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Do you think we should life the two child benefit cap?

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Marshmallow4545 · 11/11/2025 07:16

I believe that the majority of people think that the cap should remain and child poverty should be tackled in different ways.

Personally I would like to see children on FSMs allowed free access to after school extracurricular clubs and activities. I would also provide more poor families with access to food banks and would look to stock these with a range of healthy and nutritious options either through donation or state funding if required. I would also look to recruit volunteers to offer advice on health and diet in these places. I would provide clothing and school uniform banks with high quality, second hand clothing that kids would actually want to wear. I have some branded 'fashionable' stuff my kids have grown out of that's still in great condition that I would happily donate.

All of the above in my view is preferable to lifting the cap and would be more effective in tackling the impact that child poverty has on the child.

So AIBU that the two child cap should remain and we should look at other more direct ways to tackle child poverty?

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Ticklyoctopus · 11/11/2025 11:22

Susiy · 11/11/2025 11:21

Schools in France manage to provide hot meals to all children so that none are hungry in school. That's a better system than child-allowance where the money can be spent on drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, gambling etc. rather than on the children.

The state should focus on solutions that directly positively impact the children in order to break the cycle of poverty.

State-run creches would be a huge investment but are also the most effective way to help children out of poverty.

The human brain is at its most powerful for the first five years of our life which is when children usually start primary school with poor children already 1-2 years behind middle-class children and this disparity grows every year thereafter, resulting in 25% of children (almost all from working-class backgrounds) giving up on their own education by age 11 or 12...

This is a colossal waste of human potential and we all pay much much more for it later as many will be unemployed for decades, have chronic mental health problems, become involved in crime etc.

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Yes and France are facing IMF bailout and political disaster

Nnnbs · 11/11/2025 11:22

askmenow · 11/11/2025 11:16

The child benefit cap should stay and alternative methods found to support children of families in work.
We have to encourage work not benefits!

The unemployment figures are at 5m now.

Who exactly do people think are going to fund the BLOOAATED….welfare state.

We are on the point of an IMF bailout and if that happens there’ll be no discussion because external forces will be dictating what and how much we can spend.
Restructuring and cutbacks will be forced upon us.
We need to reduce immigration and get our NEET’s 16-24yr olds out of bed. We’ve been tooo soft.

I do wonder if there should be some form of conscription to give our young some structure, backbone and a feeling of self worth.

Some lateral thinking is required to help uplift poorer families.
We need to encourage communities to pull together open village halls, help each other not keep chucking taxpayers money about ad lib.

All industrial parks have a landlord /the units are leasehold and as part of planning regulations should be forced to include a nursery on site enabling parents easy drop off.

I can’t even believe that £millions have been sent to Ethiopia to fund training for tax inspectors ….WTAF.

Thank you! Yes communities should look after each other and help each other out.

Susiy · 11/11/2025 11:21

Schools in France manage to provide hot meals to all children so that none are hungry in school. That's a better system than child-allowance where the money can be spent on drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, gambling etc. rather than on the children.

The state should focus on solutions that directly positively impact the children in order to break the cycle of poverty.

State-run creches would be a huge investment but are also the most effective way to help children out of poverty.

The human brain is at its most powerful for the first five years of our life which is when children usually start primary school with poor children already 1-2 years behind middle-class children and this disparity grows every year thereafter, resulting in 25% of children (almost all from working-class backgrounds) giving up on their own education by age 11 or 12...

This is a colossal waste of human potential and we all pay much much more for it later as many will be unemployed for decades, have chronic mental health problems, become involved in crime etc.

RubySquid · 11/11/2025 11:20

Julen7 · 11/11/2025 11:13

Why are you free to post on here whilst accusing someone else of “having too much time on their hands?” What point are you trying to make - you don’t work!

I work but doing a later shift. Not everyone inms on a 9-5 you know. In fact it's less than 10% of the population that works mon-fri 9-5

askmenow · 11/11/2025 11:16

The child benefit cap should stay and alternative methods found to support children of families in work.
We have to encourage work not benefits!

