To not know a lot about DH’s past relationships (and to not want to)

My DH only really had one relationship before me, couple more casual things but one actual relationship. I know how long it lasted, I know she cheated a lot on him, I know he didn’t want to believe she was cheating at all even when warned but eventually caught her.

I believe she’s still with the main man she was cheating on him with, married and had kids. I know DH intentionally slept with her after she’d married him as well (they got married fairly quickly). He snuck into her house late at night when her DH was working. He said it was really grim, he felt too guilty and left. He wanted to get revenge at the time, he was very young and foolish.

That’s all I want/need to know. Anything else is pointless. He doesn’t know much about mine, I don’t like talking about it really and don’t think it’s necessary. I only know his because he offered up the info.

I dont know my husbands, he doesn't know mine there is no need it nothing to do with each other, it really doesn't bother me

I think not knowing more than the general outline is probably more common than knowing loads, unless you still live in the same small community you grew up in and everyone knows everyone else and their business. I know a reasonable bit about a couple of DH’s previous relationships, because I’m good friends with a couple of his exes and have found out as and when it’s come up in general conversation about their own lives that way. I like knowing what I do know, in the sense that having had really good relationships with great women previously, and that they still like and speak well of him, reinforces that he’s a good egg and has always managed relationships, including break ups, really well.

I feel the same. It's none of my business. They didn't work out. I'm not interested. I can't imagine wanting to know details or what these women looked like.

We are just all different. I like to know as much as possible because it allows me a window into understanding my dh more. For some it's history and has no bearing on the here and now.

Well, if your friend has been with her partner since school, then she’s thinking of her partner’s previous relationships as kissing someone from his Geography class behind the bike shed, rather than a ten-year relationship.

DH and I have also been together since our student days, but I think if we hadn’t I’d have been interested in his previous relationships for what they told me about him.

I’m the opposite I wanted to know everything as I have bad jealousy and self confidence issues. Luckily for me MIL can’t keep her mouth shut about anything so I found out via her then did some fb stalking to reassure myself they weren’t prettier than me