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AIBU? For thinking we should leave our house immediately?

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Betty0009 · 09/11/2025 10:10

So me, my partner and our 2 kids (4&1) moved into a rented old cottage in March 2025. We knew it would be cold and damp but over the last couple of months the mould has gotten out of hand. We’ve just thrown out a whole wardrobe which had a thick film of green mould covering the whole thing. The exterior walls all have black mould growing. We clean it but it grows straight back. The kitchen cupboards stink of mould and food and appliances go mouldy in a few days. We have dehumidifiers, heating on all the time, use a tumble dryer and keep windows open. My baby has developed a cough which I’m worried is due to the mould. My partner thinks I’m stupid for wanting to stay somewhere else while we look for somewhere else to live… AIBU? (Picture is just one example of the mould)

AIBU? For thinking we should leave our house immediately?
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Missj25 · 10/11/2025 23:03

Betty0009 · 09/11/2025 10:10

So me, my partner and our 2 kids (4&1) moved into a rented old cottage in March 2025. We knew it would be cold and damp but over the last couple of months the mould has gotten out of hand. We’ve just thrown out a whole wardrobe which had a thick film of green mould covering the whole thing. The exterior walls all have black mould growing. We clean it but it grows straight back. The kitchen cupboards stink of mould and food and appliances go mouldy in a few days. We have dehumidifiers, heating on all the time, use a tumble dryer and keep windows open. My baby has developed a cough which I’m worried is due to the mould. My partner thinks I’m stupid for wanting to stay somewhere else while we look for somewhere else to live… AIBU? (Picture is just one example of the mould)

That’s exactly the reason your baby is sick ..
Mould spores are released into the air & very dangerous to health when inhaled ..
What age is your baby ? Can cause shortage of breath ..
Get out of there OP

Blinky21 · 10/11/2025 22:55

Awaab's law came in a couple of weeks ago, you should look it up

Waitingfordoggo · 10/11/2025 22:30

I’m so shocked that landlords are allowed to rent properties in this state. To charge money to live somewhere that is an uninhabitable health risk. I’m a landlord of a flat (an ‘accidental’ landlord) and I take maintenance very seriously. I wouldn’t dream of taking money off someone and then offering them a home that looked like that. @TeaAndTattoos Yours is absolutely shocking- I’m so sorry you have to live with that, and I hope you can find somewhere else to live as soon as possible, and are able to get the landlord to sort things out.

JoBrandsCleaner · 10/11/2025 22:29

Going by your title I thought this was going to be about ghosts, but this is worse than that. Yes I’d leave it’s disgusting, ruining all your things and your baby could be seriously ill.

EdithBond · 10/11/2025 22:24

Imjustwonderingnow · 10/11/2025 21:26

I say this (previous message ) as someone who rebts out a property (partner actually). We've lived in this house ourselves- never any issues. A couple moved in (after previous tenants ) and had massive issues - condensation up the walls all the time, drips from ceiling and some mould in corners behind large furniture . They called the council - council confirmed its how they 'live" in the property - we have all the necessary things like vents , bathroom extractors etc but they never opened windows and had the tumble dryer on 24/7. Needless to say they moved and we never had issues again with new tenants I'm not disputing what you say but do look how you live in the property as it could contribute. If you let fresh air in every day, heating on, not too much tumble drying etc then there must be external damp. Good luck !

You may be interested in the government’s damp and mould guidance for landlords:

Working with tenants
We are absolutely clear that it is totally unreasonable to blame damp and mould in the home on ‘lifestyle choices’. It is unavoidable that everyday tasks, such as cooking, bathing, washing and drying laundry will contribute to the production of indoor moisture. With this in mind, the fundamental cause of damp and mould will be due to building deficiencies, inadequate ventilation, inadequate heating and/or poor energy efficiency, not tenants’ normal domestic activities (see above ‘Understanding damp and mould’ under the section ‘Identifying and addressing damp and mould in your property’).

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/damp-and-mould-understanding-and-addressing-the-health-risks-for-rented-housing-providers/understanding-and-addressing-the-health-risks-of-damp-and-mould-in-the-home--2

@Betty0009 Contact your local council environmental health (housing standards) team. There are different types of mould, so they’ll need a sample. Mould is dangerous for babies. Your landlord is likely breaching the Landlord and Tenant Act 1985. So, if you can, suggest you stay elsewhere while your landlord gets it sorted.

