Neighbour heard everything!

If it was just the bed banging on the wall there’s a chance she didn’t even realise you were having sex especially if you are single. Maybe she thought you were doing DIY at that time of night which is why she knocked on the wall? I think I would just speak to her about it and clear the air

If you hear the neighbour’s dog, did it never occur to you that she’d also hear things in your house?

are you more miffed by the fact she clearly heard you, or that she seems to be ignoring you? Are you t really sure she is ignoring you? (How was the contact previously?). If she is truely ignoring you, have you considered that you might be banging her ex or a family member (or maybe even partner)?

Maybe she's jealous.

LOL at all the people saying ‘Ewww, gross, attention-seeking, performative, you must have been sooooo loud, what if the innocent little kiddiwinks heard you?’

The OP has said she wasn’t moaning or screaming and that it was simply the bed creaking that her neighbour heard. Beds will do that. There isn’t much you can do about it.

Second, sound carries very easily in a lot of semi-detached or terraced houses, especially at night, and sometimes people are going to hear things. Short of having the most boring, passionless and uptight silent sex life imaginable, which frankly I’m really not going to condemn myself to, there’s not much that can be done about it.

My current next door neighbours have got four kids whose noise is incredibly irritating. If I have to listen their yowling brats and their stupid Baby Shark song every day, I’m not going to reduce my sex life to one of total silence, sorry. If the kids hear us fucking I’m sure the parents can up a plausible PG explanation for the sound; it’s really not my problem.

I use to have to hear my upstairs neighbour have performative loud sex and it was honestly the most disgusting intrusive thing I’ve experienced from a neighbour. She gave zero fucks and it was very uncomfortable living there for 2 years putting up with it till I could move.

Some people have no shame or morals. Not saying that’s the case with you OP.

That’s crazy behaviour!

Because she plugs her mains operated vibrator in, the vibration comes on, and seconds later she's moaning through the wall. I also hear her hoovering and walking up the stairs when she does those things too.

How on earth can you hear someone masturbating?

Nothing to feel rubbish about at all.
Take care and enjoy your new lease of life

Obviously you're too busy feverishly batch cooking to do anything else, but the rest of us aren't quite such prudes.

I once had a neighbour

When he said 'did the earth move for you ' I nearly shouted yes on several occasions

Oh wow it's you jumping to ridiculous conclusions, that's surprising.

Listen OP there's nothing you can do about it and it's not like it was on purpose. I thought when I read the title you had a big noisy fight. I would just continue to say hello and smile until she thaws.

Are you seeing him again?

Well this changes things! She got that funny about a squeaky bed?! You shouldn't even be embarrassed OP.

Jesus, who pissed in your weetabix?

Are you the neighbour?.

I had a neighbour who did this a couple of times. I stopped short of knocking, but then she broke up with that boyfriend, and soon after, moved, so I never had to. But I would have had to do something because I had a young child, and it was only a matter of time before it woke said child up at night and I didn't know how I was going to explain it.

Years ago I lived in a downstairs apartment - old place with very solid walls. I think the lady who lived upstairs may have had a brass bed or something. Honestly, once they started the squeaking of that bed was unmistakeable and it was at all hours. If we had friends round we grew used at the first creaking to leap up and put on background music to drown it out. Consider replacing the bed.

I know she's on her own because she lives alone and I can actually hear the vibrator through the wall. I hear her plug it in, start it up, then the moaning. Its clearly one of the mains operated wands. I've lived next to hear for 6 years and this is a near nightly occurrence.

I don't have sex against a shared wall. My bed is the opposite side to our shared wall. I'm just saying I know the neighbour can probably hear our sex based on the fact that I can hear her masturbating

Just say to her next time you see her - by the way I have been politer than you have but I can also hear you banging your husband through the wall so you can stop looking at me like a piece of shit on the bottom of your shoe! Clearly we all do it!”

Sorry how on earth do you know she’s on her own every night?? Do you have cameras watching all entrances into her property? Come on, you’ve no idea who is or isn’t there. That’s not nice.

Oh no, not the performative moaning, OP?

It’s a bit weird, not to say thoughtless ,that you’d even want to have noisy sex, when you already know walls are thin, and there’s a young family next door . I don’t blame your neighbour for blanking you now.

Many things are natural but nevertheless should be private.

Unless you are in a shared dorm room, how noisy must you be 😂

Yes, it sounds far too performative to be anything but fake. Who would even want to have noisy sex against a shared wall? Do you live in a studio flat and you MUST do it against that wall?

I'll be noisy wherever I want in my own home. It's not like it's obscenely loud. I can hear her masturbating every night so why should I wear a gag during sex?