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Friend and her jokes at my expense

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GuyForksAndKnives · 11/11/2025 10:06

My friend makes odd jokes. Well I think they're odd. Examples:

I had on some body spray from Lush that smells like bonfire toffee. I said I'd also used the same flavour shower gel and body lotion. "God do you smell that bad you have to use all that?"

She also makes jokes about my height. It's not ok to joke about being ginger, about skin colour or other attributes so why is being 5feet 1inch hilarious and a source of jokes?

AIBU for not getting it? She does it with others too. "You know David that long streak of lightning" for example.

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shuddacuddadidnt · 11/11/2025 10:19

Pretend you are taking her comments literally and answer accordingly. Re body spray+lotion use - "Oh, don't you use body lotion after you shower? Most people do, and I don't like to mix scents".

long streak of lightning - "hmmm, why do you call him that?" <innocently>

Being 5'1" - Yup, I get all the fellas, both short and tall!

If all fails, just give her the Paddington bear stare and a raised eyebrow without saying a word.

TeddySchnauzer · 11/11/2025 10:19

She does sound like she’s not grown out of being the school bully!
I do have to ask as to why anyone wants to smell like toffee though?!

ImaginaryAilments · 11/11/2025 10:18

mbosnz · 11/11/2025 10:13

Well, she sounds like she is challenged in the wit and humour department. I don't think she has a very good idea of what a joke is, or even what a friend is. In fact she sounds like an immature, tedious bore.

Yes, she sounds enormously tiresome. Is this someone you really want to be practising her laboured witticisms in your vicinity, OP? Maybe you could get one of those ‘sad trombone going “wah wah wah”’ sound effects (you know, like when someone gets an answer wrong on a tv game show) and play it every time.

Or just say ‘Linda, I don’t think humour is your strong suit. Maybe just stick to the weather?’

ObtuseMoose · 11/11/2025 10:18

Ex friend and her jokes at my expense surely?!
Does anyone laugh at her shitty jokes?

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GuyForksAndKnives · 11/11/2025 10:15

vellichoria · 11/11/2025 10:11

Next time she comes up with one of those, ask her, "What do you mean by that?" with all seriousness and don't fill in any silence that may follow. Let her elaborate and don't let her get away with "Oh, nothing". Hopefully she'll get the message. If not, find another friend to hang out with.

When you challenge something like this you invariably get accused of having a sense of humour fail, gaslighting in effect. Why she'd think I stink is baffling.

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mbosnz · 11/11/2025 10:13

Well, she sounds like she is challenged in the wit and humour department. I don't think she has a very good idea of what a joke is, or even what a friend is. In fact she sounds like an immature, tedious bore.

vellichoria · 11/11/2025 10:11

Next time she comes up with one of those, ask her, "What do you mean by that?" with all seriousness and don't fill in any silence that may follow. Let her elaborate and don't let her get away with "Oh, nothing". Hopefully she'll get the message. If not, find another friend to hang out with.

MsPavlichenko · 11/11/2025 10:10

That’s no friend. Tell her to stop this, in case she genuinely doesn’t know how dreadful she is. If she doesn’t end the friendship. If she says other folk don’t mind her “ jokes “, be clear you do.

Mum2Fergus · 11/11/2025 10:10

She’s not your friend.

maslinpan · 11/11/2025 10:08

She's not grown out of the kind of mean "jokes" she made when she was a teenager. Step away from her.

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