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Do you think we should life the two child benefit cap?

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Marshmallow4545 · 11/11/2025 07:16

I believe that the majority of people think that the cap should remain and child poverty should be tackled in different ways.

Personally I would like to see children on FSMs allowed free access to after school extracurricular clubs and activities. I would also provide more poor families with access to food banks and would look to stock these with a range of healthy and nutritious options either through donation or state funding if required. I would also look to recruit volunteers to offer advice on health and diet in these places. I would provide clothing and school uniform banks with high quality, second hand clothing that kids would actually want to wear. I have some branded 'fashionable' stuff my kids have grown out of that's still in great condition that I would happily donate.

All of the above in my view is preferable to lifting the cap and would be more effective in tackling the impact that child poverty has on the child.

So AIBU that the two child cap should remain and we should look at other more direct ways to tackle child poverty?

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Hedgehogbrown · 11/11/2025 10:21

HermioneWeasley · 11/11/2025 07:33

They are raising taxes and increasing welfare spending. How is that going to grow the economy or increase productivity?

2 kids is plenty. People who don’t receive benefits don’t get a pay tie when they have another kid, they have to plan and budget accordingly.

Labour doing what they always do. Completely incompetent

Yeah why can't they put them in the workhouse?

Happymondai · 11/11/2025 10:20

Spookyspaghetti · 11/11/2025 10:19

For a myriad of reasons it’s impossible to 100% plan not to have more than two children, unless ever man in the country is going to have a vasectomy.

Triplets as a first pregnancy, Catholics, marital abuse etc

I think pushing children into poverty is wrong.

Twins and triplets were always exempt from this policy

Spookyspaghetti · 11/11/2025 10:19

For a myriad of reasons it’s impossible to 100% plan not to have more than two children, unless ever man in the country is going to have a vasectomy.

Triplets as a first pregnancy, Catholics, marital abuse etc

I think pushing children into poverty is wrong.

angelos02 · 11/11/2025 10:19

HappyGilmorex · 11/11/2025 10:17

You can't choose whether to be disabled, or elderly, or ill, but you can choose the number of children you have

Children don't choose to be born, least of all into poverty. But you want them to be the ones to pay the price for other people's choices. The most vulnerable members of our society - who can't earn money, advocate for themselves, vote or improve their station. They're the ones you think should pay the price.

It is 100% on the parents.

HappyGilmorex · 11/11/2025 10:18

Marshmallow4545 · 11/11/2025 10:17

I hope someone from the Labour party reads this thread and looks at the poll. Almost three quarters of people don't want the cap lifted. Many of these people will see their life meaningfully adversely impacted by the imminent tax rises. A link will be made between these two things and people will be beyond angry that their money is being used to fund something they absolutely disagree with. This isn't the way to build a cohesive and compassionate society. Resentment and anger will bubble over.

Do you think fourteen years of Tory austerity left the country more cohesive and compassionate?

HappyGilmorex · 11/11/2025 10:17

You can't choose whether to be disabled, or elderly, or ill, but you can choose the number of children you have

Children don't choose to be born, least of all into poverty. But you want them to be the ones to pay the price for other people's choices. The most vulnerable members of our society - who can't earn money, advocate for themselves, vote or improve their station. They're the ones you think should pay the price.

Nnnbs · 11/11/2025 10:17

angelos02 · 11/11/2025 10:15

What next? Pay for other people's pets? Holidays?

Exactly. I remember a few years ago on twitter someone demanding an NHS for pets/vets. How silly.

Marshmallow4545 · 11/11/2025 10:17

I hope someone from the Labour party reads this thread and looks at the poll. Almost three quarters of people don't want the cap lifted. Many of these people will see their life meaningfully adversely impacted by the imminent tax rises. A link will be made between these two things and people will be beyond angry that their money is being used to fund something they absolutely disagree with. This isn't the way to build a cohesive and compassionate society. Resentment and anger will bubble over.

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angelos02 · 11/11/2025 10:15

What next? Pay for other people's pets? Holidays?

SuffolkSun · 11/11/2025 10:14

Virtually all of that £3.5bm "cost" will go straight back into the economy and tax coffers.

If you're confident - and you say you are - that what you suggest will cost far less than £3.5bn upfront, and will return the same economic/tax revenues - by all means show us your workings. A couple of starter questions for you: how much will it cost to devise, set up, furnish and administer a food voucher scheme for all UC recipients with more than two dependent children? And how much will it cost for the government to upgrade foodbanks which currently don't have refrigeration, licenced catering kitchens and storage facilities (hint: the large majority of them) to the level needed to take fresh food and give classes in how to cook it? A sub-q to this: how much will it cost the government to give all foodbanks fresh food?

