Page 6 | DSis is skimping on Christmas because she’s obsessed with her Skye trip?

Imisscoffee2021 · 10/11/2025 18:36

Very similar threads on here today with people saving for hols so giving less expensive gifts...

Frugalgal · 10/11/2025 18:34

I can't see the problem, in fact I'd see it as a win in that you now don't have to spend any money in presents on her, bar a similar token. You wouldn't want to embarrass her, after all.

Winter2020 · 10/11/2025 18:28

LydiaRidesAgain · 10/11/2025 16:37

I’m not keeping score, I’m simply pointing out that DSis set a precedent. If she wants to renegotiate the terms of the Christmas gifts, that’s fine, but I’m going to need notice, not just one month!

How much notice do you need to not go buying loads of expensive stuff? Are you saying that you have already bought their presents? If so can anything be returned or regifted to someone else?

Pricelessadvice · 10/11/2025 18:27

If a family member told me that I’d say that’s a great idea and perhaps we could just do token gifts this year..?
Honestly, what’s the problem?

shhblackbag · 10/11/2025 18:25

LydiaRidesAgain · 10/11/2025 16:37

I’m not keeping score, I’m simply pointing out that DSis set a precedent. If she wants to renegotiate the terms of the Christmas gifts, that’s fine, but I’m going to need notice, not just one month!

Most contracts can be ended with 30 days notice. Since you seem to treat Christmas this way ("renegotiate terms"), you've had ample notice.

I can't believe you think you're the reasonable one here.

MadinMarch · 10/11/2025 18:24

Twistedfirestarters · 10/11/2025 16:19

Is there some sort of weird Christmas present troll? This is very similar to the 'cutla quid' thread...

Yeah.. is there a Centre Parks on Skye?

Moveoverdarlin · 10/11/2025 18:23

I’d be bloody delighted if family told me this. I’d love to scale it all back a bit.

3luckystars · 10/11/2025 18:21

LydiaRidesAgain · 10/11/2025 16:37

I’m not keeping score, I’m simply pointing out that DSis set a precedent. If she wants to renegotiate the terms of the Christmas gifts, that’s fine, but I’m going to need notice, not just one month!

One month? Have you bought her personalised unreturnable gifts? Why would you do that so early? It’s only November.

If you did buy her an expensive personalised gift with engraving just give it on her birthday.

One month is a lot of notice. I don’t have one gift bought and won’t be buying any until December.

Namechanged999999 · 10/11/2025 18:20

LydiaRidesAgain · 10/11/2025 16:37

I’m not keeping score, I’m simply pointing out that DSis set a precedent. If she wants to renegotiate the terms of the Christmas gifts, that’s fine, but I’m going to need notice, not just one month!

Omg are you serious??

NormasArse · 10/11/2025 18:19

Eh?

Skye is glorious- good for her!

Ella31 · 10/11/2025 18:12

Jesus christ. Two years ago just before Christmas we buried our beautiful twin babies who died the week they were born. If this is your biggest problem to be getting odd with your sister over, think yourself lucky. There's so many families facing real problems today and at christmas . This is riddiculous. I wonder are you trying to be funny, but its really not

rainingsnoring · 10/11/2025 18:10

Dontcallmescarface · 10/11/2025 18:08

If she wants to renegotiate the terms of the Christmas gifts, that’s fine,

Ah but unless it's it writing and signed by all parties and a witness, then it means fuck all. Maybe next time get one written up and signed in her own blood, that'll teach her.

😂
Sorry OP but it is pretty funny.

rainingsnoring · 10/11/2025 18:09

LydiaRidesAgain · 10/11/2025 16:37

I’m not keeping score, I’m simply pointing out that DSis set a precedent. If she wants to renegotiate the terms of the Christmas gifts, that’s fine, but I’m going to need notice, not just one month!

'Renegotiate terms' 😂
This isn't a professional sports event!

