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Am I just too sensitive?

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Nollyroa · 09/11/2025 16:37

Maybe I just feel the need for a rant, but want to know if other husbands do this:

Here's the scenario, we have been watching the tv, turned it off ready to start getting ready for bed.

We start having a ridiculous discussion about how a deer can hurt you if you hit it with a car/van. I said because I thought that there would be very little chance a deer could come through the windshield that the deer would be pushed away from the car. DH then took it upon himself to prove me wrong. He looked up statistics on his phone and I said “okay yeah right” and got up to move from the sofa. He then said “where are you going? Look there’s a video”

I was just immensely fucked off, and I said to him “why would you go to so much trouble to prove me wrong? To prove that your wife was in the wrong and show her a video to show her how wrong she was?” I said “okay fair enough” but that wasn’t enough, I had to be shown. I got my things together and went to bed, we have not spoke to each other since.

Am I in the wrong?

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Nollyroa · 09/11/2025 17:03

I suppose my "yeah okay right" answer was trying to stall the oncoming lecture from my husband (who knows everything obvs.) I was attempting to extricate myself and really not listen to him tell me again how wrong I was. At the beginning of the discussion it was a playful sort of "wonder what would happen" and it turned into what felt to me was my husband wanting to tell me and show me how wrong I was to his delight. I don't drive so have no experience of crashing into animals of any kind. It was late and I just wanted to go to bed!

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MargaretThursday · 09/11/2025 16:53

I take it you don't have many deer round you.

I don't think he was being UR. You were having a discussion and "okay, yeah right" doesn't actually sound like you believed him. It sounds like you dismissing the possibility with disbelief. So he was showing you a video of how it happens, which actually if I'd been having that conversation then I'd have been interested to see how the forces/momentum causes that.

Unfortunately I have no need to be shown.

ButtonMushrooms · 09/11/2025 16:50

I think you overreacted a bit OP. You were having a random discussion and he got quite into the topic, I think it was more about finding it interesting than having to prove you wrong.

Unless there's a back story we're not aware of?

ShesTheAlbatross · 09/11/2025 16:49

I think it’s hard to tell from your description of it.

Yes it can be annoying if people insist they have to pull up stats to prove a point. But maybe you were also being really insistent about being right as well. And maybe neither of you take being wrong that well.

MD2020and10LambertandButlerPlease · 09/11/2025 16:48

None of us were there to see what tone was used etc, but to me it sounds like he just wanted to show you how it happens, given that you didn't think it happened that way. Not about proving you wrong, but just showing you something you didn't know.

ArseholierThanThou · 09/11/2025 16:46

“okay yeah right” is a really dismissive way of agreeing he was right though. You said yourself you were having a ridiculous argument (any alcohol involved?).
Tbf, he knew he was right so wanted to show you, I can’t imagine giving any other response than ‘oh, wow. I didn’t have a clue, my mistake’ kind of answer to that really, rather than a grudging ‘okay, yeah right’….but then I can’t actually imagine arguing over this type of thing either.

MattCauthon · 09/11/2025 16:43

Seems a bit odd. I assume you wer both 100% certain you were right and neither of you were willing to listen to the other or concede any points? It does seem like an odd thing to get so dogmatic about, even if you were wrong (you were).

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