To be upset at this interaction in the shop

I would just tell your child to apologise when or if they bump into someone then go about my day not worrying. Im an overthinker but that would go over my head unless it was directly to me.

It's become worse it seems each year. I just have to imagine that many people are so very miserable with themselves, they only way they can cope is to take their self-hate out on others.

Kindness actually used to be a wanted attribute. I guess nasty has replaced it for some people. shrug

What was actually wrong with what was said though? A child bumping into someone without apologising is bad manners. She just said it out loud, but everyone thinks it

OP, be kind to yourself. This interaction shows far more about the other person than it does about your parenting skills. It’s really not worth giving a second thought.

Don’t be hard on yourself either, it’s not easy on your own.

All the best.

You aren't helping yourself by posting about it on a forum. That's just reinforcing the overthinking. Find something else to think about. Watch some telly. Read a book with your DD. Plan a fantasy holiday. Find a guided meditation to follow. Put on some music and dance. Etc. When you catch yourself overthinking, force your mind away by focusing on something else.

Lone parenting is hard. Have some compassion and stop doing this to yourself.

That's true! None starts with "I was in the M & S food hall when..."

I completely understand you were affronted OP, it's a weird comment to make, but I wonder if she was trying to explain (badly) to her DC what the "right" behaviour would be, for her DC's benefit in future, and didn't mean for you to hear? In the past (albeit when my children were very young, e.g. my 2yo now) when my kids have said things like "that boy just ran on the road/picked a flower/touched the glass", I might have said "oh that's naughty behaviour isn't it, we don't do that" - not loudly enough for them to hear obviously, but just to "teach" my child. I'm not actually judging that kid or the other parent etc. I grant you she worded it weirdly though if so.

Some of the responses here are pretty tone deaf considering you sound like you do struggle with anxiety and overthinking, OP. I would agree that you shouldn’t let it bother you now though. I think the comment made by the mum says more about her than it does about you. Young children are often clumsy. You know you’re doing the best you can. That’s all that matters ❤️

@Sunnie7 You're getting in your own way. Learn to not GAF what strangers think about you. And remember your daughter's watching you and learning. And please don't ask her to apologise to keep someone else happy when it's not warranted.

these responses are so caustic! And wouldn’t be said to your face, OP. I understand how that would bother you but I would just have faith that your daughter is being raised right and that mother was just a bit of “busy woman” eg loves a bit of confrontation. Don’t think about her - you won’t see her again. ❤️

I understand you are upset as you over think. I tend to do the same but after a few hours of over thinking I forget about it. I think your daughter accidentally bumped into a child and the mum should have just said to her child never mind it was an accident. Don't worry kids sometimes bump into others and don't realise or don't think to apologise. I work in a school and it is a common occurrence. So forget it now and enjoy your evening.

The other woman was a bit rude and thoughtless. The world is full of people like that. Don't take it to heart. You're probably a sensitive person, maybe overly so. Many other people are not. It shouldn't matter to you what random women in shops think about your daughter. She sounds great. Enjoy your years with her. She doesn't have to be perfect and neither do you.

But she doesn't know you at all OP. She doesn't have a clue how you parent or what your child is like. Equally, you could have said her child was a whiny tell tale by just listening in on their few seconds of conversation 🤷‍♀️ just because someone says it (or thinks it) doesn't mean it's true.
Shrug it off, it really means nothing. It's a stranger in a shop.

She sounds rude
So do quite a few of the people on this thread !
If no one did any overthinking, we would probably not have many threads on mn to read would we.

To be honest she sounds ridiculous‘obviously hasn’t been brought up properly’ is a ridiculous thing to say to a child. A simple ‘she should have said sorry’ or ‘maybe she didn’t notice’ would have sufficed. There’s a lot of people out there ready to take offence op!!

Yeah, this tbh.

I've noticed this too.
Forget about it OP. Why do you give a shit if she was "funny" with you for the rest of the shop? You don't know her from Adam. Her opinion means absolutely nothing to you. You'll probably never see her again. It was an incredibly minor event with small kids, not a fist fight.

I came for the comments section 🤭😂 and it didn’t disappoint

She grabbed a clown suit off a clothes rack and chased the OP round the shop, honking her nose.

Today someone made a rude gesture at me when I was waiting for someone to get out of a parking space. What did I do? I just get on with your day and forget about it.

Why bleat about it? Forget about it. It's a none issue.

What does being funny with you all the way around the shop look like?

What's with all the altercations in charity shops lately on here?!

What is your question or your am I being unreasonable?