to yourself ♥️

seaelephant · 11/11/2025 18:24

Grow out your bush, mine hangs out but I haven’t seen it in years

CliantheLang · 11/11/2025 18:21

Get off the porn. Please.