My Father was convicted of sexual assault on 17 year old, should I let him see my kids + MORE

NRTFT but it must have been pretty serious for him to receive a custodial sentence.
What is also troubling is it sounds pre-meditated as he changed meeting time to be alone with the minor.
You are not responsible for his mental health but you are responsible for your children’s safety and wellbeing.
I wouldn’t want to be in his company frankly.
I am not minimising any sexual
assault where a court does not decide on a custodial sentence or an apparently less planned assault but we know that many assaults don’t even make it to court.

Try this - you won’t be eligible for a free copy https://www.gov.uk/apply-transcript-court-tribunal-hearing

Someone suggested Bailii.org but I don’t think you get sentencing remarks on there.

you could also try here https://www.judiciary.uk/judgments/

Is your father on probation?

you can also make a Clare’s law request

Round my way, Richard Sneddon pled guilty to the lesser offence of sexual assault. He’d raped a 6 yr old.

Lennon/Katie Dolatowski was convicted of sexual assault and merely tagged. He’d tried to rape a 10 yr old.

The OP’s father was in prison. It was definitely a serious assault.

Absolutely the right decision OP. Age is one thing but it’s also a violent and dangerous crime and means your dad is unpredictable- not something you want around your children.

Have checked. He’s in prison. No way way was that for a bum grab or the like.

You don't go to prison for grabbing someone's bum or stroking their shoulder!

Are men really sent to prison for grabbing someone’s bum?

I’ll have to check the OP - I thought that there had been a prison sentence.

Im not excusing his behaviour at all but there is a massive difference between rape and grapping someones bum or stroking their shoulder which both could be classed as sexual assualt without this information you can't call him a rapist.

Did he plead guilty or not guilty? If the latter then we know he does not wish to be accountable for his behaviour and has lied about what he did - causing further trauma to a young victim.
He is a violent sex offender.
Keep your kids safe. No people pleasing with young children in the mix.

It’s unforgivable either way. It’s sometimes the case that rapists plead guilty to a lesser offence in order to get a lighter sentence.

He would not be anywhere near my children!!!

Although I would imagine you are right i would still what to know the truth before making a decision. Like was it rape or sexual assault as op has said how long was he in jail for what where the circumstances. If it was actual rape unforgivable if it was sexual assualt Id want to know more.

I can't believe you're even considering this to be honest.

Your father made the choice to sexually assault. This makes him a danger to children.

You have the parental responsibility to protect your children from predators.

Not being able to see his grandchildren is HIS fault and not yours.

And your brother can fuck off n’all for trying to coerce you to drop your guard in favour of a sex offender.

Do not let him anywhere near you or your children. Any man who assaults a young girl/woman is not worthy of anything. Forget your stupid brother. Have nothing to do with him.

100% this. Sequel assault against a minor, he'd be nowhere near my kids or grandchildren

What a difficult position for you to be in. I think the question I would be asking myself is how would my children feel, when grown, of a decision to either ban or allow a convicted sex offender to have contact with them? I'm not sure I would be able to understand or forgive if my parents had knowingly allowed me, as a child, to have contact with someone potentially dangerous (even if they turned out to be no danger to me personally). It's only yours and your kids' future opinion that matters here - not your father's, not your brother's and certainly not anyone else (including on here). Good luck, and I feel for you.

I am

To even consider for a nano second that she may be being unreasonable is concerning

Your father has shown that he has a complete disregard for personal boundaries, and he has no respect for women. He has shown that he thinks he has a right to other people's bodies. Whether his victim was 17 or younger or older is by the by. I personally wouldn't let him anywhere me or my family.

I’m not worried about your kids OP as I think you’ll 100% do the right thing and keep him away, take not one risk and allow contact. However it’s your brothers kids I’m scared for what are their ages?

You are doing the right thing and safeguarding your children.

If you allow supervised visits you have to either downplay his crime (which could lead your children to see him as a safe person and could put themselves in vulnerable situations with him when they are older).

Or you tell them the truth and risk them thinking that you are excusing his actions, or that his feelings are more important than their safety.

I don't disagree with anything you have said. I think I'm trying to make a point that doesn't come over in social media soundbites and will stop now.

Not of myself or my siblings. As far as I am aware none of us ever went to the police. I only told my parents years after I had my daughter. I had spoken to one of my siblings and that is when I found out I was not his only victim. He did wait until all of us were over 16.
The person he was sent to prison for raping was 17.

I’m so so sorry you were so let down.

Was he later convicted of rape?@4dogsandawoman

I am so sorry for what you endured x