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Neighbour heard everything!

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Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 12:30

So I have been divorced a year and have been talking to a guy for a good while (we have met a few times prior to this) anyway, we ended up back to my house one night and my neighbour heard the whole thing. To the point where she knocked on the wall. I want to die of embarrassment, I saw her the other morning and she usually says hi, nothing, I think she now hates me.

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GehenSieweiter · 11/11/2025 17:21

I don't fancy being kept awake by someone else's loud sex either, nothing to do with jealousy, just annoying.

No5ChalksRoad · 11/11/2025 17:20

Happyjoe · 11/11/2025 13:27

Don't, it was probably envy!!

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I doubt that.

Decent people used to play music, or whatever it took, to avoid being overheard. Just because it's "natural" doesn't mean anyone wants to be an unwilling party to it.

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 11/11/2025 17:18

BlueDwarf · 11/11/2025 14:57

If she has children I can see why she's pissed off to be honest. Depending on their age that's a difficult conversation to have a 2 in the morning.

Also depends whether you were emitting normal levels of passion or howling like a performing monkey.

Unfortunately had to do this thanks to our neighbour. We blamed the foxes.

A one off, I could put up with. But if it becomes frequent...my god I wanted to throttle our neighbour. We started going to bed at 9 so we were fast asleep before it started. We'd phone her in the middle to ask her to stfu. She thought it was hilarious we could hear.

FatherDickByrneV · 11/11/2025 17:16

These things happen and its hardly the crime of the century. I don't think you should ignore the issue. You never know when/if you might need her in the future. Be brave. Post a note and small box of chocs through her letterbox. Just apologise for the noise and say it won't happen again. Next time you see her after that try saying hi again. If she's still icy after that then its her issue but at least you'll have tried ❤️

Desmodici · 11/11/2025 17:14

Take her a bottle of wine; hand it over while apologising.
Then produce a second bottle from behind your back and say, 'And this is for the next time!' Run away, chortling loudly.

Missj25 · 11/11/2025 16:48

Can you not just approach her & say “ look I’m very embarrassed about the last night , I would just like to say sorry , I know you have kids & I’d hate if you were out with me over it “ , leave it like that, anyone worth bothering with will accept apology .

Dartmoorcheffy · 11/11/2025 16:43

Of course you can next time you see her, just say "I am so sorry for the other night, had a bit too much to drink and got carried away",

Or act dumb, ask if you've done something to upset her and when she says what it is, blame it on your "friend/sister/anyone else" who was staying while you were away overnight 😃

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Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 16:36

Dartmoorcheffy · 11/11/2025 16:33

Have you apologised to her?

I can’t!

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Dartmoorcheffy · 11/11/2025 16:33

Have you apologised to her?

AdoraBell · 11/11/2025 16:33

Don’t feel bad about this OP

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Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 16:31

I’m honestly not proud of it, I’m mortified

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Overtheatlantic · 11/11/2025 15:55

Your sex must feel better than mine. I’ve never had a neighbour knock on the wall.

Conniebygaslight · 11/11/2025 15:29

Bluecrystal2 · 11/11/2025 14:36

Don't worry, it will blow over.

I heard my neighbour's best friend banging her husband when she was in hospital.

Yikes!

Jenpen31 · 11/11/2025 15:05

I think most people have heard this through their walls at one time or another. Dont worry about it.

BlueDwarf · 11/11/2025 14:57

If she has children I can see why she's pissed off to be honest. Depending on their age that's a difficult conversation to have a 2 in the morning.

Also depends whether you were emitting normal levels of passion or howling like a performing monkey.

Screwyousimon · 11/11/2025 14:50

I had a screamer next door to me in my old house. Holy shit I thought she was being murdered when I first heard her (made worse by the fact she had young teens). I bought ear plugs for the next time but never said a word.

Bluecrystal2 · 11/11/2025 14:36

Don't worry, it will blow over.

I heard my neighbour's best friend banging her husband when she was in hospital.

tempname1234 · 11/11/2025 14:24

If you think this going to be a somewhat repeated event in the bedroom, consider reconfiguring your bedroom. Bed to the other walk, wardrobe against the shared wall, rugs etc to absorb sound. Use a white noise machine or low level soft music. Don’t forget to close windows and blinds

good for you though.

ilovepixie · 11/11/2025 14:19

She’s probably jealous.

BauhausOfEliott · 11/11/2025 14:18

Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 12:39

Maybe. I saw her this morning too she literally blanked me again. Oh well never mind I suppose

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Maybe the bloke you shagged was her ex.

BauhausOfEliott · 11/11/2025 14:17

f you were making a big show of being performatively loud and screaming about it or your headboard thumps loudly against the wall or something, and it was the middle of the night, then yeah, I can see why she was a bit miffed.

If it was just a creaking mattress and a few impassioned moans, then she needs to accept that people are allowed to fuck in their own homes. What does she expect you to do? Fit yourselves with a silencer?

Happyjoe · 11/11/2025 14:16

SunnieShine · 11/11/2025 13:32

Probably not.

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Do you not get lighthearted jokey posts? Probably not.

Deedeebob · 11/11/2025 14:15

she needs to grow up! It’s hardly crime of the century ffs I’d understand if it was allll the time but if she is behaving like that, and it is just a one off, then she is a dick

Missj25 · 11/11/2025 14:09

Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 12:30

So I have been divorced a year and have been talking to a guy for a good while (we have met a few times prior to this) anyway, we ended up back to my house one night and my neighbour heard the whole thing. To the point where she knocked on the wall. I want to die of embarrassment, I saw her the other morning and she usually says hi, nothing, I think she now hates me.

And what did you do when she knocked on the wall 😂 🙈

SunnieShine · 11/11/2025 13:32

Happyjoe · 11/11/2025 13:27

Don't, it was probably envy!!

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Probably not.