My Father was convicted of sexual assault on 17 year old, should I let him see my kids + MORE

Yes what are you not understanding.

You're talking about 2 seperate things he went to prison because he deserved to go to prison. Cutting family members out of your children's life is a seperate thing that is what the actual question is

Depends on what actually happened most likely not but id want the full story first

Yes I would and that would be my choice. And I would most likely block access but I would want to know the details first so I could make an informed decision

And that would be your choice to make. Op has every right to make her own choices.

Yes I think rape is worse then sexual assualt in 99% of cases considering what can be classed as sexual assualt. If someone tried to kiss me or stroked my arm or grabbed my arse which would all be classed as sexual assualt I wouldn't compare myself to the trauma a rape victim went through

I work with victims I'm usually in receipt of the information of the offender, for many, it's not usually the first time an qllegation has been made.

They will happily play the long game. Not only working on the boundaries of those who would protect the child/vulnerable adult as they will on their target themselves.

This man was manipulative then, in his actions to obtain access to his victim, as he is now, threatening suicide. Its also questionable if he has started to manipulate his own son.

Well clearly you do if you think that what your DD went through is somehow worse than what this other young woman went through. I am sorry for what your DD went throug and I am glad that her rapist is in prison, but that doesnt mean that you understand this very complicated issue.

I have survived both and I can tell you that the difference is negligible. Thats why so many women are pissed off at the difference in sentencing because it implies that one is "not as bad" as the other, simply because in a SA case a penis was not forced into a vagina. That a penis could be forced into a mouth or an anus? Nope, not rape. That a bottle or remote control or (in the awful case of the poor woman in India) a tyre iron was forced into her vagina against her will? Nope, not rape.

I get annoyed when people don't differentiate between rape and sexual assualt

The person who sexually assaulted me got a life sentence. I nearly died. I hope that isn’t too annoying for you.

And you realise kissing someone who didn't want to be is also sexual assault

I don't need to educate myself my daughters rapist is in prison it was explained to us repeatedly the process and how hard it was going to be. You are not understanding what I'm saying and thinking I'm sticking up for him which I am absolutely not. Im trying to see it from op side as someone who has thankfully never been in this situation with a close relative

You understand that being raped with an implement is legally “sexual assault”?

The name of the offence really does not tell you anything about the seriousness of the assault. The poor girl raped with a tire iron on a bus in India was technically “sexually assaulted” to death rather than raped.

Oh be your age!

No man was ever sentenced for SA for 30 days! 30 days is what you get for non payment of a speeding fine, not for a sexual assault charge tried in a full court.

And the way the OP describes it, its clear that it was a lot longer as "he is about to be released" so it sounds like its been several months (one hopes its been a couple of years at least, but thats a vain hope).

And as for "we havent been told anything" wtf?!

YOu have been told everything you need to know. He has been convicted of sexual assault and sent to prison. Clearly you have no idea a) how rare it is that woman who have been sexually assaulted report their assault because.....b) how hard it is to get a man like this convicted (SPOILER....almost impossible.) and c) how few of that vanishingly small number of men get custodial sentances.

So this suggests that what he did was not only undisputable but also so serious that he warranted a significant custodial sentence.

So bearing all that in mind....educate yourself.

ETA that you do have some knowledge of this, which makes your comments worse. A sex offender is a sex offender. End of. And should be kept away from anyone who could be a potential victim if possible.

For all we know he was imprisoned for 30 days we haven't been told anything

No I can’t understand how the difference between imprisonment for SA or imprisonment for rape would impact your decision re contact with your children @youalright

unfathomable actually

Sweet Jesus
this is concerning
thankfully this thread demonstrates your stance is very very very much the minority

If op is still speaking to her father she is still seeing him as family and I would never blame anyone for that. Families and love is complicated. I know on here everyone cuts there Families off over every little thing (and no im not saying this is a little thing) but not everyone is like that. I don't think i could ever cut my children of no matter what they did. Parents not so sure as I've thankfully never been in that situation and hopefully never will be.