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To shave my head to get rid of lice?

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HairIsOverrated · 10/11/2025 11:49

Tldr: I've probably got lice (though not 100% sure), I'm struggling to get rid of them and I want to stop wasting so much time and effort on this issue. I just want to cut/ shave my hair but I can't go to a hair dresser to get a proper short hair cut. If i just shave my head I'm worried about what other people think.

Ds brought lice home from school about a month ago. No problem. We used hedrin twice, wet combed a few times and that got rid of them. Unfortunately, he seems to have passed them on to me. I found one louse about a month ago in my hair and a few nits. My hair is slightly longer than ahoulder length but very, very thick. It's a nightmare to wet comb. It takes me over an hour and im pretty sure im missing large chunks of hair.

I have used hedrin shampoo 4 times now and once lyclear. I wet comb every few days but I still have nits and my head itches like crazy. After thst initial louse I never found another one but I am pretty sure that's because of my lousy wet combing technique. Im just not getting to all the roots. Dh thinks it's just dandruff or dry skin or thst my scalp is irritated from the constant treatment but I think I've still got lice. My head itches non stop. I have got a rash on my forehead and my neck and I csj still find nits on the nit comb (yup, it's a nitty gritty).

Anyway lice or not im just fed up of it. Im fed up of the wet combing, having to wash bedding and all my clothes all the time and I don't even properly hug my kids anymore because im so scared of passing the lice on to them. I just want to grt rid of this problem. Ideally i would like to just cut my hairvery short to.make wet combing easier but i can't even go to a hair dresser to get a proper short hair cut because I'm sure no hair dresser wants someone with a potential lice infection. So my only option is to use a long hair trimmer at home.

Dh shaves his head so why csnt I?

I dont care what i look like but I do care about what other people might think. If I shave my head everyone will either think (correctly) that i have got lice or that i am undergoing chemo. And they will ask questions. And I dont want to tell people I've got lice. Especially not on the school run. ds' son's school still has a lice problem so people will provably think it's because of us. But it's not. Ds doesn't have any lice and we have since cut his hair really short so it isnt hard to check.

I've got so many other things going on at the moment I dont want to waste time and energy on this nonsense.

Yabu: just put in the hours to wet comb your hair and get rid of the lice the traditional way.
Or live with them. Or act as if i I don't have lice till I actually see a live one and hope the itching will eventually go away. Having to face people's questions and telling everyone at the kids' school that this is a lousy family isn't worth it.

Yanbu: just cut the damp thing off. Life is too short to spend so much time on doing completely stupid things when there is a quick and effective solution.

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FitnessIsTheOnlyWealth · 10/11/2025 12:26

I’m not recommending Hedrin - it’s not worked for us. I’m recommending Hedrin ONCE which is not always available everywhere. You have to hunt it down. When I find it I buy 3 large and stock up.

PinkPhonyClub · 10/11/2025 12:25

I would think carefully before doing this.

First I would carefully check whether you genuinely do have lice. A decent chance you’ve just really irritated your scalp causing itching and you’re combing out scalp flakes. Frankly we use nitty gritty combs for dandruff removal so they don’t just remove bits.

If budget allows I would try and go see a hair lice specialist. They can tell you the situation and remove using special devices if you do. Just google ones near you.

If you did have lice then I would treat everyone else in the house with the OTC treatments, wash all the bedding same day, to avoid anyone reinfecting you.

Only it above fails would I consider a drastic haircut.

SomethingInTheAirToday · 10/11/2025 12:25

Alberto Balsam tea tree oil shampoo and conditioner works wonders. My mum used to use it on us as kids and it would stop us ever getting them!

FitnessIsTheOnlyWealth · 10/11/2025 12:23

3 heads of long thick hair in our house. The only thing that works (and works in a single go) is HEDRIN ONCE. This is the thing that can really do the job if used exactly as instructed. I barely even comb after treatment as it’s too much to do 3 heads. Takes up hours. So we do the Hedrin Once treatment, leave for 20 mins and wash. Wash all bedding, hoodies, towels. Repeat next weekend. All done.

