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Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 09/11/2025 09:05

I am becoming increasingly frustrated with the way our country is run. I love my country, but what on earth can I do to fix it? the Rachel reeves pension and stamp duty rumours have tipped me over the edge.

I believe 90% of our lives is the summation of our own choices. Bar (some of) our own (and families) health and tragic life events, there is very little we can’t choose in this country.

I’m not saying that the playing field is fair - I absolutely acknowledge that some groups face structural barriers that make good choices harder. Others are unaware those choices even exist. That’s where government should step in—not to equalise outcomes, but to equalise access to meaningful choice.

I think we all acknowledge that bad governments are ones that take away choices. This government, however is also taking away choice by incentivising bad choices. Policies should nudge people toward self-sufficiency, not make state reliance easier than self-reliance, or rewarding short-term decisions over long-term

Our Government should be working towards equitable availability of choice (not equal - see below) to make sure those choices are as easy and available to everyone. Policies should be in place to make sure people are encouraged to make the right choices.

I increasingly feel like I make the right choices and think what was the bloody point!

I’m going to wish I never paid into my pension soon and went on holiday instead! Should I just spend my money, move into a smaller house and quit my job. At this point I think I’d be better off.

Jargon Buster - EQUALITY - It’s assumed there is a level playing field and everyone gets the same resources. EQUITY - Everyone gets what they need to succeed, which may mean different levels of support.

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Rrfdssf · 09/11/2025 17:26

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 09/11/2025 17:24

Why don’t you think we should be making good choices bar health/ catastrophic events. By choices I mean like paying into a pension and building financial resilience. Or when younger trying hard in school, finding a profession and not getting pregnant before we we afford them.

I started from an easier position than many with a supportive family. BUT my point is that the government should be getting everyone to the same starting point. When I think of a labour government and a conservative one actually, they should be removing social economic barriers.

This is what I believe in as well

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 09/11/2025 17:24

Lougle · 09/11/2025 17:19

No, privileged for thinking that they have made good choices and that it's that which has landed them where they are. Privileged for being able to say that bar essentially any catastrophic event, we should all be climbing to a better place.

Of course you think that if you are one of the people who is not in that category.

Why don’t you think we should be making good choices bar health/ catastrophic events. By choices I mean like paying into a pension and building financial resilience. Or when younger trying hard in school, finding a profession and not getting pregnant before we we afford them.

I started from an easier position than many with a supportive family. BUT my point is that the government should be getting everyone to the same starting point. When I think of a labour government and a conservative one actually, they should be removing social economic barriers.

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bottledboot · 09/11/2025 17:23

So are we now classing train drivers, police officers and teachers as ‘middle class’? 😳

I thought teachers & police were classed as middle class occupations?

DiscoBob · 09/11/2025 17:23

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 09/11/2025 16:25

Bless you, that sounds hard.

In the same vein as your reply, I didn't choose to be adopted, born to heroin addicts, have a head injury and post concussion syndrome before being injured by psychotropic drugs and then have a movement disorder... I think it's all about the circumstances of someone's life but equally the way they respond to life events and the hand they have been given.

Sometimes those circumstances are easiest to get through than others, and of course, everyone is different so will react differently.

Life isn't as black and white as some people say. I do think that some people actively choose to live with a lower standard than they could, and it isnt beyond them to improve things. They sometimes just choose not to.

Thank you. And I'm sorry about the challenges you've had to face. You are right though in the fact we mustn't let ourselves be passengers in our own lives. We must try and have the strength to make decisions that will improve our lives in the long run. Life can be very cruel and hard for many people though sadly.

Lougle · 09/11/2025 17:19

Julen7 · 09/11/2025 17:14

Privileged for having a house and a job?

No, privileged for thinking that they have made good choices and that it's that which has landed them where they are. Privileged for being able to say that bar essentially any catastrophic event, we should all be climbing to a better place.

Of course you think that if you are one of the people who is not in that category.

BionicWomansAnkle · 09/11/2025 17:19

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/11/2025 17:12

Oh yes ‘privilege’. That has t been used enough in this Race to the Bottom thread.

If you swap the word privilege for achievement in every Labour supporter’s post, it summarises their core ideology and why it has had a detrimental affect on the U.K. in such a short space of time.

EasternStandard · 09/11/2025 17:15

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/11/2025 17:10

So are we now classing train drivers, police officers and teachers as ‘middle class’? 😳

Idk Labour seems to think they can lump them outside the working people line.

It’s not going to work at all. How can an MP answer the question is a teacher / police / train driver a working person and not say yes?

They’ll have to say yes and break the manifesto

Julen7 · 09/11/2025 17:14

Lougle · 09/11/2025 17:11

Oh the muddled voice of privilege.

Privileged for having a house and a job?

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/11/2025 17:12

Lougle · 09/11/2025 17:11

Oh the muddled voice of privilege.