A sensible discussion of the issue means all sides informing themselves of the actual facts, necessary steps and likely outcomes.

Nnnbs · 11/11/2025 10:13

Portakalkedi · 11/11/2025 10:12

No, it should not be lifted. The easy availability of free contraception (and free termination where applicable) to all should mean families having only the number of children they can afford to raise. Yes I know someone could have unexpected twins, but that's an exception rather than the rule. There are far too many demands on taxpayers' money to allow subsidising unlimited numbers of children. You can't choose whether to be disabled, or elderly, or ill, but you can choose the number of children you have. If unlimited numbers are in fact subsidised then there's no incentive to have any self control or take responsibility.

Exactly

Portakalkedi · 11/11/2025 10:12

No, it should not be lifted. The easy availability of free contraception (and free termination where applicable) to all should mean families having only the number of children they can afford to raise. Yes I know someone could have unexpected twins, but that's an exception rather than the rule. There are far too many demands on taxpayers' money to allow subsidising unlimited numbers of children. You can't choose whether to be disabled, or elderly, or ill, but you can choose the number of children you have. If unlimited numbers are in fact subsidised then there's no incentive to have any self control or take responsibility.

Julen7 · 11/11/2025 10:09

angelos02 · 11/11/2025 10:01

Is this a joke? If you want to have £50k coming in, get a job that pays that. Don't go after someone else's money. Jeez.

Surely a joke.

Happymondai · 11/11/2025 10:09

Whoevenarethey · 11/11/2025 07:41

Depending on school, a lot of extra curricular activities are free or definitely offered as free to selected students (I recall paying for my son to do football a few years ago with an external provider and was talking to another parent who told me how great it was for them to offer training for free!). Generally my children's school now do all clubs for free, even if it is an external provider. Unfortunately the uptake doesn't always get to the groups that you are thinking of. Same with the HAF schemes. They target certain groups but often these groups for some reason do not access them. More research should be done into why.

My belief is that child benefit should be given as vouchers which are restricted in how they are spent. Yes this is very nanny state, but there is always a perception benefits are spent on alcohol, vales or cigarettes so to me if they were given as a generic supermarket voucher that could be used in any store but only in food items then this would shut up the haters and ensure that all children have a contribution to food.

I use the haf holiday clubs with my oldest (big gap between oldest and younger two so basically an only child) so that oldest can socialise with children his age. I guess other people with children close In age or a lot of cousins (mine have NO cousins) don’t feel they need it as much.
Of course the main point of it is the free meal but most fsm kids their parents aren’t necessarily poor forever (it’s based on your income when they start reception)

anyolddinosaur · 11/11/2025 10:08

In the news today - hardly any NHS trusts can treat cancer patients within 62 days so that treatment becomes more expensive. Some people may die, others may not be able to return to work. Children wont starve, we have food banks - but we can kill people.

How much more in tax are you prepared to pay to save lives?

EasternStandard · 11/11/2025 10:03

OneBookTooMany · 11/11/2025 09:58

If you have more than two children, it is very likely that one of you will be unable to work full time so why on earth shouldn't you be compensated and there are many reasons for having more than two children (not including twins)

Cultural Reasons
Religious reasons against contraception/abortion
Wanting children to have the security of many loving siblings
Prioritising a large family over a career
Wanting to contribute more humans to society
Because they could once afford them before a downturn in circumstance
Simply wanting to!

It does seem harsh that paying those who choose to have more than two children seems to be frowned upon and thank goodness we have a government that disagrees with this.

I think it is not unreasonable, while at least two children are under 12 to ensure that the family are on £50,000 a year and I think there are whisperings among some in the Labour party that this is not without merit although because of the optics surrounding it, it won't happen until the next term.

Still, we have to start somewhere and lifting the two child cap is a start at least.

Well this will work well.

Friendlygingercat · 11/11/2025 10:03

Two children is enought for anyone. People with children already get a raft of freebies and handouts which are paid for by the taxes generously donated by the single and childfree.

angelos02 · 11/11/2025 10:01

OneBookTooMany · 11/11/2025 09:58

If you have more than two children, it is very likely that one of you will be unable to work full time so why on earth shouldn't you be compensated and there are many reasons for having more than two children (not including twins)

Cultural Reasons
Religious reasons against contraception/abortion
Wanting children to have the security of many loving siblings
Prioritising a large family over a career
Wanting to contribute more humans to society
Because they could once afford them before a downturn in circumstance
Simply wanting to!

