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How to come to terms with being poor(er)

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Somewhereonlywego · 11/11/2025 08:43

Due to a range of events, we're in a difficult financial situation now. Not in poverty by any means, we have a roof over our heads and food on the table, but two young kids and no idea how we're going to afford all the nice little extras as they get older, let alone holidays.

We both used to be in high paid jobs so never had to worry about that, but a few bad decisions and health issues make this seem unlikely to be the case again.

I have so much to be thankful for, but I need to learn to adjust my expectations and attitude.

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Mischance · 11/11/2025 08:52

Many years ago because of my OH's ill health and inability to continue his full time job we had to downsize - it has enormous impact on all our lives but my children, who are now adult, absolutely understood what was going on and made the best of what we did have.

Mischance · 11/11/2025 08:50

You haven't let them or anyone else down.

They will learn more from their parents being resourceful to find joy in life rather than having everything handed to them on a plate.

Danikm151 · 11/11/2025 08:45

If your kids are fed,clothed and warm you haven’t let them down.

There are loads of free or very low cost day out options that can still feel special but with a packed lunch instead of eating out.

Set a budget for things and try and save up for treats.

Somewhereonlywego · 11/11/2025 08:43

The worst part is feeling like I've let my kids down.

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