Oh yes ‘privilege’. That has t been used enough in this Race to the Bottom thread.

Lougle · 09/11/2025 17:11

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 09/11/2025 09:05

I am becoming increasingly frustrated with the way our country is run. I love my country, but what on earth can I do to fix it? the Rachel reeves pension and stamp duty rumours have tipped me over the edge.

I believe 90% of our lives is the summation of our own choices. Bar (some of) our own (and families) health and tragic life events, there is very little we can’t choose in this country.

I’m not saying that the playing field is fair - I absolutely acknowledge that some groups face structural barriers that make good choices harder. Others are unaware those choices even exist. That’s where government should step in—not to equalise outcomes, but to equalise access to meaningful choice.

I think we all acknowledge that bad governments are ones that take away choices. This government, however is also taking away choice by incentivising bad choices. Policies should nudge people toward self-sufficiency, not make state reliance easier than self-reliance, or rewarding short-term decisions over long-term

Our Government should be working towards equitable availability of choice (not equal - see below) to make sure those choices are as easy and available to everyone. Policies should be in place to make sure people are encouraged to make the right choices.

I increasingly feel like I make the right choices and think what was the bloody point!

I’m going to wish I never paid into my pension soon and went on holiday instead! Should I just spend my money, move into a smaller house and quit my job. At this point I think I’d be better off.

Jargon Buster - EQUALITY - It’s assumed there is a level playing field and everyone gets the same resources. EQUITY - Everyone gets what they need to succeed, which may mean different levels of support.

Oh the muddled voice of privilege.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/11/2025 17:10

So are we now classing train drivers, police officers and teachers as ‘middle class’? 😳

Rrfdssf · 09/11/2025 17:10

Why don't they just do the wealth tax as everyone seems to want it?

EasternStandard · 09/11/2025 16:59

bottledboot · 09/11/2025 16:56

If Labour hit people over £45 or £50k it’s been determined that a whole raft of teachers, train drivers etc are in that group

@EasternStandard my point was they have already been hit by fiscal drag

Yes but they’re still broadly pro Labour. Actually being in the group defined as not working will be very hard for Labour MPs to defend.

bottledboot · 09/11/2025 16:56

If Labour hit people over £45 or £50k it’s been determined that a whole raft of teachers, train drivers etc are in that group

@EasternStandard my point was they have already been hit by fiscal drag

ThatCyanCat · 09/11/2025 16:49

JustSawJohnny · 09/11/2025 16:46

People can be as pissed off as they like but if they're going to be lazy and not look into what Reform actually stand for and what policies they back and want to implement then they are being idiots, IMO.

Reform are NOT for the working people of this country.
They are NOT for workers rights.
They are NOT for women's rights.
They will CUT funding to the NHS, education, mental health and child services.
They want to REDUCE buyers rights, food standards and drug standards.
They are FOR tax breaks for the rich.
They are FOR privatisation of the NHS.

NONE of this improves life for me or the majority of the country.

AND they can't stop the bloody boats!

It's all lies and propaganda.

The bastards are Tories on acid and they're using the Trump playbook to rile up the lower classes to vote for their own demise.

I agree, but when they look like the best option to many people, it's a sign of how out of touch the opposing parties are.

Damnthetorpedoes · 09/11/2025 16:49

JustSawJohnny · 09/11/2025 16:46

People can be as pissed off as they like but if they're going to be lazy and not look into what Reform actually stand for and what policies they back and want to implement then they are being idiots, IMO.

Reform are NOT for the working people of this country.
They are NOT for workers rights.
They are NOT for women's rights.
They will CUT funding to the NHS, education, mental health and child services.
They want to REDUCE buyers rights, food standards and drug standards.
They are FOR tax breaks for the rich.
They are FOR privatisation of the NHS.

NONE of this improves life for me or the majority of the country.

AND they can't stop the bloody boats!

It's all lies and propaganda.

The bastards are Tories on acid and they're using the Trump playbook to rile up the lower classes to vote for their own demise.

Why the obsession with Reform - they are at least three years away.

If you want lies, look at this government - it was/is all bullshit.

HelenaWaiting · 09/11/2025 16:48

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 09/11/2025 13:42

Pardon? Doesn’t that fall into the health category that isn’t a choice?

And wouldn’t you prefer a government that supports him to be able to have choices?

I confess that I am a little bit baffled. You keep talking about choices but with no clarity as to what these choices might be or how the government could offer them. I'm also puzzled that this only bothers you now, but doesn't seem to have bothered you in the past. If you genuinely believe that a Tory government offers people more of these "choices" I fear for your sanity. I strongly suspect that the choices you refer to are confined to the middle class and above - those below that line having already chosen to be poor, ill or both.