Eyesopenwideawake · 10/11/2025 12:21

Lots of people got into cutting their own hair during Covid and no one (as far as I know!) assumed they had lice. Obviously with a dramatic style change people will notice and comment but all you have to say is that you fancied a new look.

Be aware that it's very addictive!

roundaboutthehillsareshining · 10/11/2025 12:20

Of course you can go to a hairdresser. You just tell them when you're making the appointment that you think you might have headlice. They'll wear gloves and be able to make sure all equipment is disinfected after they've used it on you. A professional hairdresser can also assess the health of your scalp and help determine if you do have active lice, or if the itching is a result of irritation.

BMW6 · 10/11/2025 12:18

Get yourself a set of electric clippers from Amazon or Boots and give your head a no.2 cut using the appropriate guard. Your DH should be able to do bits you can't see.

Scully01 · 10/11/2025 12:17

As someone with afro hair who can't use a nit comb, Nitwits is the best solution for my hair I've found.

BrieAndChilli · 10/11/2025 12:16

teen DS had nits before the summer - we tried lots of over the counter and they kept coming back and he has long thick hair. We eventually went to the pharmacist who gave us some super strength stuff (also used for scabies) and did a couple of treatments of that which seemed to work.
I always combed my hair after doing his and once or twice found a louse which I think had jumped on to me during combing as I never found any at other times. I was constantly itching and combing my hair 3 times a day but never found any others so think it was in my head.

HairIsOverrated · 10/11/2025 12:15

Balloonhearts · 10/11/2025 12:09

Donate a tenner to cancer research and tell people you did it for charity/raising awareness.

Why are you using hedrin shampoo though? You need the actual treatment, hedrin shampoo is just a deterrent, it doesn't actually kill them.

It says that it kills lice and removes eggs on the packaging. The lyclear one is supposed to kill both eggs and lice.

This is the one I used:

https://amzn.eu/d/9sbM3oE

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bloodredfeaturewall · 10/11/2025 12:13

there are specialist hairdressers will treat you.
might be expensive though as combing long hair takes some time.

NearlyDec · 10/11/2025 12:13

This one. It’s important it covers all of your hair. You will need to apply very small section at time, the same method as applying hair dye. As you have thick hair you will need a big bottle. You need to make sure every bit of hair is covered. I think you need to wait 15 mins and then you will need a large bottle of shampoo neat rubbed in before you use water to since it off. The next time you wash your hair you will need to rub neat shampoo into dry hair and rinse.

www.boots.com/hedrin-liquid-gel-250ml-10091639?traffic=paid.shopping&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=19973634862&gbraid=0AAAAA-AdmwR5C1XozzN3eX55_1rCPIsAu&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI2dL5xsbnkAMVPpZQBh3H4yrXEAQYASABEgIWJvD_BwE

AhBiscuits · 10/11/2025 12:13

Nitwits works for us first time.

WonderingWanda · 10/11/2025 12:10

I have long (beyond my shoulders) thick hair and really think that the wet combing isn't that bad. First, do you have a nitty gritty? Second, are you using lots of conditioner? Third, are you sectioning the hair and being systematic? Wash your hair. Smother in thick conditioner, comb that through with a normal brush, then a wide tooth comb to get the knots out. Then go in sections with the nitty gritty which is the only one with wide enough teeth for thick hair. Rinse the comb between strokes. It will scrape the nits odd the hair and break the legs of any lice. If you do that twice a week you break the cycle and also catch any new ones introduced. It will take less than 10 mins.

It could actually be that your ds just keeps bringing more home because they are rife in someone untreated in his class.

Balloonhearts · 10/11/2025 12:09

Donate a tenner to cancer research and tell people you did it for charity/raising awareness.

Why are you using hedrin shampoo though? You need the actual treatment, hedrin shampoo is just a deterrent, it doesn't actually kill them.

