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DSis is skimping on Christmas because she’s obsessed with her Skye trip?

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LydiaRidesAgain · 10/11/2025 16:14

DSis has announced on the family chat that she’s doing a smaller Christmas this year so she and BIL can save for their big Isle of Skye holiday next summer.
Fine in theory, except last year she happily accepted the tasteful and expensive pile of gifts I bought for them both, and now I am apparently only getting a little token.

DM has already chimed in with something about memories meaning more than materialistic things which pissed me off.

AIBU to think she can save for her holiday without cheaping out on me and the rest of the family?????

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Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService · 10/11/2025 16:18

Did she give you something commensurate with what you gave her/her family last year?

She's telling you early - what's the issue? She isn't one of these people who expect something massive and expensive from you but only give you a little cheap thing themselves.

Littlebobbin15 · 10/11/2025 16:18

Just say ‘great, let’s set a budget for presents then’, it’s fair all round then?

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Lavender14 · 10/11/2025 16:17

What did she get you last year?

She's told you so you can adjust your spending for this year to correlate so you're not spending as much on them. So you just cut back as well.

Nothing unreasonable or unusual in that. They've identified a savings goal and are working to meet it and being up front about what they can do. Yabu.

KellsBells7 · 10/11/2025 16:16

I’m not sure why you’re mentioning last year in relation to this year.

Regardless of what you did last year is it not okay to scale back for this year?

ScaryM0nster · 10/11/2025 16:16

So she’s announced this well in advance, so that if you take a ‘matched value’ approach to Christmas presents you’ve got plenty of time to factor it in.

I don’t quite follow the issue, or what last years present budgets have to do with this years if tgeres been a discussion on the topic inbetween.

Snorlaxo · 10/11/2025 16:16

Is this a reverse?

Just spend less on your sister’s family 🤷‍♀️ and use the money saved to buy what you and your family would like.

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