You also seem confused about the nature of PIP. It is not an out-of-work benefit, nor is it means-tested. Many of us can and do work, using our PIP to run mobility vehicles, or engage paid help. These are the choices having PIP offers us. It therefore stands to reason that the removal of PIP, ostensibly for the purpose of allowing us the "choice" of being independent (for which read unemployed and starving) would have the opposite effect, propelling us out of work and onto Universal Credit. I'm not going to pretend that those who advocate this so-called reform don't know this. The truth is, disabled people who work are mightily inconvenient to the welfare reform lobby. We just don't fit the mould, really. We are, in many cases, far more productive in relative terms than our able-bodied counterparts. We pay tax and NI, we own our own homes, and we are forced by complex medical conditions to take proper care of ourselves. So we are not mentioned at all. Far easier to pretend we don't exist, rather than admit that the proposed reforms to PIP would be a massively counter-intuitive act of abuse. If you really want to see equity in action, look at a PIP recipient. And then hang your head in shame at being the citizen of a country that wants to remove the only thing that has given us anything approaching equality of opportunity.

EasternStandard · 09/11/2025 16:48

JustSawJohnny · 09/11/2025 16:46

People can be as pissed off as they like but if they're going to be lazy and not look into what Reform actually stand for and what policies they back and want to implement then they are being idiots, IMO.

Reform are NOT for the working people of this country.
They are NOT for workers rights.
They are NOT for women's rights.
They will CUT funding to the NHS, education, mental health and child services.
They want to REDUCE buyers rights, food standards and drug standards.
They are FOR tax breaks for the rich.
They are FOR privatisation of the NHS.

NONE of this improves life for me or the majority of the country.

AND they can't stop the bloody boats!

It's all lies and propaganda.

The bastards are Tories on acid and they're using the Trump playbook to rile up the lower classes to vote for their own demise.

I mean yeh I’m fine if people want to focus on Reform as you are

Idk what will happen but I think Labour will struggle next GE

JustSawJohnny · 09/11/2025 16:46

EasternStandard · 09/11/2025 16:19

I don’t think they do get a free pass, that’s why Reform are doing well. People are pissed off with Labour but still angry about Boris and co.

We likely need to be realistic about what is affordable, not sure the electorate will go for that though.

People can be as pissed off as they like but if they're going to be lazy and not look into what Reform actually stand for and what policies they back and want to implement then they are being idiots, IMO.

Reform are NOT for the working people of this country.
They are NOT for workers rights.
They are NOT for women's rights.
They will CUT funding to the NHS, education, mental health and child services.
They want to REDUCE buyers rights, food standards and drug standards.
They are FOR tax breaks for the rich.
They are FOR privatisation of the NHS.

NONE of this improves life for me or the majority of the country.

AND they can't stop the bloody boats!

It's all lies and propaganda.

The bastards are Tories on acid and they're using the Trump playbook to rile up the lower classes to vote for their own demise.

Damnthetorpedoes · 09/11/2025 16:41

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/11/2025 16:34

I don’t want anyone punished but I do want work incentivised and this government is certainly not doing that.

Correct.

The covenant between government and tax payer has been broken.

The perception (and increasing reality) is that work does not pay because tax is becoming punitive (read redistributive).

The government is a parasite to the tax payers host, and the host has simply had enough.

BringBackCatsEyes · 09/11/2025 16:39

That is not to say there aren’t people living in squalid places and children living in poverty.

30% of children are living in poverty.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/11/2025 16:34

I don’t want anyone punished but I do want work incentivised and this government is certainly not doing that.

Kirbert2 · 09/11/2025 16:29

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/11/2025 16:26

I think actual people talking about their community are just the people to believe over politicians and activists. That is not to say there aren’t people living in squalid places and children living in poverty. How people choose to spend their benefits is a whole other discussion. We all know that there are those who spend their money with their children in mind and those who prioritise addiction and dysfunction.

Oh, absolutely. I'm just not sure that essentially punishing the majority who spend their benefits sensibility is the answer or that it would actually save money to implement new systems such as vouchers etc.

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 09/11/2025 16:29

LizzieW1969 · 09/11/2025 13:05

For a lot of people, their lives are result of other people’s bad choices. My DD1 (16) almost certainly has FASD as a result of her birth mum drinking through her pregnancy. It also wasn’t her or DD2’s (13) choice to be taken away from her birth parents at birth and adopted into another family.

Obviously, it doesn’t mean their own choices aren’t important, but there’s no denying that DD1 in particular hasn’t been severely damaged by her birth mum’s drinking.

I'm so sorry, that's really sad. My life is definitely something that was a result of my drug addict parents' choices. Luckily my birth mum made the right choice when I was adopted.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/11/2025 16:26

Kirbert2 · 09/11/2025 16:21

But it isn't lazy to generalise based on a few people you know?

I think actual people talking about their community are just the people to believe over politicians and activists. That is not to say there aren’t people living in squalid places and children living in poverty. How people choose to spend their benefits is a whole other discussion. We all know that there are those who spend their money with their children in mind and those who prioritise addiction and dysfunction.