The unemployment figures are at 5m now.

Who exactly do people think are going to fund the BLOOAATED….welfare state.

We are on the point of an IMF bailout and if that happens there’ll be no discussion because external forces will be dictating what and how much we can spend.
Restructuring and cutbacks will be forced upon us.
We need to reduce immigration and get our NEET’s 16-24yr olds out of bed. We’ve been tooo soft.

I do wonder if there should be some form of conscription to give our young some structure, backbone and a feeling of self worth.

Some lateral thinking is required to help uplift poorer families.
We need to encourage communities to pull together open village halls, help each other not keep chucking taxpayers money about ad lib.

All industrial parks have a landlord /the units are leasehold and as part of planning regulations should be forced to include a nursery on site enabling parents easy drop off.

I can’t even believe that £millions have been sent to Ethiopia to fund training for tax inspectors ….WTAF.

Differentforgirls · 11/11/2025 11:15

Julen7 · 11/11/2025 11:13

Why are you free to post on here whilst accusing someone else of “having too much time on their hands?” What point are you trying to make - you don’t work!

Retired.

Differentforgirls · 11/11/2025 11:14

Marshmallow4545 · 11/11/2025 11:12

In a country of 70 million people, 'some' is a lot of people.

I'm not sure really what your point is anyway other than to insult people and try to belittle them. I work and pay tax but so what if I didn't? You don't work yourself.

I'm retired. Still pay tax though...

Julen7 · 11/11/2025 11:13

Differentforgirls · 11/11/2025 11:08

Well done for admitting it.

Why are you free to post on here whilst accusing someone else of “having too much time on their hands?” What point are you trying to make - you don’t work!

HermioneWeasley · 11/11/2025 11:13

HappyGilmorex · 11/11/2025 10:33

The Venn diagram of people who want to keep the two child cap as a means of stopping poor people from having children and people who are anti-immigration is a near perfect circle. So just who do you want to pay your pension when the time comes?

Funding people to have 2 children is not stopping poor people having children. They can still have 2 funded entirely by the tax payer.

Thats a perfect replacement ratio for 2 parents.

NotEnoughKnittingTime · 11/11/2025 11:13

Marshmallow4545 · 11/11/2025 10:56

I am really confused about this. What you describe was true when I was younger and you had to queue up for a special card that allows you to get a FSM. Now in my children's schools nobody can tell who has paid for the mean and who hasn't. I don't know why all schools don't implement a similar scheme.

Well it is easier than chasing up those who are entitled to them.

anniegun · 11/11/2025 11:12

Lift the cap. Punishing children for having poor parents is cruel

Marshmallow4545 · 11/11/2025 11:12

Differentforgirls · 11/11/2025 11:09

SOME being the operative word.

In a country of 70 million people, 'some' is a lot of people.

I'm not sure really what your point is anyway other than to insult people and try to belittle them. I work and pay tax but so what if I didn't? You don't work yourself.

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Differentforgirls · 11/11/2025 11:09

ChubbyPuffling · 11/11/2025 11:07

Yes they are for some.

I personally do 3 long shifts, 2 days off... rinse, repeat... one daughter is self employed, picks her hours - usually after 3pm (tutoring). The other is a teacher doing 6 days a week (indy school)

SOME being the operative word.

Differentforgirls · 11/11/2025 11:08

Marshmallow4545 · 11/11/2025 11:05

Absolutely, definitely just lazy. Not an autonomous individual that owns a profitable business and can choose their own working hours.

It's ironic really because obviously those that are going to be least in favour of lifting the cap are those that are paying for it. It is highly likely that these people work and pay a lot of tax. I find it weird that some on this thread are suggesting the opposite.

Well done for admitting it.

elviswhorley · 11/11/2025 11:08

vivainsomnia · 11/11/2025 07:29

Personally I would like to see children on FSMs allowed free access to after school extracurricular clubs and activities
Genuinely curious about why. I always considered these a luxury not a need.

I agree with some of it, to an extent. You can get good second hand clothes on Vinted nowadays.