Have you already bought her lots of thinks or do you just think of relationships in a purely transactional way?

Dontcallmescarface · 10/11/2025 18:08

If she wants to renegotiate the terms of the Christmas gifts, that’s fine,

Ah but unless it's it writing and signed by all parties and a witness, then it means fuck all. Maybe next time get one written up and signed in her own blood, that'll teach her.

MrsSkylerWhite · 10/11/2025 18:06

Bloody hell, listen to yourself, “renegotiate the terms”?
Behave.

Dontcallmescarface · 10/11/2025 18:06

What is it about Christmas that makes people so grabby? Honestly OP grow up.

ilucgaiaw · 10/11/2025 18:06

Fine in theory, except last year she happily accepted the tasteful and expensive pile of gifts I bought for them both, and now I am apparently only getting a little token

What did she get you last year?
Maybe you went over the top and she can't afford to keep up with you, holiday or no holiday. Also one person's tasteful and expensive pile is another person's load of unwanted tat they have to subtly dispose of after Christmas.

Maybe this is her way of reining in your over-enthusiastic gift giving.

You can return any items you have already bought, use them yourself (they'll be tasteful and expensive presumably) or sell them online. Then you can buy a token gift instead.
Or you could suggest no presents for adults or a secret santa.

Our family stopped this years ago. I buy myself one or two really nice things for Christmas each year. So you don't have to miss out completely on getting something nice for Christmas - buy it for yourself.

MzHz · 10/11/2025 18:05

@LydiaRidesAgain what have you bought her already? Will it keep for another occasion? Another recipient?

TryingToBeHelpful267 · 10/11/2025 18:05

So many horrible grabby people at Christmas. You know it’s the season of giving right?

Obviously YABU

Frenchfrychic · 10/11/2025 18:03

Bet shes not bought th4 gifts, or she’d have said in the op, even if she pretends she has, she just wants expensive gifts.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 10/11/2025 18:02

It’s not that deep.
Just thank her and agree that you think it’s a good idea to scale back on presents and that you will be doing the same yourself.

Mapletree1985 · 10/11/2025 18:01

Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService · 10/11/2025 16:18

Did she give you something commensurate with what you gave her/her family last year?

She's telling you early - what's the issue? She isn't one of these people who expect something massive and expensive from you but only give you a little cheap thing themselves.

Maybe she was so aghast at the amount of money OP spent on her last year that she's taking this opportunity to rein it in?

housethatbuiltme · 10/11/2025 18:01

LydiaRidesAgain · 10/11/2025 16:37

I’m not keeping score, I’m simply pointing out that DSis set a precedent. If she wants to renegotiate the terms of the Christmas gifts, that’s fine, but I’m going to need notice, not just one month!

What 'set precedent'?

You mentioned what you did last year but NOTHING about her.

You don't need any notice of whats shes doing, its not your god given right to have a gift, she doesn't even need to tell you if she chooses to give you fuck all.

You can buy what you like for others but thats on you its not to 'gain the same worth back'. If you already have bought gifts then you can still give it (what a decent non materialistic person would do) or return it or keep it for another time.

Mapletree1985 · 10/11/2025 17:59

LydiaRidesAgain · 10/11/2025 16:14

DSis has announced on the family chat that she’s doing a smaller Christmas this year so she and BIL can save for their big Isle of Skye holiday next summer.
Fine in theory, except last year she happily accepted the tasteful and expensive pile of gifts I bought for them both, and now I am apparently only getting a little token.

DM has already chimed in with something about memories meaning more than materialistic things which pissed me off.

AIBU to think she can save for her holiday without cheaping out on me and the rest of the family?????

Is your gift giving transactional? Do you give in the expectation that you will receive material goods of equal value?

LikeAHandleInTheWind · 10/11/2025 17:58

Honestly you should be thanking her - pair of tick removal tweezers and hiking socks for all her family and you've ticked (geddit!) them off your Xmas list