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To think this is all not normal

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LeopardPrintIsNeutral · 10/11/2025 17:29

Calling your five year old a bitch
telling aforementioned five year old to fuck off or shut the fuck up?
im being made to feel irrational for saying this is not alright?????!!

help

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EmeraldDreams73 · 10/11/2025 17:40

As a pp has said, that's not love, it's fear. Poor little thing, he will screw her up SO much if you don't get her away from this prick immediately.

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LeopardPrintIsNeutral · 10/11/2025 17:40

Have you ever been gaslit to the point where you think something is normal and you’re stupid and cannot see the wood for the trees. This is one of those I’m slowly learning clarity

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Makemeanonymous · 10/11/2025 17:38

You know this is totally wrong OP.
You are the adult. You have to do what is best for your child.
You need to protect her from this man.

MsRena · 10/11/2025 17:35

LeopardPrintIsNeutral · 10/11/2025 17:33

He does it then gives her the silent treatment and she loves him so much she’d be so upset to have reduced contact

Don’t do that. If this is your child, don’t do that. Don’t throw any responsibility back at her. Get her away from him.

ThereIsThunderInOurHearts · 10/11/2025 17:34

It's not love, it's fear. She is placating him to try and stop his cruelty. Please remove her from him.

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LeopardPrintIsNeutral · 10/11/2025 17:33

It’s such a mess

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LeopardPrintIsNeutral · 10/11/2025 17:33

He does it then gives her the silent treatment and she loves him so much she’d be so upset to have reduced contact

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Arlanymor · 10/11/2025 17:31

You shouldn't talk to anyone that way - but to say that to a child is revolting and reprehensible.

rubyslippers · 10/11/2025 17:31

I would struggle to find any decent person who finds rhis is any way excusable or acceptable

Vaxtable · 10/11/2025 17:30

No it’s not alright, who was it because whoever it was I would not be having any more contact with them

poor child

BeNavyCrab · 10/11/2025 17:30

No way anyone should use those words to a child

SilenceInside · 10/11/2025 17:30

It is not normal nor is it appropriate. Who is trying to say this is ok and normal??