HairIsOverrated · 10/11/2025 12:09

NearlyDec · 10/11/2025 12:04

You’ve posted about this before and everyone told you to use headlice treatment instead of shampoo. Get hedrin once, put it onn for the max amount of suggested time and repeated at the treatment a week later.

https://cks.nice.org.uk/topics/head-lice/

Could you send me a link to which treatment you mean? I tried lyclear, which isnt a shampoo but I can't find any hedrin product that is fundamentally different to the shampoo.

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Starlight7080 · 10/11/2025 12:09

I think being colder is a benefit. Wear a lot of winter hats when out and about. I love a winter beanie. Dont mention your hair to people when on the school run.
I wouldn't mention nits anyway. Just say you wanted a big change .
I would love to shave mine of. I want to first see if I suit it and then just get back to my natural hair colour .
Only other suggestion is if you have one of those fab nit hair places near you. They get rid of all nits/eggs .

ladyofshertonabbas · 10/11/2025 12:07

Go for it. It's hat season too, perfect.

NearlyDec · 10/11/2025 12:04

You’ve posted about this before and everyone told you to use headlice treatment instead of shampoo. Get hedrin once, put it onn for the max amount of suggested time and repeated at the treatment a week later.

https://cks.nice.org.uk/topics/head-lice/

HairIsOverrated · 10/11/2025 12:04

Thanks everyone. I wish I could edit my op to make it clearer/ remind people that I can't go to a hair dresser while I've got lice.

Ideally, I could shave my head before the Xmas holidays. Then I'd have about 2 weeks for my hair to grow out a bit before going back to work and school. And I could tell people that I just wanted a drastic change for the new year.

Unfortunately, I dont want to wait for so long. Also, my elderly mum is planning to visit next month and stay with us for a few weeks and I definitely dont want to pass the lice on to her.

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HairIsOverrated · 10/11/2025 12:04

Thanks everyone. I wish I could edit my op to make it clearer/ remind people that I can't go to a hair dresser while I've got lice.

Ideally, I could shave my head before the Xmas holidays. Then I'd have about 2 weeks for my hair to grow out a bit before going back to work and school. And I could tell people that I just wanted a drastic change for the new year.

Unfortunately, I dont want to wait for so long. Also, my elderly mum is planning to visit next month and stay with us for a few weeks and I definitely dont want to pass the lice on to her.

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Keroppi · 10/11/2025 12:02

Cut it yourself much shorter, don't go nuts and shave it yet. Just order some hairdressing scissors and look up on youtube "easy home Bob haircut" or you could go for a "shaggy wolf cut" it's flattering and means you don't need it all same length... think winona ryder.. you can do it! Put the shaver down!

You need DH to pour heaps of conditioner and tea tree oil mixed in, and comb each section of your hair out with your nitty gritty. I would recommend a rat tail comb so you can part it into sections and unfortunately it'll take ages but you could possibly split it over two days on the weekend - French braid or tightly braid it in-between
You could even do the front bits while he does the back
I recommend watching the new Alien TV show together while he does it, it's really good lol

FcukBreastCancer · 10/11/2025 12:01

Try nit wits. It's non comb method. Worked for us. I cant use comb on me or dd as our hair falls out

gamerchick · 10/11/2025 12:01

BastardtheCat · 10/11/2025 11:57

I don’t blame you but why don’t you go halfway and try for a short layered bob/messy pixie cut and then it’ll be tons easier to sort. Daily suffocation with thick cheap conditioner (B&M or Home Bargains) and wrap in cling film and invest in the nit comb until you blitz the bastards. I feel your pain though - I travelled around India and Thailand in the 90’s and had vicious lice - I shaved my head too but I could get away with it when travelling.

Maybe avoid the drastic grade 1 if you can - your self esteem may be able to take it but kids can be cruel and your DC may cop it in school.

They're pretty hard cuts to do on your own though and you can't go to a hairdresser.

OP if you haven't found anymore then maybe you don't have them how. Once the thoughts in your head the mind can do funny things. Can you get someone to have a good look?

BastardtheCat · 10/11/2025 12:01

Any neighbours that can help cut it? Any relatives studying hair and beauty? Mobile hairdressers?

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