Understanding and addressing the health risks of damp and mould in the home

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/damp-and-mould-understanding-and-addressing-the-health-risks-for-rented-housing-providers/understanding-and-addressing-the-health-risks-of-damp-and-mould-in-the-home--2

Laurmolonlabe · 10/11/2025 22:17

This happened to us when we were students- the black mould was thick black on the walls, we had no heating, my partner was diagnosed with asthma. I was offered a flat share with a relative- I really didn't want to- but I had to compromise, my partner would have finished up hospitalised if we had stayed.

PrincessofWells · 10/11/2025 22:00

Do you use heating and if so how regularly and what form of heating?
Is it a vented tumble dryer and do you have it vented?

Crazybigtoe · 10/11/2025 21:41

I'd look for something else. That can't be healthy to be living in a place with that much mold.

Start looking now and I'd do everything to make it a quick move. It's going to be really difficult to sort that quickly and I value my kids health over fussing about with the landlord

sandyrose · 10/11/2025 21:38

I wouldn’t stay another night there. Probably would also leave all furniture that can’t be thoroughly cleaned or washed, ie fabric headboards etc. It’s a huge health hazard

Newsenmum · 10/11/2025 21:26

Mysticmaud · 09/11/2025 10:46

I'd move as soon as possible.

I spent six days in hospital after renting a mouldy cottage. My daughter now has asthma.
There is a change in the law and mould has to be rectified by the landlord immediately.

Absolutely landlord needs to deal with this. Have you talked
to gp about cough?

Imjustwonderingnow · 10/11/2025 21:26

I say this (previous message ) as someone who rebts out a property (partner actually). We've lived in this house ourselves- never any issues. A couple moved in (after previous tenants ) and had massive issues - condensation up the walls all the time, drips from ceiling and some mould in corners behind large furniture . They called the council - council confirmed its how they 'live" in the property - we have all the necessary things like vents , bathroom extractors etc but they never opened windows and had the tumble dryer on 24/7. Needless to say they moved and we never had issues again with new tenants I'm not disputing what you say but do look how you live in the property as it could contribute. If you let fresh air in every day, heating on, not too much tumble drying etc then there must be external damp. Good luck !

LookingforMaryPoppins · 10/11/2025 21:21

Leave, this is a health risk.
Your baby coughing is a concern.

Imjustwonderingnow · 10/11/2025 21:20

Betty0009 · 09/11/2025 10:10

So me, my partner and our 2 kids (4&1) moved into a rented old cottage in March 2025. We knew it would be cold and damp but over the last couple of months the mould has gotten out of hand. We’ve just thrown out a whole wardrobe which had a thick film of green mould covering the whole thing. The exterior walls all have black mould growing. We clean it but it grows straight back. The kitchen cupboards stink of mould and food and appliances go mouldy in a few days. We have dehumidifiers, heating on all the time, use a tumble dryer and keep windows open. My baby has developed a cough which I’m worried is due to the mould. My partner thinks I’m stupid for wanting to stay somewhere else while we look for somewhere else to live… AIBU? (Picture is just one example of the mould)

OP when you say you use tumble dryer is it a condenser? Do you open windows ? Some people use tumble dryers and never open windows so condensation is a massive issue and contributes to mould especially in winter. Has the property got vents ?

lifeonmars100 · 10/11/2025 21:19

Coffeeblanketandabookplz · 10/11/2025 20:06

Im betting money the landlord already knows

And they won't give a damm. If the OP and her family move out (and I hope they do) the landlord will just rent it out to someone else as all they care about is making money. There are loads of BTL properties in my area and many are in a deplorable state. Due to the housing crisis, landlords are getting away with a lot because people are desperate for somewhere to live.

beAsensible1 · 10/11/2025 21:09

councils have protocols for all properties check your local website asap. is there someone who you can stay with for a bit with the baby at least?

fishtank12345 · 10/11/2025 21:06

If land lord wont do mold removal leave as soon as possible. Happened to us, we found mold, green like you say on wardrobes and on stuff inside it. Was never reimbursed for any of the loss of belongings. Under the mattress on the bed and the bed was not that old. Awful. I was pregnant in the house too but moved when the baby was 11 months old. Had moved in 1 month before covid lock downs started, obviously had no idea it was moldy in the back bedroom and kitchen.