Sadly, if you provide families on very low income the same 'luxuries' than those that people working stressful and longer hours are proud to be able to give their children, you take away the incentive to do so.

Its a hard line to try not to penalise anyone.

Isn't the incentive the pride itself? And seeing your kids happy?

ChubbyPuffling · 11/11/2025 11:07

Differentforgirls · 11/11/2025 11:00

No they're not. Are you all unemployed then?

Yes they are for some.

I personally do 3 long shifts, 2 days off... rinse, repeat... one daughter is self employed, picks her hours - usually after 3pm (tutoring). The other is a teacher doing 6 days a week (indy school)

Boomer55 · 11/11/2025 11:06

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 11/11/2025 08:47

You know that “cut the credit cards up” type reasoning and so-called austerity is partly what has got us into the mess we’re in?

It’s been proved not to work.

Throwing money at people too daft to make choices over the number of kids they knock out hasn’t worked either. 🤷‍♀️

Nnnbs · 11/11/2025 11:05

CorneliaCupp · 11/11/2025 10:33

I think this is a reflection of the general attitude on this thread, and more widely, that being poor is some sort of character deficit that can be punished out of people.

If you are poor and are suffering financially, how is having a child going to benefit you at all?

If you are poor why knowingly do something that'll be costly. Like let's imagine a poor person maxes out their credit card, takes payday loans to get off to Ibiza. Of course once they return they should experience the financial difficulty and pain that comes with that.

Marshmallow4545 · 11/11/2025 11:05

Differentforgirls · 11/11/2025 11:02

Just lazy then? I'm on here because I don't work anymore.

Absolutely, definitely just lazy. Not an autonomous individual that owns a profitable business and can choose their own working hours.

It's ironic really because obviously those that are going to be least in favour of lifting the cap are those that are paying for it. It is highly likely that these people work and pay a lot of tax. I find it weird that some on this thread are suggesting the opposite.

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Differentforgirls · 11/11/2025 11:02

Marshmallow4545 · 11/11/2025 11:01

Or they own their own business? You know, people that are actually growing the economy. Sorry it's not the gotcha you were hoping....

I won't ask why you on this forum at this time of day.

Just lazy then? I'm on here because I don't work anymore.

Sexentric · 11/11/2025 11:02

jan2310 · 11/11/2025 07:37

No, the cap should remain. I would prefer to see greater support for disabled people, not people having multiple children.

"Not people having lots of children' could just he replaced with 'children' in this post. If you don't care that we have zo many children living in poverty at least own it

Marshmallow4545 · 11/11/2025 11:01

Differentforgirls · 11/11/2025 10:57

Oh sorry, I thought all the people on this thread who don't want the cap lifted are employed and must have jobs where posting on forums all morning is acceptable.

Or they own their own business? You know, people that are actually growing the economy. Sorry it's not the gotcha you were hoping....

I won't ask why you on this forum at this time of day.

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MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 11/11/2025 11:01

Differentforgirls · 11/11/2025 10:57

Oh sorry, I thought all the people on this thread who don't want the cap lifted are employed and must have jobs where posting on forums all morning is acceptable.

I do want the cap lifted, but to be fair, a lot of people work very flexibly these days. I certainly do.

Differentforgirls · 11/11/2025 11:00

ChubbyPuffling · 11/11/2025 10:59

Lol, the days of 9-5 Mon to Fri are lonnnnnng gone.

No they're not. Are you all unemployed then?

FateReset · 11/11/2025 11:00

The cap hasn't been in place long enough to see results.

We need better services to help children in poverty, not more benefits and free childcare.

Many working parents cannot afford after school activity clubs. Why should those who don't work be offered free spaces? What incentive to seek work is there, if you might lose rights to free clubs, free food? It will just push more working parents into poverty!

We need to reward parents who work hard, save, make wise choices. So many families are struggling to afford food, yet many don't qualify for FSM or the many other services like food banks.

Better to put money into education, housing, providing services like Early Help, health visiting, parent education courses.