It does seem harsh that paying those who choose to have more than two children seems to be frowned upon and thank goodness we have a government that disagrees with this.

I think it is not unreasonable, while at least two children are under 12 to ensure that the family are on £50,000 a year and I think there are whisperings among some in the Labour party that this is not without merit although because of the optics surrounding it, it won't happen until the next term.

Still, we have to start somewhere and lifting the two child cap is a start at least.

Is this a joke? If you want to have £50k coming in, get a job that pays that. Don't go after someone else's money. Jeez.

Ponoka7 · 11/11/2025 10:00

If we don't need to support people to have children, then why are we being told we need permanent immigration? Why is the budget for some things limitless? We know tgat we've been lied to re recruitment of British doctors, do posters not see how policies fuel riots, which then cost a lot?

Happymondai · 11/11/2025 09:59

DeQuin · 11/11/2025 07:30

Agree with @Sirzy . Many people don't take an active decision to have the children they do; and of those who are planning their families, most of those are not deciding whether or not to have children based on child benefit questions. The underlying belief of the policy is that people are having more children because they think it will be a financial benefit. My hypothesis is that the number of people to whom that applies is incredibly small. Personally, as someone who had twins for her second pregnancy this kind of stuff winds me up. (And am at the other end of the parenting scale: I now have three kiddos going to uni at the same time and that is not taken into account when means testing my household, which also irritates me.)

Twins were always exempt from this policy though

HappyGilmorex · 11/11/2025 09:59

angelos02 · 11/11/2025 09:54

If Reeves puts up income tax, millions of people will have to make cut backs to their own lifestyle. She can't then use their money to pay for other people's children. It literally makes no sense.

It makes perfect sense if you don't want children living in poverty. As a higher-rate tax payer I, personally, am delighted that some of my hard earned money goes to lifting children out of poverty. I don't want to live in a society which thinks it's more important that my children get designer clothes and other luxuries than that other children get food, heating and shelter.

OneBookTooMany · 11/11/2025 09:58

If you have more than two children, it is very likely that one of you will be unable to work full time so why on earth shouldn't you be compensated and there are many reasons for having more than two children (not including twins)

Cultural Reasons
Religious reasons against contraception/abortion
Wanting children to have the security of many loving siblings
Prioritising a large family over a career
Wanting to contribute more humans to society
Because they could once afford them before a downturn in circumstance
Simply wanting to!

It does seem harsh that paying those who choose to have more than two children seems to be frowned upon and thank goodness we have a government that disagrees with this.

I think it is not unreasonable, while at least two children are under 12 to ensure that the family are on £50,000 a year and I think there are whisperings among some in the Labour party that this is not without merit although because of the optics surrounding it, it won't happen until the next term.

Still, we have to start somewhere and lifting the two child cap is a start at least.

Marshmallow4545 · 11/11/2025 09:58

HappyGilmorex · 11/11/2025 09:55

Labour did not promise to keep the two child cap in place in their manifesto. Continually repeating this lie doesn't make it true.

Removal of the cap wasn't included as a specific manifesto pledge, but that does not mean they promised to keep it. In fact for years Starmer has been talking about his commitment to reducing child poverty. Removing the cap is, according to all experts views, the quickest and most cost effective way to do so.

https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2023/jul/16/labour-keep-two-child-benefit-cap-says-keir-starmer

He really did promise that. The manifesto didn't contradict this claim.

Labour would keep two-child benefit cap, says Keir Starmer

Leader says party in power will stick with Tory policy seen as driving low-income families into deeper poverty

https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2023/jul/16/labour-keep-two-child-benefit-cap-says-keir-starmer

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Marshmallow4545 · 11/11/2025 09:56

angelos02 · 11/11/2025 09:54

If Reeves puts up income tax, millions of people will have to make cut backs to their own lifestyle. She can't then use their money to pay for other people's children. It literally makes no sense.

It just strikes me as political suicide.

Nobody voted for this as they promised they wouldn't do it. All polls show that the public is against it, even Labour voters. People want the cap to remain. We are supposed to live in a democracy FGS!

The fact that they're going to hit everyone with an incredibly unpopular tax bomb and then announce this at the same time will mean that they will never ever be trusted again. I honestly don't think I'll see another Labour government in my lifetime.

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angelos02 · 11/11/2025 09:56

The only people punishing the children are the parents. Nothing to do with anyone else.