101Nutella · 10/11/2025 21:02

YANBU - I’d move out straight away.
there are guidelines which highlight why your young child is at risk e.g.

www.gov.uk/government/publications/damp-and-mould-understanding-and-addressing-the-health-risks-for-rented-housing-providers/understanding-and-addressing-the-health-risks-of-damp-and-mould-in-the-home--2

SuperBlondie28 · 10/11/2025 21:00

Betty0009 · 09/11/2025 10:10

So me, my partner and our 2 kids (4&1) moved into a rented old cottage in March 2025. We knew it would be cold and damp but over the last couple of months the mould has gotten out of hand. We’ve just thrown out a whole wardrobe which had a thick film of green mould covering the whole thing. The exterior walls all have black mould growing. We clean it but it grows straight back. The kitchen cupboards stink of mould and food and appliances go mouldy in a few days. We have dehumidifiers, heating on all the time, use a tumble dryer and keep windows open. My baby has developed a cough which I’m worried is due to the mould. My partner thinks I’m stupid for wanting to stay somewhere else while we look for somewhere else to live… AIBU? (Picture is just one example of the mould)

Thats bad. I have this in the corner of my bathroom. We had ivy from next door growing up the external wall and have removed it. Also we had our washing bin with wet towels in, in this corner. We've stopped that and the mould hasn't gone, but hasn't got worse. I think its in the paint personally. I wipe it down with white vinegar. I can't tolerate bleach smell. We do have heating on. Open window a lot. Run a dehumidifier in there sometimes in winter. But also we live in an old house. Doesn't matter if you own or rent a place, mould can still grow if right circumstances occur.

DevilsAdvocate101 · 10/11/2025 20:44

Mould is very risky for young children. Please leave OP and take your kids.

ICoriander · 10/11/2025 20:38

You’re wasting your money if you’re running a dehumidifier with windows open: you either have windows open (ideally on both sides of house so air can flow through) with heating on, or you have windows closed with dehumidifier running.

Supperlite · 10/11/2025 20:37

Absolutely leave ASAP. DH and I lived in a house with mould and it made us both poorly, in particular it ravaged my husband’s lungs. He had to have a steroid inhaler and all sorts. Children must not be exposed to mould, it’s so damaging.

DontbesorrybeGiles · 10/11/2025 20:28

I’m with the others - leave ASAP. I lived in a rental property which was full of black mould. It wasn’t long before I developed pneumonia, and I was a fit and healthy 26 year old.

Ahfiddlesticks · 10/11/2025 20:27

Olivetawny · 09/11/2025 11:18

Mould is not inevitable in a damp house.

Exactly. We live in an old Victorian terrace that is really quite damp and we don't have mould.

Is the house rendered? I think it's probably been re-rendered at some point with the incorrect render so it's not longer able to breathe.

Mayana1 · 10/11/2025 20:22

Betty0009 · 09/11/2025 10:10

So me, my partner and our 2 kids (4&1) moved into a rented old cottage in March 2025. We knew it would be cold and damp but over the last couple of months the mould has gotten out of hand. We’ve just thrown out a whole wardrobe which had a thick film of green mould covering the whole thing. The exterior walls all have black mould growing. We clean it but it grows straight back. The kitchen cupboards stink of mould and food and appliances go mouldy in a few days. We have dehumidifiers, heating on all the time, use a tumble dryer and keep windows open. My baby has developed a cough which I’m worried is due to the mould. My partner thinks I’m stupid for wanting to stay somewhere else while we look for somewhere else to live… AIBU? (Picture is just one example of the mould)

Yes, leave!

AntikytheraMech · 10/11/2025 20:15

My dp & I bought a house in 2007 and the humidity was regularly 90 to 100%.
Ran 5 dehumidifiers 24 x 7 and would get probably four litres a day from each one.
It was only after several years that we realized that the sides of the property had been supplemented with cement pathways which meant the DPC (damp proof course) was only one course of bricks above the path so any rain would splash onto the bricks.

To make it worse, property built in about 1920, one summer it was incredibly hot and my DP decided to try and cool the house down with a hose pipe on the walls. The bricks were so porous, none of the water from the hose pipe actually hit the ground but just got soaked into the porous bricks.
Subsequently found out that in some old properties each brick can absorb one pint of water and if it's got solid walls without a cavity it's going to work its way in.
Glad to have got rid of it.
And the Lime plaster is definitely a thing as opposed to cement or impermeable painting on the external walls.
The best dehumidifier type for a place that is below 20 degrees is a desiccant type as they work down to five degrees centigrade and the compressor pump ones work well above 18 degrees.
Good luck x