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Neighbour heard everything!

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Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 12:30

So I have been divorced a year and have been talking to a guy for a good while (we have met a few times prior to this) anyway, we ended up back to my house one night and my neighbour heard the whole thing. To the point where she knocked on the wall. I want to die of embarrassment, I saw her the other morning and she usually says hi, nothing, I think she now hates me.

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Happyjoe · 11/11/2025 13:27

Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 12:37

It was the look she gave me, I felt so rubbish

Don't, it was probably envy!!

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Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 13:12

LeavesTrees · 11/11/2025 12:58

I suppose it depends what she heard and also if she has kids who also may have heard it.

My next door neighbours used to have noisy sex in the garden when they first moved in - the elderly neighbour the other side of them soon put a stop to that!

While it’s great for you, it’s often not very nice to hear it.

I completely understand that and I do feel bad about it. I haven’t done it since. She does have children and I understand why she may have been annoyed

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LeavesTrees · 11/11/2025 12:58

I suppose it depends what she heard and also if she has kids who also may have heard it.

My next door neighbours used to have noisy sex in the garden when they first moved in - the elderly neighbour the other side of them soon put a stop to that!

While it’s great for you, it’s often not very nice to hear it.

FlyingUnicornWings · 11/11/2025 12:54

Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 12:37

It was the look she gave me, I felt so rubbish

God forbid a woman enjoys a bit of sexy time with her man. Fair enough you should maybe turn the volume down, but her shaming you is not on!

MaplePumpkin · 11/11/2025 12:54

Apart from usually saying hi, do you have much of a relationship with her? Does it really matter if she’s now blanking you?

ldnmusic87 · 11/11/2025 12:43

She's entitled to be grouchy if you kept her up, but you are also entitled to a sex life.

It will blow over.

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Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 12:40

This was a few weeks ago now, thought it would have blown over tbh

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Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 12:39

ldnmusic87 · 11/11/2025 12:38

Maybe it was very late and she was fed-up?

Maybe. I saw her this morning too she literally blanked me again. Oh well never mind I suppose

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ldnmusic87 · 11/11/2025 12:38

Maybe it was very late and she was fed-up?

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Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 12:37

It was the look she gave me, I felt so rubbish

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Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 12:37

ldnmusic87 · 11/11/2025 12:36

Can you hear her through the wall?

Occasionally I can yes but never heard anything like that, just the dog etc.

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ldnmusic87 · 11/11/2025 12:36

Can you hear her through the wall?

Idontjetwashthefucker · 11/11/2025 12:35

🙄

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Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 12:34

Butchyrestingface · 11/11/2025 12:32

Did she ever knock the wall when you were with your ex?

No never, this one was a bit more spicy I’m guessing

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Butchyrestingface · 11/11/2025 12:32

Did she ever knock the wall when you were with your ex?