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No physical contact

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Priya879 · 11/11/2025 06:20

Trying to figure out life and all the rest of it. Partner and I have been together 2 and a half years. I'd say after 5 months all physical contact stopped. I have tried every approach to get us back on track but I get nothing. Should I just give up now.

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GreyCarpet · 11/11/2025 07:56

Surely, after 2 and a half years, this just means the relationship is over?

He fell out of 'lust' with you after 5 months and then you moved in together. Why? (Presumably you didn't move in together sooner than 5 months).

If you have absolutely zero physical touch then you're just room mates enjoying a lower cost of living than you would running two households.

That's it.

Makemeanonymous · 11/11/2025 07:55

I would have left when I found out he was a porn addict .
Honestly OP don't waste any more of your life.

sorrynotathome · 11/11/2025 07:49

YABU. Just finish it! What on earth do you expect to happen? A magic change? Do you ever want children? Can you try to imagine yourself 2/5/10 years from now - what do you honestly see?!

RampantIvy · 11/11/2025 07:46

There is no future in this relationship then. Cut your losses and end it.

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Priya879 · 11/11/2025 07:37

We do live together. He moved in with. W very quickly. Too fast on reflection.

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Priya879 · 11/11/2025 07:37

I have tried to talk many many times. Tried the patient approach, at times I have gotten angry (but then realised that wasn't fair). I did find he'd been watching ALOT of porn at one point and honestly felt like I'd been cheated on!

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RampantIvy · 11/11/2025 07:31

Why are you still together?
Do you live with each other?

AllSoComplicated · 11/11/2025 07:28

What does he say about it ? Or does he just clam up?

I think I would ask him to hear you if he won't discuss. State your position. Not an ultimatum. But if you feel you cannot stay in a non sexual relationship (and why should you), tell him. If he won't talk about it either, that's a double whammy.

Do you want children?

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Priya879 · 11/11/2025 07:25

Yeah tried to talk many times. He can be affectionate and loving but there's no intimacy. Even when we kiss it's a peck as opposed to a full on snog!

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AllSoComplicated · 11/11/2025 06:33

That's a short relationship to have intimacy dry up already. Have to talked to him about it?

I would walk unless you can talk about it and find a solution. Sounds hard work though and must be making you feel awful.

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Priya879 · 11/11/2025 06:29

Female
We have your typical 9 to 5 office jobs. No kids. We do go out but often times any bits of chemistry come only after a drink of two when we're in public. But even now I find that weird when we both know nothing goes on behind closed doors. I think I just feel quite bitter at this point

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Tryingatleast · 11/11/2025 06:23

Can I ask are you a man or a woman op? Do you have children or busy jobs? Do you go on dates, enjoy one on one time etc?

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