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Allowing college kids to deal with cold showers for 2 days

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Randicrawfordcoaching · 09/11/2025 21:31

A mom posted in a group that her college kids had to deal with cold showers for two days and she asked if she should go get her and bring her home. Mom lives an hour away. I made a post and said absolutely not! They are in college and can figure it out! Parents came out of the woodwork freaking out on me and said if they could help with something small like this, they absolutely would do it. I’m horrified that we coddle our college kids the way we do. AIBU🤷‍♀️😂

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CoralPombear · 10/11/2025 01:05

I wouldn’t be very impressed with two days of no hot water if I was paying for a property so wouldn’t expect my dc to put up with it either. The dc could come home or we could work out another solution but surely you’d always actively seek to help your child if you could?

HarrietSchulenberg · 10/11/2025 00:59

If this happened to my ds, who is currently at uni an hour or so away, he'd be welcome to get himself home for a shower but I wouldn't be going over there to collect him. I would probably advise him to use uni facilities in the gym or something in the meantime.

Wildflowers78 · 10/11/2025 00:52

I’m nearly 60 and I would absolutely drive to my mum’s house for a warm shower (and have done so before when our electricity was out!). Why needlessly suffer through a cold shower?

If this happened to DD at uni then I would have no issue in getting her a cheap hotel room for the night or gym pass so that she could access a hot shower. I don’t understand why some parents actively seek to make life difficult for their children… I wouldn’t take a cold shower so I wouldn’t expect my DD to.

Twistedfirestarters · 09/11/2025 21:38

It all sounds very dramatic though. The freaking out, you being horrified. Perhaps everyone just needs to chill out a bit. Maybe the parents should have a cold shower.

Twistedfirestarters · 09/11/2025 21:36

An hour away isn't very far is it? If my uni kids who are that far away had no hot water and wanted to come home to shower I wouldn't have a problem with it. Why would I?
When my daughter's radiator needed bleeding he popped over to show her how to do it.
I don't consider her to be coddled. She doesn't ask for help with stuff much at all.