For not letting my daughter dress like some clown from Eurovision?

My son is only 8 so I've not experienced this yet but my understanding is there are now all these 'aesthetics' and teens go quite hard into whichever one they like at the time. I was into nu metal when I was a teen so it was all inappropriately wide jeans, coloured hair, chunky jewelry, thankfully I left my eyebrows alone but I know many others in the more mainstream didn't :P We all have to find ourselves and learn by our mistakes.

If there is any indication she might head for art college post-GCSE she will fit right in, not be the exception! Honestly teens are just as much in their tribes as they ever were.

His song was a rather sweet one about wanting to live up to aspirations of toughness and masculinity but struggling in a tough world.

It's not exactly cultish.

My god. All this angst over teens doing what teens have done for time immemorial!

When I was a kid, me and my mates were all into punk pop and Tumblr girl aesthetics- teased hair, feather clip-ins and stripey tights with converse- massive eye make up. Some of our peers were goths, yes complete with the full make up. Others were prancing around with Jane Norman hand bags and businesswear pencil skirts. We all looked crackers. And that’s the absolute joy of your teens.

By my late teens I’d discovered Kate bush and Stevie nicks and was draping myself in as much fusty velvet and lace as I could find in an oxfam discount bin.

I still looked mad.

Now I’m typing this in my very ordinary mum-casual Hush wardrobe and wondering why we’re all so hell bent on removing any and all potential - often mildly- adverse experiences from our children’s lives, and sending creativity, self expression and resilience down the chute with them.

Fear not, OP- I’m living proof that even the most determined teen wannabes amongst us, end up in the tan cargo pants anyway….

Its true we need a bit more Bowie and Bolan these days in our lives.

lol I dunno… seems harmless but perhaps you should save her from herself.
Does it bother her that people may take pictures of her and post them online to laugh at her?

Sometimes with teens its best to let them make their own mistakes. If she wears daft white face paint and people take the piss out of her for it, she'll probably stop wearing it. The glam rock jester look is cute though, all power to her for wanting to go her own way and look a bit creative.

This is not an argument I'd have. I believe in letting my kids express themselves in any way that is not harmful.

It might be a case of letting her learn by her own fashion mistakes, although perfectly reasonable to make her spend her own money on it.

Well shes obviously a teen although there is a wide range for that

No OP if you have any control over it, which you might not, I wouldnt because she'll either use it to be and feel 'special' which I think is actually quite harmful for kids or others will pick on her and then she'll give herself a victim status because people arent 'accepting her as she is'.

Either way, I often think there is some grandiosity to doing things like that, fine for a night out or a party or a theme thing, but not for the everyday fashion. Doesnt mean she has to look like everyone else, I tend to look very different to others, but not so outlandish that its really diconnected.

It seems shes very passionate about eurovision and wanting to be like her favourite singers but I can see why you are concerned. Have you tried translating the Italian phrases? Could be swearing behind your back ha ha

All that typing and you left out her actual age?