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Neighbour heard everything!

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Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 12:30

So I have been divorced a year and have been talking to a guy for a good while (we have met a few times prior to this) anyway, we ended up back to my house one night and my neighbour heard the whole thing. To the point where she knocked on the wall. I want to die of embarrassment, I saw her the other morning and she usually says hi, nothing, I think she now hates me.

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TodaRythm · 12/11/2025 19:01

She is just jealous 😂😂😂

ForTipsyFinch · 12/11/2025 19:01

PinkPonyClubDancer · 12/11/2025 18:58

Those saying she’s jealous, grow the fuck up. Kids next door shouldn’t have to listen to people screwing. Gross.

It’s really intrusive anyway, but when a young child asks what the noise is it isn’t great - no need for it either the noise I hear from my neighbour is ridiculous 😅

MustWeDoThis · 12/11/2025 19:01

Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 12:30

So I have been divorced a year and have been talking to a guy for a good while (we have met a few times prior to this) anyway, we ended up back to my house one night and my neighbour heard the whole thing. To the point where she knocked on the wall. I want to die of embarrassment, I saw her the other morning and she usually says hi, nothing, I think she now hates me.

Next time you see her just wave really excitedly and yell in a very jolly tone "Good morning, Marg darling!" (Whatever their name is)

brunettemic · 12/11/2025 19:01

You had good, possibly great, sex and at least one orgasm…can’t see the issue personally!

PinkPonyClubDancer · 12/11/2025 18:58

Those saying she’s jealous, grow the fuck up. Kids next door shouldn’t have to listen to people screwing. Gross.

ForTipsyFinch · 12/11/2025 18:42

My neighbour makes an absolute racket and sounds like a seagull squawking - I mean good for her but I don’t especially want to hear that. If I did I would watch porn hub. It you’re making enough noise your neighbours can hear every detail it’s pretty creepy tbh.

Whatsthatsheila · 12/11/2025 18:34

Get one of those lemons that everyone’s raving about / that’ll give her (and you!) something to moan about 😉 🍋

Pinkbasketcase · 12/11/2025 18:13

They need to get a life!! Hi-five to you! 😊

tommyhoundmum · 12/11/2025 18:08

Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 12:34

No never, this one was a bit more spicy I’m guessing

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Maybe she was envious

browneyes77 · 12/11/2025 18:03

Desmodici · 11/11/2025 17:14

Take her a bottle of wine; hand it over while apologising.
Then produce a second bottle from behind your back and say, 'And this is for the next time!' Run away, chortling loudly.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

LemaxObsessive · 12/11/2025 17:50

AntitheticalDreamgirl · 12/11/2025 15:20

I also don't know how it's being nasty to say my neighbour masturbates. I don't think there's any shame in masturbating. I do it myself. I'd expect every person on this thread does it.

You made a point twice on one post and again on another, to make it clear that your neighbour was ‘going solo’ when it was irrelevant to your overall point. You just emphasised it to be mean. All you had to say was “I can hear my neighbour moaning/at it every night” or similar. If there’s one thing I cannot stand it’s veiled digs, especially when denied after the fact. Just nasty.

LemaxObsessive · 12/11/2025 17:46

@AntitheticalDreamgirl🤨 Sure! 👍🏻

AntitheticalDreamgirl · 12/11/2025 15:20

I also don't know how it's being nasty to say my neighbour masturbates. I don't think there's any shame in masturbating. I do it myself. I'd expect every person on this thread does it.

AntitheticalDreamgirl · 12/11/2025 15:10

LemaxObsessive · 12/11/2025 15:07

No you cannot hear the thing vibrating! That’s ludicrous nonsense. You’re just being nasty. A lot of people plug in mood lighting during ‘intimacy’ it could be any number of things. Though I must say, I live in a new build semi and even I don’t hear my neighbours plug things in! Are you in a pre-fab?

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I'm in a very badly insulated house with thin walls that leak because the landlord refuses to do repairs so it wouldn't surprise me. And yes, I can hear the vibrating. I'm also autistic and have very sensitive hearing, I have to use ear defenders daily. Maybe YOU can't hear things but that doesn't mean other people can't hear them. Hope this helps :)

LemaxObsessive · 12/11/2025 15:07

AntitheticalDreamgirl · 11/11/2025 20:20

I know she's on her own because she lives alone and I can actually hear the vibrator through the wall. I hear her plug it in, start it up, then the moaning. Its clearly one of the mains operated wands. I've lived next to hear for 6 years and this is a near nightly occurrence.

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No you cannot hear the thing vibrating! That’s ludicrous nonsense. You’re just being nasty. A lot of people plug in mood lighting during ‘intimacy’ it could be any number of things. Though I must say, I live in a new build semi and even I don’t hear my neighbours plug things in! Are you in a pre-fab?

Fountofwisdom · 12/11/2025 14:39

DurinsBane · 12/11/2025 11:36

Maybe some women can’t help it?

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Seriously?! 🙄

AntitheticalDreamgirl · 12/11/2025 14:06

Jane143 · 11/11/2025 23:34

That’s crazy behaviour!

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I'm sure she hears when I come up the stairs or hoover as well. I don't think she's "particularly" loud, the walls must just be quite thin. I don't think I'm a particularly loud person either and I purposely don't have the TV or bed or anything else on connecting walls, because I'm aware of how thin the walls are.

Usernamenotav · 12/11/2025 12:08

Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 18:52

I was not moaning, it was the bed

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Waitttt you said sex noises?? A bed hitting a wall isn't a sex noise.
This has just become completely ridiculous all of a sudden.

Usernamenotav · 12/11/2025 12:04

Soembarrassedd · 11/11/2025 17:22

My children were at their dads at the time and I just feel like such a bad person like she thinks I’m a bad mum because of it

You seem to be holding sole shame around sex which you need to let go of. The only thing you've done wrong is not considered the noise level. There is absolutely nothing wrong with the act itself. If mums that have sex are bad mums then anyone with more than 1 kids is bad.

Usernamenotav · 12/11/2025 11:59

Tricky one really because you're in your own house. But I personally find screamers highly annoying and can't understand the necessity of it. And if my kids heard that I'd be fuming.
You said you've heard noises from her before so if you knew that the sound travels you should have kept it down. But you're clearly not being an arse about it and haven't been that loud again so I'd just forget about it if I were you. She'll get over it and if she doesn't then that's not your problem.

DurinsBane · 12/11/2025 11:36

Fountofwisdom · 11/11/2025 18:48

Totally agree. It’s attention-seeking and selfish behaviour.

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Maybe some women can’t help it?

Redpeach · 12/11/2025 09:23

AliceMaforethought · 11/11/2025 22:49

Obviously you're too busy feverishly batch cooking to do anything else, but the rest of us aren't quite such prudes.

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quiet sex is not pruddish, just considerate

Branleuse · 12/11/2025 09:21

I had a neighbour try to shame me when she heard me and my husband have loudish sex once many years ago. She never said hello to me again after that, although her partner still did.

Its just one of those things. Try to remember that youve done nothing wrong.

ItIsNotTheDog · 12/11/2025 08:53

Try and see the funny side of it. Sex shouldn't be embarrassing.
When I lived in a narrow house with very thin walls I once had a night when both neighbours from either side were at it, sex sounds in stereo.

Didimum · 12/11/2025 08:28

I think it’s ridiculous to blank you forevermore because she heard sex on one occasion. She knocked on wall, you can now be mindful to keep it down – that’s all that’s needed. If she’s going to now blacklist you then you don’t need people like that in your life anyway. Let her continue if that’s who she is.

On the other hand she might just be very embarrassed and always as to how to carry on as normal again.