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What parts of our traditions and culture makes you feel like you belong in Britain

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Lionsandtigersandbears7 · 11/11/2025 05:26

Inspired by another thread ,it got me thinking I don't really have a strong sense of my identity being British..
I'm born in UK ,but moved around a lot ,so don't have an area I feel is home either ,or a strong sense of being British.
There's Christian festivals.christmas and Easter ..is that classed as our culture ?or is that religion?..I suppose there were mods and rockers and teddy boys ,that would of given people a sense of identity..then skinheads and skar ..moving in to music , different types like rock and indie gives people an identity...I missed all that though..
On postcards you get beaches and the seaside towns .. Blackpool was part of my childhood holidays,does that make up part of my identity then ?..
What makes me British other than just being born here ..I feel like culture and identity has passed me by .
I get what it would mean to be Scottish or Irish..I can see an identity with that ..but all I can think of for British is morris dancing.

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Edwinstarrihavefaithinyou · 11/11/2025 05:57

I liked Britain of the past for the wide range of youth cults ,Mods ,skins,punk,new romantic,rockers(grudgingly)etc.
My own personal one was the Northern soul scene and it still is.
It saddens me now that kids are killing kids for the most absurd reasons plus the renewed division and hatred that was evident in the 70s/80 with extreme far right groups.

ClamChowders · 11/11/2025 05:52

Having lived abroad in many places I would say the reliance on humour in every day life is uniquely British. Dry, self depreciating wit. Bill Bryson has written extensively about it and I think he is spot on. We keep our sense of humour no matter what. We banter brutally with loved ones and are icily polite to enemies.

I would also say we do traditional ceremony in a uniquely British way and we do it well. Everything from Trooping of the Colour, the Lord Mayor's Parade, the State Opening of Parliament, local 11/11 parades.

Our arts, literature, writing, theatre. We have such a rich tradition of those things. Some of the greatest international franchises are British: James Bond, Agatha Christie, Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings. London theatres are some of the best in the world and it’s rare to have the network of regional theatres and regional art galleries and arts funding that we enjoy. British actors are vastly over represented in Hollywood. Then the music: the Beatles, Rolling Stones, Queen etc.

I would actually say multiculturalism is a big part of our culture. We have a history of interaction with other people and nations. Many cultures were isolationist, we were not not. Food is a good illustration of that. Going out for a curry is a very British tradition.

Pub culture. Whole family to the pub for a Sunday Roast. Fish and chips. BBQs held outside in defiance of the weather. A pasty eaten on a freezing beach behind a wind break in a hat in May.

Football, talking about football, talking about not being one of those people who talks about football. Horse racing, whole families betting on the Grand National, hats at Ascot. Rugby and sending your tiny skinny boys out in the freezing mud and horizontal rain to be pummeled and many of them growing up dedicated to it for life. Cricket on the village green with a tea break that lots of the community bake for.

School uniforms and each generation finding a way to bend the rules and ruin the look the school envisaged. Few countries have school uniforms and if they do they tend to try and look smart in it!

Meadowfinch · 11/11/2025 05:48

If that is how you genuinely feel, you aren't unreasonable. It's a bit sad though. What do you miss when you are on a bad holiday abroad or a foreign business trip?

For me, British culture is Fawlty Towers and Only Fools and Horses. It's September Sundays blackberry picking and drinking cider in pub gardens. It's ParkRun and brilliantly varied pop music. It's the V&A, John Betjamen poetry and Friday night partying in Newcastle. It's Gavin & Stacey and CBeebies and terrible nativity plays. Making sloe gin. Robin Curtis films and mince pies. The occasional full English breakfast. Even basketcase trains strikes and rain. It's where I belong. 😊

Lionsandtigersandbears7 · 11/11/2025 05:41

British weather..we all love a good moan about the British weather,but I love the fact it changes with the season I'd hate it to be the same all the time

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Lionsandtigersandbears7 · 11/11/2025 05:39

PermanentTemporary · 11/11/2025 05:35

For me, the chalk hills. I grew up close to the South Downs, moved west along them and now live in sight of the Ridgeay.

That sense of the dry uplands and the wet valleys, the rain clouds and needing to watch them. The temperate, changeable climate. That sense that we can always grow and graze food, that we can collect water, that the land can support a lot of us.

I love artists like Eric Ravilious and Turner that show the big skies and the hills and rain.

Culture… privacy and finding ways to allow people a private life and freedom even on a small bunch of islands in close proximity. That I don’t intrude, but I try to guess when people need help and pretend I was just going to do that anyway so it’s no trouble, when in fact I am putting myself out for them.

Thats lovely,yes exactly what I mean ,I need to think what I could feel about where I live

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Lionsandtigersandbears7 · 11/11/2025 05:38

Crunched · 11/11/2025 05:34

I get what it would mean to be Scottish or Irish..I can see an identity with that ..but all I can think of for British is morris dancing.
Scottish and Northern Irish folks are British- do you mean 'what it means to be English'?

Yes sorry ,I've worded it badly

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PermanentTemporary · 11/11/2025 05:35

For me, the chalk hills. I grew up close to the South Downs, moved west along them and now live in sight of the Ridgeay.

That sense of the dry uplands and the wet valleys, the rain clouds and needing to watch them. The temperate, changeable climate. That sense that we can always grow and graze food, that we can collect water, that the land can support a lot of us.

I love artists like Eric Ravilious and Turner that show the big skies and the hills and rain.

Culture… privacy and finding ways to allow people a private life and freedom even on a small bunch of islands in close proximity. That I don’t intrude, but I try to guess when people need help and pretend I was just going to do that anyway so it’s no trouble, when in fact I am putting myself out for them.

Crunched · 11/11/2025 05:34

I get what it would mean to be Scottish or Irish..I can see an identity with that ..but all I can think of for British is morris dancing.
Scottish and Northern Irish folks are British- do you mean 'what it means to be English'?