I’ve been speaking to a new guy and after my previous relationship I am on high alert to controlling behaviour/ red flags etc.
Just wanted other peoples opinions as I’ve spoken with a friend about him and we’ve both got different thoughts. We’ve spoke for around 2 weeks not yet met but I was considering it, now I’m unsure. We were having a conversation Saturday I said how I was debating going out with a friend for a drink, he replied saying I should stay at home because I’m so beautiful and everyone will see me if I go out. I replied saying what’s the problem with that or something along those lines and again he replied how I’m beautiful and people will try and chat me up. He ended up saying he was joking but not with me? Which I didn't understand I tried asking what he meant but he sort of dismissed it then and dropped it. She said he would have double down on it if he was serious..but we have never met so he wouldn't necessarily double down so soon?
My friend thinks he was joking and that it didn't land with me so he felt embarrassed and left it. Is this a red flag or me over thinking things. It's hard because obviously those kinds of people don't just show their true colours straight away. I wasn't sure if he was testing my reaction. But my ex could be controlling so now I feel on high alert and not sure if I'm just looking into things.